u/crooked_1988

So my aunt and uncle are deep into QAnon and have been into conspiracy thinking for many years but this worsened noticeably around COVID time.

Most of my family members have fallen out with them over it or at the least have stopped contact and made it clear they absolutely disagree with their views and don’t want contact.

My aunt and uncle will occasionally send me Qanon related stuff e.g. a link to a YouTube video or a video that I never watch. I tend to just either not respond or ignore the video and ask them how they are. My rationale is that IF they ever come out of Qanon I would like them to know there is someone in the family that is still on talking terms with them.

However, in the past week they have sent me 2 videos much more extreme than previously - the last one was all about how the holocaust wasn’t real and Hitler was in the right - which is course is insane and really offensive. I’m not sure how to respond - do I just put my foot down now and cut contact, or is my idea of keeping a channel of communication with them open a helpful thing in case they come back to reality in future?

EDIT: for previous things they’ve sent I’ve felt comfortable just ignoring as the content hasn’t been so hateful (e.g. the vaccines are going to make you ill). But this week the content has become much more venomous and antisemitic and I’m wondering if not making that clear to them is almost like not doing enough on my end/complying.

Edit: all I’ve done so far is report the video on IG as hate speech

I’m very conscious of not wanting to seem prejudice, which I’m absolutely not. We recently have some new tenants in a house we own, who are an Indian family (parents and 2 kids). They seem lovely, though there is a slight language barrier. They moved in 3 months ago and we’ve been over three times since - once for an inspection, and two other times to check out a repair issue that they reported. Each time we’ve been the house smells so strongly of Indian food - like it’s in the very fabric of the house at this point even in rooms far away from the kitchen. I don’t understand how this happens? We often cook with spices and slow cook curries etc but the house never smells for more than a couple of hours after.
Again, I really don’t want this to sound like a prejudiced question, I’m just genuinely curious.

Somehow, this morning AND this evening, my Labrador has managed to get both me AND my husband to feed her, with us both assuming the other one hadn’t fed her yet.

SO SHE’S NOW HAD 4 MEALS INSTEAD OF 2 TODAY.

The chunky shit is now flat out asleep on the sofa looking smug.

On occasion we’ve accidentally double fed her before but never for both meals on the same day!

I had confirmed c diff 1 year ago after a surgery and lots of antibiotics. At that point it was several days of diarrhoea multiple times a day, with a sweet barnyard horrendous smell and runny but jelly like stool - disgusting. I took antibiotics for it and it cleared up.

Since then, at least once every week or two I will have a day where I have the exact same looking stool with same horrible smell a couple of times in a day. But then there’s a good week or so where it goes away, before happening again.

Could this still be c diff or doesn’t c diff behave like that?

So, I finally started taking cromolyn sodium (I’m in the UK and I know it’s called something slightly different here) and I’ve improved SO MUCH in 4 days. It’s wild!

My bloating has reduced 80% and gut discomfort has reduced the same amount.

What’s interesting also is that I’m still testing very high for SIBO (despite rounds of rifaxamin as I had a previous bowel resection and don’t have an ileocecal valve). I was putting all my gut symptoms down to constant Sibo, but since taking the cromolyn most of the symptoms I thought were Sibo have also reduced hugely.

It’s nuts!

For those who started MCAS treatments and didn’t experience much weight gain or any at all, or even lost weight, please could you share your experience? It might help give me the push to start treatment as I’m definitely concerned about gaining weight.

I’ve been wondering whether some of the phrases/comments we’ve repeatedly heard from my very enmeshed (and narcissistic) MIL are common in others with enmeshment.

I would almost feel validated if others have also experienced these kinds of comments.

Here’s the most common ones my husband/me get from his mother:

‘I’m going to die soon’

‘After everything I’ve done for you’

‘You used to be such a caring boy’

Do you get similar, or if not what are the most common comments you get?

My husband has a vulnerable narcissist, enmeshed mother - he’s spent the last few years setting very clear boundaries and going low contact and of course there’s been fall out (guilt tripping, mystery illnesses in the middle of the night from his mum, her recruiting other family members to ‘talk to him to make him see sense’). There is another brother who is very involved and who sees this differently - I.e. mum is lonely, she’s on her own, doesn’t see anyone and is getting old. His brother has voiced that he needs some help as he can’t cope with being the only person in contact with the mum.

The way this gets tricky is that his mum is aging now and does have some health issues and practical needs - my husband is very clear he doesn’t want an emotional relationship with her but is happy to support his brother with some of the practical stuff (e.g. mowing her lawn, etc).

I’m just wondering how others who still have contact manage the aging and practical aspects of parents where there has been/is enmeshment?

To add: she’s single, lives alone, doesn’t really have any friends (not a shocker I know!)

What are the GI symptoms of splanchic pooling? Very soon after eating I get bloated, and instance loud gurgling and sloshing noises and feelings, and just feeling very full and heavy feeling. Could this be pooling?

I know most people experience systemic effects from this kind of pooling, like dizziness etc, but I’m wondering what GI symptoms people have?

I’ve ruled out delayed gastric emptying and Sibo etc already.

Is there a test that exists that is able to observe or measure movement of food through the different areas of the intestines - to see if there is an area of pooling/stagnation? I know there’s transit studies but they look at the total time small and large bowel, rather than seeing if there’s certain areas that are slower.
It’s in the context of a bowel resection whereby overall transit is normal-fast, but lots of symptoms suggest there’s an area in SI where things kind of get ‘stuck’ or pool, leading to lots of symptoms, only after I eat.
MRI and colonoscopy has ruled out visible adhesions.

Can anyone signpost me to any good videos that explain or describe the importance of nervous system/nervous system work when trying to improve or resolve MCAS and/or dysautonomia?

I do much better when I feel I have some solid understanding of something before giving things a proper try!