u/claquetectonique

My son is 8, has ADHD, and is medicated. He's 1-2 grade levels behind on reading and math and shows no sign of catching up. On the weekends, I try to help him with these subjects but he resists every single time. I'm at my breaking point. We struggle over so many things that our relationship overall is strained. I'm also simply exhausted.

Today I told him that I've given up, that I'm not going to push any longer. That's it's up to him to tell me that he wants to study and learn and develop new "powers".

Still, I'm torn. On one hand, I want him to catch up to the others, not because I care about academics (he's only 8) but because I don't want him thinking of himself as the dumb kid. Kids at this age start comparing themselves to others and start seeing that they cannot do things their classmates can.

On the other hand, I'm concerned about the quality of our relationship. I'm desperate to eliminate any source of friction from our lives (like contests over whether he will or will not study with me).

It's like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. For now, I'm going to err on the side of whatever improves our relationship and hope that the school stuff works itself out somehow. That either he catches up to the others through the alchemy of brain development or, failing that, that he gets enough self-esteem out of how we treat him as parents.

I kinda wrote this to clarify my own thoughts on the matter, but it'd be great to have yours too.

My son is 8, has ADHD, and is medicated. He's 1-2 grade levels behind on reading and math and shows no sign of catching up. On the weekends, I try to help him with these subjects but he resists every single time. I'm at my breaking point. We struggle over so many things that our relationship overall is strained. I'm also simply exhausted.

Today I told him that I've given up, that I'm not going to push any longer. That's it's up to him to tell me that he wants to study and learn and develop new "powers".

Still, I'm torn. On one hand, I want him to catch up to the others, not because I care about academics (he's only 8) but because I don't want him thinking of himself as the dumb kid. Kids at this age start comparing themselves to others and start seeing that they cannot do things their classmates can.

On the other hand, I'm concerned about the quality of our relationship. I'm desperate to eliminate any source of friction from our lives (like contests over whether he will or will not study with me).

It's like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. For now, I'm going to err on the side of whatever improves our relationship and hope that the school stuff works itself out somehow. That either he catches up to the others through the alchemy of brain development or, failing that, that he gets enough self-esteem out of how we treat him as parents.

I kinda wrote this to clarify my own thoughts on the matter, but it'd be great to have yours too.

So I've seen it mentioned that the city government owns retail spaces and thereby exercises control who they get rented to. And that, in part, neighborhood needs and considerations for retail diversity shape their decision.

I'd like to know more about the subject. Does anyone know the history of how this system came about, and the details of how it works? And whether it could be copied in the North American context?