I dont mind driving around an hour for something good. I enjoy cold plunges in natural water so something with a nice river or creek is the goal. A friend suggested a trail starting at hauser dam and following the missouri river. Any suggestions are appreciated.
This one is for my spiritual believers, and those with an open mind willing to try things without needing proof. I have been pmo free for almost 8 months, and i had a decent amount of wet dreams at the start of this streak. I am now approaching 90 days without a wet dream. After doing this simple practice, I have had 1 WD, and that was because i stayed up significantly later than i am used to, and I allowed myself to fantasize about degenerate sexual activities.
The simple practice that i do every night: burn palo santo. Palo santo has long been used in ritual contexts to rid spaces of negative energy. I find the smell to be incredibly pleasant. I open my window and burn a small amount of palo santo every night, before bed. I allow the smoke to wash away negative energy that has accumulated in my person and my living space. I then close the window, do a short stretching routine, and lay my head on the pillow, having a short dialogue with myself and my higher power about my gratitude for the energy i possess and my ability to embody my true nature more fully every day. I have also made a very firm decision in my conscious mind that i do not want to have an orgasm until i have met a woman i can share my life with.
I feel like i am still taking baby steps and i am definitely still humbled before the unconscious mind and its tendencies to relive old trauma and patterns when asleep. But palo santo has been an important tool in my arsenal to allow me to retain my energy this far.
The first time i used the tent, a freaking bee got stuck between the rainfly and the mesh, and ripped a hole in the mesh with its stinger. I patched the hole with a mesh adhesive patch, but the second time i used the tent, the rainfly got a rip in it, about 6 inches long. What are my best options to fix this rip? I will admit that i missed one of the clips when setting up the rainfly, and maybe that caused the rip. But it still seems ridiculous that such an expensive tent has already had 2 failures in 2 uses. I like the shape of the tent, and it is very light, but im just disappointed in the durability.
For some context, i am 30 years old and i have around 7 years of experience in hospitality, serving in restaurants. My family is in the process of buying a boutique hotel, and they offered to have me manage it. I would have to move 3 hours away from my current city, where i have a good living situation and many friends and family.
Is it feasible for me to succeed in this industry with limited management and hotel experience? I am a very competent individual who learns new things quickly, but i dont really know where to start. I am confident that i could deliver on the hospitality portion of the job description, but i dont exactly know what goes into the business on an organizational level.
This experience would be great for my resume, and hopefully pay more than my current job.
Any information you may have is greatly appreciated. I’m really not sure that this is an applicable sub for this question, but i’m just hoping for some guidance.
I am now 30 years old. I have retained for over 90 days on this streak. Havent watched porn or masturbated in over 130 days. I have been working out consistently, 4-6 times per week for over 6 months. I have been eating a fully locked in diet of only whole foods for over a year now, and before that my diet was better than most for probably 5-6 years.
I am 5’10”, 150lbs. I work 20 hours per week and make 40k per year. I haven’t had a girlfriend in around 10 years, and i’ve had sex with 4 women ever. I drive an old, but reliable toyota sedan that i bought for $3600. I live with 2 roommates, good friends i’ve known for almost 20 years, since middle school. I have been sober from weed for over 4 months, and i drank one night in the last year, for a special occasion.
Some may say that I am underachieving because of some of these stats, but i dont think so. I may not have a degree, but i also have no debt. I may not have a nice, shiny car, but i also dont have a car payment every month. I may not make as much money as some, but i have plenty of free time to spend in nature and bettering myself. I may not have the most impressive physique, but my hormones are working excellently. I dont have a girlfriend, but i also havent committed to the wrong woman and had kids too early.
There are so many people my age who are completely lost in this world, overwhelmed and depressed. Sure, i have days where i’m not at my best, but i have a very peaceful life, and i am grateful for everything i have. I trust in the universe that i am exactly where i need to be, and i carry a general sense of well-being every day. It would be nice to make more money, but it’s hard to give up all of the free time that i have. I am considering taking a nutrition course because i think the only better use of my time would be to help others better themselves.
Part of this is just a vent/rant, but i also wrote this because i see so many people, this community included, caught up in the grind. In my mind, the most important thing we can do as humans is know ourselves. So many people think that just because they dont have the nice house, hot wife, new car etc that they are a failure in life, but a lot of the people who have those things are miserable on the inside.
I am not saying to embrace mediocrity, but to decide for yourself what success looks like. Is it worth it to gain material things at the cost of your soul? I also want to acknowledge that i am very fortunate for what i have, and that not everyone has the same opportunities as i do.
Life is pretty good right now, but it would have been way better if i continued retaining when i fell off as a 24 year old.