u/bunsolvd

For the past half year or so my life has been on a complete down spiral. I won’t get into it all but, imagine the most devastating things that could happen to a person just before accidents & death. Lots of bad luck and things I cannot control, losing a lot of people, poor luck with things like work, hobbies and romance to the extreme etc. I feel very stuck and at rock bottom (not literally, but I’ve been very devastated emotionally as of late). Had some minor wins throughout the year and I thankfully still have lots of people who love me, but generally life has just not been good as of late.

Recently, it’s been 3 sets of angel numbers- 333, 420 and 222. I know the second number is funny but I am not joking lol. Every time I check the time, during the day and late at night- 3:33, 4:20, 2:22, same on microwaves, follower/like/comment counts on social media, sequences of 333/222 items splayed out so obviously it’s comical. Sources from Google search aren’t helping me understand much so I wanted to see if there was maybe another perspective I could hold to this in regards of how these should be interpreted while all of this is happening. Thanks!

Hi all, this post was removed by the perimenopause mods, so I’m crossposting it here. I hope this is the right place to be asking this.

My mom is in her mid-late 40s and for the past few years (I’d say at least since I graduated high school, so ~ 3 years now) she has just kind of grown increasingly erratic, easy to “senseless” (in quotations because I don’t want to invalidate her feelings) rage, passively suicidal and apathetic towards life which, in turn, makes her even angrier when she has these episodes. I do believe my mom genuinely loves me, and I do not doubt this. I have come to understand how much perimenopause affects us when it happens and wholly empathize with her mental and emotional state, but I’m also extremely worried right now.

My mom had an episode of extreme, “senseless” anger at me again last night (pretty much out of nowhere) erratically shouting and yelling strange insults at me, which I’m used to and don’t really mind at this point because I know she is genuinely going through a lot mentally. I’m trying to do what I can to support her, but my dad sat me down after she settled down to talk to me about her emotional/cognitive state. My mom talks a lot, like a concerning amount about hating her life, being depressed and suicidal, feeling worthless, etc. She brings up offing herself quite a bit already even without perimenopause brain, and it’s only gotten worse since this all started. I understand she definitely already had underlying issues prior to this, but perimenopause has severely amplified it and I am so scared I’m not going to be able to help her until it’s too late. I don’t think she’s a danger to herself or anything, but this isn’t any way for a near middle aged woman to live, you know?? :(

Please believe me when I say I love my mom. She is my mommy forever. But she’s becoming someone I sincerely do not recognize and really really need to get her help. How do I even begin to introduce the concept of therapy for perimenopause to her? The most she’s been to is one session of marriage counseling a few years back and I don’t know how that went. She’s definitely more receptive to the idea than most immigrant parents are, but I don’t know how to bring it up without making her feel like I think she’s crazy. (Or, alternatively, is this a problem that should be addressed with a doctor instead of a therapist???)

I don’t know where to start. I don’t know what to do. I’m reading all these resources and they all tell me different things. I want to help my mom and save her. I just want my mom back. Please, please, any sort of advice, any sort of guidance, I need it to help my mom. I really appreciate it, and thank you in advance, I’m sorry this is such a long post.

Please let me know if the flair is being incorrectly used as this post is not support for myself, but for my mother. If there’s a better sub for this, please redirect me to it so I can post there, my intention is not to flood or infiltrate a community not meant for me. Thank you.

My mom is in her mid-late 40s and for the past few years (I’d say at least since I graduated high school, so ~ 3 years now) she has just kind of grown increasingly erratic, easy to “senseless” (in quotations because I don’t want to invalidate her feelings) rage, passively suicidal and apathetic towards life which, in turn, makes her even angrier when she has these episodes. I do believe my mom genuinely loves me, and I do not doubt this. I have come to understand how much perimenopause affects us when it happens and wholly empathize with her mental and emotional state, but I’m also extremely worried right now.

My mom had an episode of extreme, “senseless” anger at me again last night (pretty much out of nowhere) erratically shouting and yelling strange insults at me, which I’m used to and don’t really mind at this point because I know she is genuinely going through a lot mentally. I’m trying to do what I can to support her, but my dad sat me down after she settled down to talk to me about her emotional/cognitive state. My mom talks a lot, like a concerning amount about hating her life, being depressed and suicidal, feeling worthless, etc. She brings up offing herself quite a bit already even without perimenopause brain, and it’s only gotten worse since this all started. I understand she definitely already had underlying issues prior to this, but perimenopause has severely amplified it and I am so scared I’m not going to be able to help her until it’s too late. I don’t think she’s a danger to herself or anything, but this isn’t any way for a near middle aged woman to live, you know?? :(

Please believe me when I say I love my mom. She is my mommy forever. But she’s becoming someone I sincerely do not recognize and really really ***need*** to get her help. How do I even begin to introduce the concept of therapy for perimenopause to her? The most she’s been to is one session of marriage counseling a few years back and I don’t know how that went. She’s definitely more receptive to the idea than most immigrant parents are, but I don’t know how to bring it up without making her feel like I think she’s crazy. (Or, alternatively, is this a problem that should be addressed with a doctor instead of a therapist???)

I don’t know where to start. I don’t know what to do. I’m reading all these resources and they all tell me different things. I want to help my mom and save her. I just want my mom back. Please, please, any sort of advice, any sort of guidance, I need it to help my mom. I really appreciate it, and thank you in advance, I’m sorry this is such a long post.

My client is late elementary school age and very articulate. They have a pretty expansive vocabulary for their age and express themselves clearly a lot of the time, and don’t seem to have a tendency to lie or exaggerate things. Just an all around polite, well behaved and honest kid.

Before session, they overheard a conversation between their father and I had before her session started where he disclosed to me that he believes my client is more inclined to listen to him than their mother. He said he thinks it’s because my client’s mother shouts a lot and is a lot harsher than him as a parent (which I’ve observed; FYI these are in-home sessions). My client eventually spoke up and said that that is, in fact, the reason why they prefer their dad to their mom.

On our way to their room, my client proceeded to unload a lot of details about it the way their mother treats them when I’m not present. They told me that last week, their mother smacked them for dropping a blueberry and throwing it away instead of washing and eating it or putting it back. They told me that she yelled at them “for a really long time, really loud” after she smacked them.

My client has vented to me about how mean their parents are before (and my BCBA and I are doing our best to get through to them about the way they treat their child, because they are IMO just not great people and shouldn’t be parents at all), but this is the first time I’m hearing about any physical abuse or violence from them.

Should I ask my client for more details about the incident, ask my BCBA to handle it or do something else to handle this appropriately & in a way that won’t endanger them? I wouldn’t feel right just waiting until this happens again, but I feel like diving headfirst into it could also put them in danger for “telling on them.”

I went through something similar as a child and my counselors/therapists always reported it to my parents when I told them, which would make the cycle continue with no way out till I was an adult. I’d rather not perpetuate that, as much as I want to go up to that lady and completely chew her out for putting her hands on her kid over something so stupid. Any advice is appreciated, sorry this ended up being so long.