u/chilibbq___

Hi, so I finallyyy got my own space. Since college kasi I’ve been wanting to live alone kaso my parents were adamant about it. They would always dismiss the idea every time I bring it up. Pero ngayon I finally decided to get an apartment and they were surprisingly supportive. A little context about me: F27, single. Independent. I basically do everything by myself and I enjoy every bit of it. I do solo trips and dates a lot so this isn’t uncommon for me. I’m so used to being alone talaga.

However when I got my apartment and moved in, parang I felt sad and confused if I made the right decision. I mean, I’ve always wanted this diba, so how come when it’s here na parang I don’t want to do it anymore….? I already bought so much stuff and eto na talaga. Maybe I’m just scared kasi sa economy ngayon na very expensive na ang lahat natatakot ako sa future expenses? Idkk. I earn really well naman and sarili and cats ko lang binubuhay ko. Or maybe parang natakot din ako sa place kasi unfamiliar pa siya? Iddkkk huh

Hello! Naa nay naka rent or familiar sa BSLM Dormitory sa Banawa? Bag'o lang ko nag sign ug lease and I just want to know sa inyong experience sa apartment if ever. TIA!

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Problem/Goal: I've been seeing this guy for 7 months na and he's displaying mga minor characteristics na ayoko sa isang guy but I'm still trying to give him / myself a chance.

Context: So I met this guy here sa Reddit last January, first is solely for hook up lang talaga but we got closer later on. He is the first guy na I am dating seriously. (NBSB kasi ako — as in no prior dating experience talaga) He's good to me naman. He gives me gifts, he is caring, good in bed, tas spoiled talaga ako. Marino pala sya btw. What I don't like lang is he is subtly asking me to gastos for him. I mean, no worries! Di naman ako nag ffollow sa social media standards na dapat men lang ang talaga mag gastos sa relationships. What I'm trying to say is if in love talaga ako, I wouldn't mind spoiling him as well. Ang ayoko lang is yung may pa hint2 pa na pag baba daw nya sa barko since he's on standby at that time, ako daw muna yung gagastos blah blah. Ayoko ng may mag demand sakin. Willing naman ako, ayoko lang talaga mapagsabihan. Period. We've talked about this early on kasi naging issue din siya. One time kasi wala na daw syang money, and he was gaslighting and guilt-tripping me na mabuti pa raw ako masarap kinakain while sya canned goods lang.

I am very hyper-independent. I always get what I want thanks to myself (and to my parents who never says no to me). So I don't think I can be with someone who would depend to me in the future. I think this is also because of his upbringing kasi his mom lang ang nag taguyod sa pamilya nila since his dad was jobless because sa bisyo. He was probably thinking na all women should do the same as his mom.

Previous attempts: We got into a huge fight about 2 months ago and I said na to take a break but nagkabalikan kami somehow. As someone who has her walls built up high for years, this is me giving a chance to myself to let someone in, give chance to myself na mag try just in case it works out. :/ Ayoko naman na e end abruptly most especially nasa barko sya, I know how exhausting yung work nya tas ayoko makadagdag sa mental load. Maybe when he's back here sa PH I'll probably end this or idk