u/choosingtobehappy123

a while ago I posted in here frustrated about the cleanliness of my house. I took the advice of someone and bought a robot vacuum moper with auto deck option for 230$.

ladies I just can’t explain how happy this has made me. I injured my back and couldn’t vacuum my house and was getting lots of sinus issues and two colds in the past 2 months.

this thing has just made me sooooo happy and easier for me to care for myself. I’ve realized that this is nothing to do with other people’s expectations about cleanliness but the actual fact that I love a clean space. it took me months to make this decision and after many ”I love clean floors”, “clean spaces make me happy”, etc…. and this just being something my husband wasn’t willing to do for me. this thing has just ticked so many boxes for me.

all of this to say that I thought I wasn’t worth spending that much money on myself and happiness, I thought oh come on it doesn’t take that long to vacuum and clean, and so many more reasons not to do it

but I did it. I’m addicted to it haha I would like to run it every day. I can walk barefoot in my space workout stuff sticking to my feet or feeling grose in my own space

something I learned about myself is that having this makes it so much easier to look after the rest and it is something that makes me happy

so anyways! If you are on the fence about trying something that will save you time, effort, money and allow more time to do fun things for yourself i would say go for it and try it :) get a cleaner once and see if you like and how much it helps, borrow a friends robot vacuum and tests it see how you feel about it or just take the plunge and buy it. Your future self will thank you ❤️

Hi I have this situation that keeps reoccurring and I’m not sure if it’s a personality thing or something that is common amongst OD members.

Has anyone experienced lots of opinionated comments from OD members about how you should run your family or live your life based on their belief system even though you are not part of OD?

like you have this plan with your husband for your kids or your family life that might be unusual but not sinful or wrong just not your typical get married, buy a house, man works, women SAHM. As an example you decide to homeschool your kids for a year and take them to live in Europe to explore and learn about history and art.

the bottom line is that I don’t know how to react to their comments. I don’t want to be mean or defensive and say something like well you are celibate you are not even married or have kids what do you know about running a family. But I also do want them to realize that they are not experts and their thoughts are not gospel.

anyways just curious if anyone had family members or in law members that tend to do this, you want to maintain a good relationship but also don’t want their unsolicited advice. Is there a shortcut that will make them realize?

edit to add: not trying to change them. just looking for ways of responding that say I don’t want or need your advice. The comment sections has been very helpful thank you everyone :)

is anyone else’s husband a bit cruel sometimes? i.e if you feel hurt by what they say and you cry he will say that you are just feeling sorry for yourself or if you are crying he will just grab his phone and scroll and ignore you

how do you deal with this?