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I've been reading (listening to) the Stranger Times series and got to "Ring the Bells".

I saw it recommended here a couple times as a Discworld successor. While I disagree about that, I've been enjoying it immensely. Personally I think it feels more like Neverwhere by way of Dirk Gently.

All that is preface for why I'm posting this now: in the last book there is a character named "Claremont Dibnah". He's a scam artist of the highest order. And I'm the audiobook at least I would have sworn it was pronounced "dibblah" until I looked it up. And "ClareMOnT"... Well....I feel like it is an obvious homage.

I can't find any confirmation of this online except Google's AI search, but it both confirms and denies it depending on how I phrase things and refused to provide any sources that had any actual info in either case.

Edit: to be clear, the way he feels like Dibbler is that he's known to run scam businesses but this time, somehow, it's all working and he's really successful! Except... There are unintended plot relevant consequences that catch up with him.

TL;DR I just broke up with a partner of nearly three years because I just couldn't meet their needs in the long distance relationship.

She's been struggling for a while now and asking for more time and more attention and I just can't provide it. Over the last year my son has needed more and more direct attention and emotional labor with schooling and appointments and the long distance nature of the relationship meant that that was where my time got cut, over and over again.

On top of that, my other partner moved in last year at the end of an extended period of unemployment and scheduling time with my ldr partner became more "taking time away" rather than "scheduling around multiple people". I have been trying to make things equitable but it's become obvious to everyone that "some partners are more equal than others" and I hated that, it went against everything I thought I would be doing, and it just became clear I wasn't capable of providing the relationship I had promised, let alone the one she wanted.

So I ended things.

And it hurts. So much. I love her so much. She was my Princess, and I miss her so badly and it hasn't even been a full day. But I just wasn't there. I did not make the decision lightly.

And while we're not closing the relationship, my local partner and I are currently poly saturated at one. And I think it's going to be hard for people not to think that means we have. Which...I mean, fair I guess. Functionally there's not a difference at the moment but>! !<philosophically remaining poly is important to us for a lot of reasons. It doesn't really matter except I wish I didn't think that she is probably going to assume that's what is happening.

I don't know. I don't even know why I'm posting this.

I'm just...I wish I weren't hurting someone I love, and I wish I weren't hurting, even though I think I did the right thing for everyone.

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Kid to Mom: "and that's why you want to start an underwear vending machine business!"

Mom: "right, I just think it would be really convenient"

Little girl, turning to her aunt: "and we would call it 'UnderHere!'"

Aunt: "I'm going to open one in Canada called 'UnderThere'"

5 minutes later, getting off the"people mover" bus thing:

Mom: "okay, we gotta move, take the fun out of functional. No time for the fun. Take the fun out! We're just.... Um..shunal!"

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