u/churro951

I am extremely low contact with my parents and siblings maybe give them a response a few times a year at this point. I have also hidden my Facebook posts from them entirely and keep conversations surface level. And honestly just need to vent in a space where people understand more.

For context, I noticed some time ago that my immediate family has a habit of specifically trash talking me, then calling and telling me about it whenever they hear that im making progress towards my goals or career.

Recently I found out that most of them were talking shit about me. And a lot of it was just rumors. My grandma called me the other week out of the blue telling me "you need to find Jesus again". No explanation although im pretty sure rumors were started over my personal life behind closed doors. Then, as i am completing part of my dive certification, which is necessary for the field im breaking into, I hear after that I am living off the government and am not seen as a contributing member of society because I am a veteran that recieves benefits and I am a full time student who has also put in hundreds of unpaid hours working to get my dream job. While also maintaining a 3.10+ GPA which for me is pretty damn good. And that one person in particular was toting how they believed themselves to be better than I am. But no one would tell me exactly what was said. And I noticed there was a lot of triangulation happening.

After all of this... they have been pestering me to visit. Even though I have denied it multiple times.

Thankfully I live clear across the country. So no one can randomly show up to my house. But damn, yall. I cant even live in peace because they are all so miserable with their own lives. I do my best to ignore this but it has been tearing at me the last few days. Every time I start really becoming truly happy and they hear about it, they try to shake things up and I cant remember the last time they said anything positive to me or about me.

I know many here have had similar experiences. But its nust one of days where it was really forward in my mind. Especially because I am in my eyes, successful. Im happy, bills are paid, i have hobbies, my amazing pups, and am working towards a career that I dreamed of as a child.