u/butterflygarden-12

Should I commit to being his GF if he asks me to?

Hi so I (24f) met this guy (26m) two weeks ago and he is leaving for his deployment (it’s a six-nine month deployment out of the country which means he can’t come home) in a few days. In that time we have had one date, two phone calls, and we text constantly to get to know each other.

I am seeing him for the last time this week and I don’t know how we are going to leave things. I feel like he may ask to go exclusive in which case I am unsure. This is only my second relationship if he asks me to be his gf.

Should I accept if he asks? I personally see no way of it working it out as we barely know each other and also deployments are hard I have heard. He is not great at phone calling and while I do feel the connection and spark I don’t think it would be in my best interest to fall in love with someone over the phone that I barely know… I get attached really easily and know I would be miserable if I let myself fall in completely.

What I would like is to get to know him better and possibly go exclusive maybe later into his deployment or when he gets back but I’m afraid if I say that he may see it as I wanna date around while he’s gone. I am not planning to but I also don’t want to be tied down by someone I barely know cause it’s only in his best interest to have a gf waiting at home. I don’t think he would think of it this way but I also have no way of knowing. I really really really like this guy already and feel like there is a good chance of it working out long term… how do I tell him how I feel? Or should I just commit if he asks?

Also how would I explain that I want to see effort if he really is interested? It’s so early I can’t exactly nail him to call me at xyz time but I mean I wouldn’t mind if he sent flowers while he was gone or wrote a letter or did something nice. I want to feel like he is thinking about me if he really was interested in pursuing.

Does anyone think it’s worth it to commit to being his gf and why?

Hi so I (24f) met this guy (26m) two weeks ago and he is leaving for his deployment (it’s a six-nine month deployment out of the country) in a few days. In that time we have had one date, two phone calls, and we text constantly to get to know each other.

I am seeing him for the last time this week and I don’t know how we are going to leave things. I feel like he may ask to go exclusive in which case I am unsure. This is only my second relationship if he asks me to be his gf.

Should I accept if he asks? I personally see no way of it working it out as we barely know each other and also deployments are hard I have heard. He is not great at phone calling and while I do feel the connection and spark I don’t think it would be in my best interest to fall in love with someone over the phone that I barely know… I get attached really easily and know I would be miserable if I let myself fall in completely.

What I would like is to get to know him better and possibly go exclusive maybe later into his deployment or when he gets back but I’m afraid if I say that he may see it as I wanna date around while he’s gone. I am not planning to but I also don’t want to be tied down by someone I barely know cause it’s only in his best interest to have a gf waiting at home. I don’t think he would think of it this way but I also have no way of knowing. I really really really like this guy already and feel like there is a good chance of it working out long term… how do I tell him how I feel? Or should I just commit if he asks?

Also how would I explain that I want to see effort if he really is interested? It’s so early I can’t exactly nail him to call me at xyz time but I mean I wouldn’t mind if he sent flowers while he was gone or wrote a letter or did something nice. I want to feel like he is thinking about me if he really was interested in pursuing.

Also- does anyone think it’s a good idea to just take the leap and go exclusive and why?

Hi so I (24f) met this guy (26m) two weeks ago and he is leaving for his deployment (it’s a six-nine month deployment out of the country) in a few days. In that time we have had one date, two phone calls, and we text constantly to get to know each other.

I am seeing him for the last time this week and I don’t know how we are going to leave things. I feel like he may ask to go exclusive in which case I am unsure. This is only my second relationship if he asks me to be his gf.

Should I accept if he asks? I personally see no way of it working it out as we barely know each other and also deployments are hard I have heard. He is not great at phone calling and while I do feel the connection and spark I don’t think it would be in my best interest to fall in love with someone over the phone that I barely know… I get attached really easily and know I would be miserable if I let myself fall in completely.

What I would like is to get to know him better and possibly go exclusive maybe later into his deployment or when he gets back but I’m afraid if I say that he may see it as I wanna date around while he’s gone. I am not planning to but I also don’t want to be tied down by someone I barely know cause it’s only in his best interest to have a gf waiting at home. I don’t think he would think of it this way but I also have no way of knowing. I really really really like this guy already and feel like there is a good chance of it working out long term… how do I tell him how I feel? Or should I just commit if he asks?

Also how would I explain that I want to see effort if he really is interested? It’s so early I can’t exactly nail him to call me at xyz time but I mean I wouldn’t mind if he sent flowers while he was gone or wrote a letter or did something nice. I want to feel like he is thinking about me if he really was interested in pursuing.

Does anyone think it’s even worth committing to being exclusive gf/bf before he leaves?