u/calcifer0573

As someone who just became an adult few years ago, I have realised that there is a lot to be anxious about, at least in life specifically. I won't go into a lot of details but I have a lot of pressure to achieve goals and I have still not learned how to deal with the stress of achieving said goals.

That being said, I have a LOT on my plate and I obviously try to divide it up into smaller achievable goals but since becoming an adult I seem to have developed debilitating anxiety, to the point where my heart starts racing and I mostly procrastinate and lie in bed and let the list of things to do snow ball.

My day usually starts with irrational thoughts where I think very negatively of the future in a "its so over" mindset, or with a "I'll never be able to do this cause I've always been X type of person". I am aware of these being negative and unproductive fixed mindsets but it's so hard not to get into this spiral and snap out of it.

I often times wonder how big executives or financial advisors, or people in high pressure jobs manage the stress.

TLDR; how do I wake up with a more positive mindset that I can achieve anything I set my mind to and be more consistent about it?

I'm a recently graduated international student in Canada and I'm under private insurance (not UHIP, a really niche one tbh), I wanted to utilise some of my insurance towards ADHD testing as I feel like I'm really struggling without a formal diagnosis and could benefit from medication. That being said, I called my insurance up and asked them if such testing is covered and they were being really vague, I even emailed them and they kept saying it "might be covered".

Is this normal? Is this an indication that it isn't?

As someone who just became an adult few years ago, I have realised that there is a lot to be anxious about, at least in life specifically. I won't go into a lot of details but I have a lot of pressure to achieve goals and I have still not learned how to deal with the stress of achieving said goals.

That being said, I have a LOT on my plate and I obviously try to divide it up into smaller achievable goals but since becoming an adult I seem to have developed debilitating anxiety, to the point where my heart starts racing and I mostly procrastinate and lie in bed and let the list of things to do snow ball.

My day usually starts with irrational thoughts where I think very negatively of the future in a "its so over" mindset, or with a "I'll never be able to do this cause I've always been X type of person". I am aware of these being negative and unproductive fixed mindsets but it's so hard not to get into this spiral and snap out of it.

I often times wonder how big executives or financial advisors, or people in high pressure jobs manage the stress.

TLDR; how do I wake up with a more positive mindset that I can achieve anything I set my mind to and be more consistent about it?

I have a tendency to have emotional outbursts and think really pessimistically and irrationally about things, how do I think in a logical manner that solves problems, thinks more positively and most importantly forgiving towards myself but also acknowledging where I messed up and trying to pick myself up from there and try again. Essentially not feeling like it’s “so over”