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My boyfriend (20) and I (19) are both in our first relationship, and we've been long distance the entire time. We had struggled with him pulling away, leaving me on read, and inconsistent communication. Two weeks ago, he stopped replying altogether, which was my biggest fear that he'd ghost me to end the relationship.

I'm want to manifest him back, but I'm terrified because I've never successfully manifested an SP before. My last SP ended up getting back with his ex after talking to me for a week, and I had spent five months doing self-concept work, affirming, visualizing, and persisting while having to watch them together every day at university. His girlfriend and her friends even made fun of me, saying I wasn't that pretty and so on and so forth. Eventually I had to give up for my own mental health.

Now with my current boyfriend, it's been two weeks of radio silence and him leaving me on read, long texts and voice messages of me asking him to talk to me. Its clear I'm upset he ghosted me to end things and he just doesn't seem to care. I'm crying every day, affirming as much as I can but I'm scared to repeat that entire painful experience with my first sp. Holding on for months while the 3D gets worse, never fully moving on from him because I'm persisting in the 4D, only to end up heartbroken again.

I don't want to lose my boyfriend. More than anything, I want him to come back, and for him to genuinely regret ghosting me, apologize, and prove through his actions that this will never happen again. But I'm exhausted, and after my previous experience, I feel like I need certainty before I can keep going.

If anyone would be willing to provide a little guidance and advice, someone who had gone through something similar and came out on the other side with their sp? I'd really appreciate knowing you manage the 3D and your emotions?

If you were in my position, how would you approach this?

I just don't want to spend another five months hoping, only to end up reliving the same heartbreak.

He and I are both young (19 and 20), we're both going through our first relationship at the same time so were both lost in terms of navigating relationships. We've been sort of long distance for the entire time we're dating and we've had problems surrounding me feeling neglected and him pulling away, leaving me on read and not responding. (which is the only way we can be together at this point, through a screen). We had been like that for weeks, until 2 weeks ago he stopped replying to me entirely, which was something I was terrified he would do, ghost me to end things.

I know circumstances don't matter but I have never successfully manifested a sp in the 3d, in fact, in the past the circumstances around that sp were really bad. I had to see that sp and his girlfriend everyday at uni and she and her friends would whisper and laugh at me and the whole situation between her boyfriend and I. I asked him out without knowing about her, the week after she broke up with him, and he and I talked for a week before, he realized he wasn't over her and they got back together. I had no knowledge of her or that she went to school with us until things ended between him and I, and he revealed how recently they had broken up. After that, I had to deal with her whispering and laughing with her friends about how I'm "not that pretty" or that she could take me in a fight or whatever. I did the work to manifest that sp for 5 months before giving up, he was someone I had absolutely fallen for head over heels and I just had to watch them be together. I had gone through all of that manifesting this sp only to be unsuccessful. Finally, I had to choose my well being and give up on that him.

During the course of the time my boyfriend has ghosted me, I've cried so hard everyday. I've affirmed throughout the day and used subliminals but I'm afraid of going through what I went through with my first sp. Holding on for months only for the 3D to seem to get worse and worse, and by doing this work I'm not getting over him or letting him go so then months later my friends will be confused as to why I still like him, when he moves on (worse case scenario, and what happened with first sp).

I'm reaching out for help because I don't want to lose my boyfriend, although our mutual friends say I should not get back together with him after he would ghost me. I know the way he shows up is a reflection of myself but I'm afraid to have the same thing repeat with my first sp so I want ask:

If anyone had to handle my circumstances, what would your approach be? How do you go at it again without the fear of past failure affecting your faith? How do I navigate the emotions and not let that pain drown me?

Honestly, to go through all of that again, holding on and hoping for my sp while doing the self concept work, doing different methods and saying all the affirmations only to feel that kind of despair again, feels like it might kill me.

He and I are both young (19 and 20), we're both going through our first relationship at the same time so were both lost in terms of navigating relationships. We've been sort of long distance for the entire time we're dating and we've had problems surrounding me feeling neglected and him pulling away, leaving me on read and not responding. (which is the only way we can be together at this point, through a screen). We had been like that for weeks, until 2 weeks ago he stopped replying to me entirely, which was something I was terrified he would do, ghost me to end things.

I know circumstances don't matter but I have never successfully manifested a sp in the 3d, in fact, in the past the circumstances around that sp were really bad. I had to see that sp and his girlfriend everyday at uni and she and her friends would whisper and laugh at me and the whole situation between her boyfriend and I. I asked him out without knowing about her, the week after she broke up with him, and he and I talked for a week before, he realized he wasn't over her and they got back together. I had no knowledge of her or that she went to school with us until things ended between him and I, and he revealed how recently they had broken up. After that, I had to deal with her whispering and laughing with her friends about how I'm "not that pretty" or that she could take me in a fight or whatever. I did the work to manifest that sp for 5 months before giving up, he was someone I had absolutely fallen for head over heels and I just had to watch them be together. I had gone through all of that manifesting this sp only to be unsuccessful. Finally, I had to choose my well being and give up on that him.

During the course of the time my boyfriend has ghosted me, I've cried so hard everyday. I've affirmed throughout the day and used subliminals but I'm afraid of going through what I went through with my first sp. Holding on for months only for the 3D to seem to get worse and worse, and by doing this work I'm not getting over him or letting him go so then months later my friends will be confused as to why I still like him, when he moves on (worse case scenario, and what happened with first sp).

I'm reaching out for help because I don't want to lose my boyfriend, although our mutual friends say I should not get back together with him after he would ghost me. I know the way he shows up is a reflection of myself but I'm afraid to have the same thing repeat with my first sp so I want ask:

If anyone had to handle my circumstances, what would your approach be? How do you go at it again without the fear of past failure affecting your faith? How do I navigate the emotions and not let that pain drown me?

Honestly, to go through all of that again, holding on and hoping for my sp while doing the self concept work, doing different methods and saying all the affirmations only to feel that kind of despair again, feels like it might kill me.