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Love looking however I want and remaining genderless #AgenderPrideDay

Kinda late but pride is everyday 🩶 I love pulling presentations, energy and any gendered crap that people label under “masc” or “fem” and mostly androgynous (I mean I’m still androgynous with every presentation lol) while being genderless no matter what!! It’s so cool when u claim everything from a gender-free perspective, you see it differently cause you transform anything linked to concepts of fem or masc into hot queer performance

u/futchtwink — 1 day ago
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Embracing a forced label

For the most part I try to embrace the butch label and vibe. I get enthusiasm when playing into butch fashion, mannerisms, and stereotypes. Lately though I'm really struggling with the realization this was a label placed on me by other queer people. And more often than not as a kind of asterisk to their compliment of me. I didnt transition wanting to be butch or aiming for that, it was instead this caveat that other people put on my appearance. It too often feels like a label meant to put me in my place. Hell I even like being butch, sometimes. But it never feels like me entirely. Instead feels like a box other people put me in and I learned how to dress the inside of that box up in a comfortable way to exist in. Its a similar feeling to pre-transition. And fwiw when I try to present more femme I get constant comments about "oh you look like your in drag" or "this doesnt feel like you". Basically trying to unpack lately if this butch identity is originates from the internal or the external and if that origin changes how I feel about it. Wondering if anyone deals with the same.

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u/myvariantcover — 21 hours ago
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It's HOT☯️🏴

I can't even wear my headphones without sweating anymore so I've been using my Tablet and Phone speakers. I recorded this video yesterday but at time of posting its still 88°F. Fucking INSANITY. My AC isn't on cause the Trans Shelter I live at in NYC hasn't turned it on for the summer yet. So I'm naked in my room and barely want to put on any clothes cause its so fuckn HOT lmao. Even in the shade in my room it feels so muggy and warm, it sucks. Anyways, hope y'all find some comfort today in this heat! I'm dying over in NYC lol.

-Yin Out☯️🏴

u/Yin-Kinjo — 1 day ago
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Overjoyed to find this community

I've done a lot of thinking over the years about my gender/sexual identity. It's been very tough and confusing but if think I'm finally coming to understand the majority of it. I am definitely not a man (tho AMAB, so trans) and majority of the time i feel like presenting masculine-ish but in a woman way if that makes sense. I don't like the heteronormative masculine matcho/dominate; don't talk about your feelings, lash out with violence, view people I'm attracted to as objects type "masculinity" (in have lots of quarrels with men in contemporary society but that's besides the point here).

Sometimes I like to present fem but it's rarer. I'm kind of coming around to the realization i want to be a masc-woman or butch woman.

As far as the sexuality (and by association being butch), i find 98% of men's behavior repulsive and therefore couldn't pursue a long-term relationship with them but i do find them sexually attractive in some cases. As for everyone else i can find them both sexually attractive as well as could date them long term. This relationship+attraction category also includes gender queer individuals. These could be primary vs secondary sexual attraction from the split attraction model but I'm unsure.

Therefore i kinda identify as pansexual because it's possible i could find a man that if could date and find attractive, and it sincerely has nothing to do with gender identity, it has to do more with the way society socializes males and the vast majority of their behavior. So practically I'm lesbian (non-man attracted to non-men). I doubt the possibile relationship with men more & more every day because i think in modern society to be a "man" it's hard or impossible to align with values i consider reasonable (to be comfortable dating) and not be a little queer in some way.

Coming to this understanding personally has helped me identify who i think i am: a masc/butch trans woman and lesbian- pansexual (more succinctly pan-lesbain) and homoromantic. In clearer terms: my sexual attraction is not dependent on gender, but my romantic attraction is lesbain/sapphic (or specifically excluding men).

Having thought though all of this i was distraught i would have a very hard time finding community and others like me and who i can relate my experiences too. So i am extremely happy to not only find this sub but it also be relatively active!

TLDR: I'm a masc trans-woman had very hard time reconciling her masc/woman identity and explaining her disdain for all things Hetero-normatively "man" and im happy to be here :)

u/lilpeener — 1 day ago
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How do people you have a relationship with understand your gender queerness?

Because I used to insist in saying I was a woman some years ago, its not been a very long time since i came out as an enby, and i still go by she so i feel like that’s the thing that made my family think im still a woman even when i say im not. So now i gotta tell them often nooo im not a woman!! and my mom thought it means i reject femininity, meanwhile im a whole genderless futch, she just told me mmm is it pkay to give you this object thats pink? Since u say u are not a woman now. Lmaoo girl aint you seeing my pink ass eyeshadow, phone case, pink crop top, purple long nails… be for real 😭😭😭 normative people have such a hard time understanding something as simple as being out of gender

But im glad now im vibing with they pronouns too, probably they will understand my enbiness when i use they to refer to myself more

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u/futchtwink — 1 day ago
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Just found this sub and feeling so validated (as a transmasc)

Transmasc enby here! Was looking for different subs to explore and found this and immediately was amazed at how beautifully expansive our expression can be. Before transitioning (FTN) I rejected all forms of femininity pushed on me, but as I progressed in my transition and got comfortable in my body (getting top surgery, 3 years on T, etc), I’ve found that I’m more femme since I can choose it myself. Seems obvious, but didn’t occur to me that transfemmes do as well and have such a large community space here. Just wanted to say hi and that I love you all and that our community is so amazing. If any of you are in need of any gender-affirming items, we discreetly ship gender affirming items for free for transfemmes in need in the U.S. and we have free gaffs, Gender Grip tape, breast forms, and more. :)

- Cielo (them/them/he)
Founder of QTP

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u/QueerTransProject — 2 days ago
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my huge ass 10 year timeline picture

i spent like an hour just looking for some of these pictures! remind me in 10 years to post the next update.

u/SevWildfang — 2 days ago
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it's finally warm enough for me to wear shorts to my night shift job 🎉

u/PrettyOrk — 3 days ago
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Felt cute at the concert last night

Was originally gonna wear my longer baggier shorts buuuuut I felt confident af yesterday :)

u/TopPark3178 — 2 days ago
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Tips? Been feeling too… man lately /:

I’m nonbinary and enjoy androgynous vibes but wanna tap more into fem I just unsure what to do lately and have been feeling kinda lazy which I’m tryna hop out of!!! I see all u pretty gals and wanna be on ur wave so bad!!

u/Promproxy — 3 days ago
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Boymoding In The Hospital Waiting Room☯️🏴

Went to the hospital today for a checkup. Everything going smoothly with the transition so far. Grew out some stubble to boymode for a couple days. I like being a girl some days and a boy another I go back and forth lol

-Yin Out☯️🏴

u/Yin-Kinjo — 3 days ago
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Any Good Normie TV Shows?☯️🏴

Hey I'm getting a little burnt out on my anime and YouTube, so I was wondering what normie TV shows you watch and recommend. Let me know in the comments below!🥰☯️🏴

u/Yin-Kinjo — 4 days ago