Wife really wants me to go to Paris next month to visit her sister and brother and law, I have no desire to go.
My wife really wants me to come with her to Paris to visit her sister, her sisters husband for a few days and then all go to Nies, France for vacation. A 9 day trip total.
We have been to many countries together and travel quite a bit. Her desire for travel is a lot stronger than mine (which we are both aware of) and the older I get the less I have a burning desire to go on long trips (I’m 38). In March, we were in Colombia and in April we were on an eight day cruise at 5 islands. It’s now summer in Michigan and I don’t have any desire to travel for quite some time. I love the summers here and have plenty of things to keep me occupied and look forward to without leaving the state. I know this is important to her, but just thinking of getting on a plane, dealing with customs/immigration and doing the eight hour redeye overnight sounds awful to me and quite stressful. It’s not as much about the cost as we are pretty fortunate, but that’s a deterrent too. I looked at prices and for economy are double to triple what they usually are.
Should I say I’m not going? I feel like going is just to fulfill her desires of me seeing France with her and completely ignoring my mental peace. She has been there multiple times but wants me to go. My anxiety has been a bit uncontrolled lately and I have been working through it the best I can with therapy etc.
What should I do? Thank you very much in advance!