u/cigarell0

Pic is related, I took this pic of one of my kittens that was playing upstairs after finishing my daily dusk-time walk. The window was open. When I come up to my door, I see my next-door neighbor's daughters coming home. Never spoken to them. Once I go inside and come upstairs, their mother talks to me through my window and asks me if I need anything because I took a picture of her window 😐 I was like what? I took a picture of my own window, I can show you the photos. And she was like no I don't need to see the photo, I just wanted to know if you need anything. I said, no, I was just taking a photo of this kitten's *shows her the same kitten who is now staring at her through the window* ears in my window. And she went back inside.

I know it's probably not a big deal. But growing up my dad was considered a weirdo, even I considered him a weirdo! I don't talk to him anymore because of it. And sometimes I worry if I'm becoming like him.

I've seen women on social media saying that they feel weird talking to other women but I never see people talking about this? I feel creepy and like an outsider to other women and it's so unfair. It's upsetting that a stranger looks at me and assumes I would do something weird. I've never done anything. I'm just shy and I've noticed that shyness, as an adult, just comes off to people as rudeness. So I try not to be shy. But I can't tell when people want to mind their own business or be talked to. Maybe it has nothing to do with me.

I only really have one real friend, and her sister and roommate both like me and talking to them all makes me feel accepted and okay. I think I need to go back to therapy ☹️ what would you do in this situation? Should I apologize if I see my neighbor again? I wfh so I rarely see her. And I feel even weirder talking to them because they probably just wrote me off as a weirdo and don't want to interact with me. I just plan on living here for a while so it makes me sad.

I caught him sleeping outside my house and went outside to mix him some food with lysine. He doesn't seem to want to eat.. maybe he doesn't like gravy? That would be the first time I've met a cat that hates gravy 😭 He ate the Sheba pate I gave him. I just don't know how I'd mix lysine with the pate.

Third pic is his creamsicle brother with his thousand-yard stare 😭

I can tell she's super mad at me. Found out she's 2 years old, and wasn't pregnant :) I love her.

I have seen him around the neighborhood and he followed the pregnant stray I have. He meows for pets and is very cute but I stayed away because he was sneezing and I was worried he had a contagious URI. I gave him lysine on Saturday with some food and now he isn't sneezing anymore!! I left him food with lysine again but instead of eating it he's at my door and won't even eat the food 😭 maybe he's perplexed?? Thinks I have healing powers??

Mama is in the back. I got her an emergency spay appointment. I think she may be pregnant again. She's been super scared of me the past few weeks. She will sleep when I'm in the room with her, but she has started growling if I come close. I could pet her the days after I caught her but now she won't let me. Is this something that could happen since she is pregnant? Could she be in pain? If she has pyometra I can't tell because she won't let me see her butt :(

This little torbie is Pashmina and I've been working on socializing her. Out of her 3 other siblings, she is the most scared of me. I've played with her plenty of times but she will avoid playing with me. She's also the kind that won't eat when she's stressed (I have a cat like that but she is friendly) so she won't eat churus I offer her. Two of her siblings are more outgoing and if I'm playing with them she will huddle in the corner and play with their tails or something. It makes me sad. I'm not sure what else I can do.

The other night I was petting her while she was sleeping/drinking from her mama and when she noticed after a bit, she walked away and went to sleep in the corner 😭 she's very quick to hiss at me. I've only had them since last Wednesday, so maybe time will tell, but I want to make sure I'm doing everything right. It feels like every single day is crucial. Even her brother, who we had to chase and lure before we finally caught him, has warmed up to me more than her. I don't want to force it and make her uncomfortable but I'm not sure what I should do instead. I think she doesn't like being pet much. Any tips besides the kitten lady's video on socializing would help. I've gone through the video but it's hard to socialize her when she'd gladly stay in the corner than eat.

She's in my bathroom right now and my chud orange cat is suspicious of the bathroom door being closed. I also think she sprayed. I'm waiting on the vet clinic to call me back for her spay appointment. Her orange baby was quite hard to catch, but playing mama cat noises attracted him :)

EDIT: can anyone give me tips on getting the kittens acclimated/socialized with people? They're spicy and freeze up when being handled :( mama is scared too but I've read up on that and will spend more time with her asap

Also.. my resident cat has been really clingy today. I think maybe I need another feliway diffuser for her too? She shouldn't be able to see the feral but she doesn't want to eat near the door to the bathroom

I'm training this little girl to be okay with the carrier. She's like, feral mostly but I think something happened to her when she was young that made her so apprehensive. She hisses and flinches but I can pet her when she's eating a churu.

I found out she has kittens. I signed her up to be spayed with a local clinic. I'm planning on taking her in and nabbing the kittens too (they're like 3 weeks old). I have two other resident cats which I will keep away from her until the kittens are weaned and she is fixed. She doesn't seem to mind other cats (she came up to the patio window and stared at them while they hissed at her 😭) but I don't want to stress her out. I'm hoping to get her used to being indoors and getting her and her kittens adopted. I just want to know if there are any potential hitches in my plan. I was up last night stressing over this.

I also don't know how much a mother cat eats. I think she's a kitten since she's around the age of the other cats in the colony. I've been feeding her less so I can trap her but at most I was giving her 300 cals.. I was surprised how little calories Sheba kitten food has. Idk if she even needs it. I just hope I'm doing everything right. She's such a sweet girl and reminds me of my first cat. I got her off the street and she didn't start becoming more vocal until she met her vocal brother. Her voice is like a flute 😭😭 I want to hear this little feral girl's meow!

I've been feeding this stray for a week and she's gotten less skittish around me. Before I started feeding her, I saw her and was like "oh she looks pregnant". She's very small and is about 6 months old. Her tummy is kind of big compared to the rest of her and I wouldn't be surprised if she had worms. Lately she's been laying down in front of me. I'm not sure if she's comfy or is just pregnant and tired.

She loves her churu and I gave her some friskies today. She loves churu so much that I can almost pet her 😳 I love her. I've never met a stray that hissed when pet before. I'm hoping I can catch her one day and take her to the shelter. I think she's almost old enough to go into heat, so I'm hoping I can catch her before then!

Baby is so scared but so sweet. Yesterday I put my hand near her and got a little scratch. Today I put my hand near her and got a paw (no claws) and a little hiss! That is progress ❤️