u/catzrsewc00l

I am an ENFP, and my best friend who i was practically raised with, is an ESFP. we are great friends but we are so different yet alike at the same time.

One thing i've noticed and am curious about, is how Se really works. i genuinely can't imagine having Se, and haven't really understood its description until i made some of my friends take a cognitive function test and sort of analyzed our differences

i was under the impression that Se would make you more aware of your surroundings and yourself, but i think the "yourself" part is actually Si.

besides my ESFP friend, we also share a friend who is an ESTP, and both of them share a trait, which i think is Se presenting itself.

they literally do not know what they are saying sometimes. and i don't mean this in a rude way at all, this is a direct quote from both of them, SEPARATELY. neither one of them knew the other had said this. i swear they share a brain sometimes.

what i'm getting at i guess, is that i was under the assumption that an ESxP type would be more aware of themselves, but im assuming now that it's the opposite?

as an Ne user, im thinking all the time. I think through what i say especially. BUT i dont always think through my physical actions.

i was very clumsy as a kid, and not in touch with my surroundings. i would regularly almost walk into the road as a child. not a small child, like 7 😭 where as my ESFP friend growing up, hated getting dirty, hated the mud, hated loud noises, where i was honestly happiest when that was my environment. i'm wondering if because of my lack of Se, it made me seek out sensory experiences. and because of my friends prominent Se, he didn't enjoy it as much because he was more aware it.

it's so interesting to me how these functions work!! do you guys agree that this is accurate to the Se/Ne differences? any Se users relate/ not relate to my friends? i'm very curious!!!

I just want to preface that i love ESFPs, they are the life of the party and can really get me out of my comfort zone, but we are NOT the same at all. yes we both have Fi 2nd, but Ne and Se are SOOOOO DIFFERENT

i feel like all the ENFP caricature is nothing like a true ENFP, but i don't understand because i feel like our Ne sibling ENTP is very accurate, as well as the INFP one, who has the same functions as us in the most similar order.

ENFPs i find are described as hyperactive and ditsy, but lots of true enfps ive met including myself, are introspective thinkers who are often lost in our heads. we are hyperactive in the internal sense rather than outwardly. and when i am outwardly hyperactive, its only when i feel comfortable or in intense conversations that catch my interest

i'm not saying we CANT be ditzy. i definitely am sometimes, but it's not a main trait of enfps, it's just a human thing.

maybe im missing something? why do we think this misconception happens?

I guess so you know a little more about me, i'm 20 years old and an ENFP. my entire life i've been lost in my head, or a book, or in music, or in any form of media. lost in conversations, or one single thing in front of me. my internal monologue never. stops. it's so hard for me to ground myself in my surroundings. i feel very disconnected and i'm not sure if that's an ENFP thing or just a me thing.

from what i know of the cognitive functions, ENFPs have basically no SE, or it develops very late in life. will i always feel this way? can anyone else relate? please share your experience or thoughts ❤️