u/chriskbrown50

I was surprised when they called to put Dad into hospice, how unprepared I was. I know this train goes one way. It is just a matter of how fast the train arrives at the final station. I did not see my Dad for two weeks, as we spent time at the family beach condo with our kids and grandson.

Long story - my Mom bought it from the proceeds of land she sold that she and her siblings inherited from my grandfather, so it has a really great family legacy that spans decades. Dad threatened to sell it, but I would never let him. My wife and I are now the caretakers.

I saw Dad last Sunday, and he did not recognize me. Saw him two days later for a few minutes. He was "eating" dinner in the main room. As I rose to leave, the CNA called me back as my Dad was crying. First time I had seen him cry like this - I stayed a bit longer. It felt like some sort of emotional goodbye. Came back two days later (Dad's MC is 10 minutes from my house, 3 miles away). He was again up, looking rough. But he immediately recognized me as his son. Again, I stayed briefly, hugging him and just checking on him. Yesterday, my wife and I stopped by, and Dad was again up in the main room. It became apparent he did not know who we were, and he eventually rolled away from us.

The hospice nurses are checking on him. They give updates and continue to flex his meds. I pulled his pant legs, and his calf muscles are almost non-existent. I was told 2 to 6 weeks, with this Tuesday being the 2-week mark. I have made myself busy by revisiting his estate, which is going to be complex. So many pieces to get ironed out. But mainly I wait - feels weird. I think I am emotionally ready for him to die

One owner bought new in October 2025. I have a 2019 Pilot - don't need a 3rd row. Little scared of first year gremlins

I engaged Palliative care early this year which has been a godsend. The nurse has the objectivity and experience that I lack.

Called me this morning; having seen my Dad twice in the last few days. He remains agitated in the afternoon. She told me he has lost 20 lbs over the last 50 days. And she said it was time to bump him to hospice. After seeing his neurologist virtually 2 weeks ago and the doctor saying we were done, it appears the end is nigh.

Not the way to start the day yet grateful to have resources to help me navigate

He is in MC ten minutes away. I have seen him 2 to 3 times a week, usually for 30 minutes or less. I am starting to feel like it just getting harder. He clearly has no memory of consequence.

American from Charlotte, NC. I have visited many of the great, large cities in the US and some outside the US. Prague is very special. The food, the people, everything was very fun. It reminds some of our American Midwestern cities like Minneapolis.

Plus the beer was good and cheap.

MC found him at 4 in the morning. Took him to the hospital. He always falls on his left elbow , but this time had a good cut on his forehead. His memory is just gone.

Saw him today - said he needed to go to the bathroom and walked past the bathroom; he instead opened the his door to the main living area. He looked right at me and said"I need you to do something for me". I asked him what. He then said he forgot. Sentences are very hard to impossible.

I brought him a brownie sundae. He did not know it was his birthday (not suprising). It was right after dinner, he took two bites and asked me to put it up. I expect this is his last birthday. I am ready for that and I think he is too. I did come up with my tattoo idea for when this thing ends.

Monday the care coordinator and I met on Dad's care plan. She told me she just resigned. She was the 4th one in 6 months. She told me I should consider moving my Dad. It was a hard to hear. I took it under advisement. Dad is already confused enough, putting in a new place seems like it would do more damage.

Yesterday I popped into to see Dad. He asked why more people were not visiting. I proceeded to ask him if he remembered he lasy from Visiting Angels who came once a week for 3 years..he did not. I explained that my daughter came to see him a few weeks ago. Nothin. I asked him he remembers my uncle and aunt, who live close by. Nothing. My Dad has known my uncle (my Mom's youngest sibling) forever. I am close to the point he will not remember me.

He told me he wanted to die. I do not disagree

Being asked to put together numbers. We have Azure;and Foundry is good for hosting our LLMs, including OpenAI. Why would I sign up for enterprise agreement? Access to early models might be a win but not feeling like that is a huge need.