u/conansappul

Hey, I don’t normally post stuff like this on reddit (or post at all for a matter of fact) but I don’t really know what to make of this situation. Sorry in advance if i’m not formatting this correctly lol. So this won’t get confusing, the names i’m going to be using are Kayla (18f) and Rosie (18f).

For some context, me (18f) and my friend group have been friends with each other for about 4 years already. There are five of us and we have all always gotten along really well and never had any issues with each other. Some more context, out of the 5, me and Rosie have always been closer to Kayla compared to the other two in our friend group.

A few months back, an old mutual friend of ours (not part of the main five) was visiting from a few towns over and we all decided to go out together, so the hang out was going to be six of us in total. We all agree to meet up at a certain time, and by that time only five of us were there. We all hung around for about ten minutes more waiting for Kayla but she wasn’t showing up. So me and Rosie decided to call her up to see if she was okay. She didn’t reply, and we waited for another 10 minutes. We decided to send her a message telling her where we’re going to be at in case she was running late or something. We then received a message from Kayla about 2 minutes later saying that she couldn’t make it. We were all a bit bummed out but we figured that something came up, since she didn’t give us a reason which is fine.

This happened a few more times, we’d all plan something, Kayla would give the heads up that she was showing up too and then end up bailing or saying she can’t make it. We were all worried for her, and I myself have tried to message Kayla just to have a conversation with her or check up on her but things just haven’t been the same. She’s very short and dry with the way she replies to all of us, and Rosie has called her out on it but Kayla never responded to what Rosie said.

I understand that maybe Kayla is going through something, but it’s honestly kind of exhausting for me and my friends to be constantly canceled on. She’s always been someone to really value her friendships and care deeply for her friends. I genuinely don’t know if we did something to upset her, I feel really bad and selfish for feeling this way but I don’t know. Maybe she just grew out of our friendship?

I don’t know, I just need advice. Like should we talk to her and check up on her again? Please tell me what yall think about this. Thank you for reading this, not sure if this was too long or if i over explained stuff.

Hey guys, i don’t really post on reddit but i just need to get this rant out. So today’s my birthday, and i honestly have a good amount of friends but NONE of them ever wish me a happy birthday. even my so called “best friend”. i’m kind of used to it but im also so sick and tired of it because i always remember their birthdays and make an effort to AT LEAST wish them a happy birthday on their birthdays but they can’t do the same for me. it really makes me wonder if im really that unimportant to them. it’s such a pain to check my phone every hour or so to not see any happy birthday messages from people who aren’t my close family. i genuinely don’t know what to do. i’m just so tired of this. thanks for taking time out of your day if you read this and happy birthday to anyone else who shares a birthday with me :)