u/crodoanthrwrld

I’m a tomboy trans girl and I’m 21.

I’ve only started making real friends in the last year and a half, and one of these people is a cis masculine woman who’s helped me discover a kind of love I never thought I could feel, and helped me understand better my own identity.

I don’t want a relationship with her; it’s not a typical crush.

It’s just that her soft-masculine energy makes me feel calm, seen and safe.

And I’ve realised that I only fall in love with people who have that energy.

The problem is that there are very few of them.

On dating apps, I never get matches with soft masculine women.

It seems to me that many are looking for feminine girls, and I feel invisible.

It hurts to know that I can feel something so rare and deep… but only for a type of person I hardly ever come across.

I’d love to find someone who makes me feel the way she does.

Has anyone else experienced this extreme selectivity?

How did you find people with that energy?

I’m a tomboy trans girl and I’m 21.

I’ve only started making real friends in the last year and a half, and one of these people is a cis masculine woman who’s helped me discover a kind of love I never thought I could feel, and helped me understand better my own identity.

I don’t want a relationship with her; it’s not a typical crush.

It’s just that her soft-masculine energy makes me feel calm, seen and safe.

And I’ve realised that I only fall in love with people who have that energy.

The problem is that there are very few of them.

On dating apps, I never get matches with soft masculine women.

It seems to me that many are looking for feminine girls, and I feel invisible.

It hurts to know that I can feel something so rare and deep… but only for a type of person I hardly ever come across.

I’d love to find someone who makes me feel the way she does.

Has anyone else experienced this extreme selectivity?

How did you find people with that energy?