u/curlyelena

Lesbianism and Labels

When identifying as lesbian and including nonbinary people, what are people’s opinions about being with AMAB nonbinary people?

Not to define these people thru their AGAB, but i feel like people can categorize “lesbian” as someone interested in women and nonbinary people that are AFAB. I feel like this nulls the purpose of being nonbinary in general but I’m wondering if people believe it means you’re not a lesbian?

I personally don’t care but I just want opinions? I’m beginning to dislike labels because it seems like I’m trying to strictly define my behavior when I haven’t done anything yet.

I also know it’s different for everyone. I just want other perspectives.

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u/curlyelena — 20 hours ago

Lesbianism and Labels

When identifying as lesbian and including nonbinary people, what are people’s opinions about being with AMAB nonbinary people?

Not to define these people thru their AGAB, but i feel like people can categorize “lesbian” as someone interested in women and nonbinary people that are AFAB. I feel like this nulls the purpose of being nonbinary in general but I’m wondering if people believe it means you’re not a lesbian?

I personally don’t care but I just want opinions? I’m beginning to dislike labels because it seems like I’m trying to strictly define my behavior when I haven’t done anything yet.

I also know it’s different for everyone. I just want other perspectives.

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u/curlyelena — 20 hours ago

Is she having MORE babies??

I saw this stem growing from the center of my spider plant. The first babies she had aren’t event ready for a pot yet. Is this another stem for babies or is it something else?

u/curlyelena — 5 days ago

Spider Plant Stem Damage

Hello yall. My spider plant has been growing this baby for a couple months now. In transport, the stem got caught on something and now there is damage. It’s to the point where it’s better off for me to cut it off.

My question is, is this baby still viable? There aren’t any roots visible. Would propagating this baby work?

This is my first spiderette so I’d be heartbroken if it’s not ready to be separated. Let me know if I’m too worried about nothing again.

u/curlyelena — 11 days ago

Decided to start washing my hair every two weeks, going from mini braids to a braid out.

I’ve been thinking about how people are perceived through presentation, gender, and energy. I allowed everything to be done to me. Passivity. I told myself that I didn’t care, that I operated outside of these boxes. That these definitions were never made with people like us in mind. But that doesn’t stop people from seeing/treating you in a certain way based off of their opinion.

What is masculinity? What is Femininity? How do you define these terms when they’ve been forged and have standards upheld through White supremacy and patriarchy? How do you find your own definition knowing that you don’t fit perfectly in certain boxes?

Femininity as a trap
Femininity as a disguise
Femininity as a tool
Femininity as a crutch
Femininity as a weapon
Femininity as a performance

Exploring masculinity when the scales tip so easily. Dress a certain way, act a certain way, and labels are applied to you. God forbid you don’t fit into a straight binary or are trying to explore a middle ground or something outside the binary entirely.

Binary energies as seen through a Black lens, and through a queer lens. Especially femininity not performed for men’s pleasure. Each unique perspective being forged through experience.

Thanks for reading the think piece and I’d love anyone opinions.

u/curlyelena — 19 days ago