u/dannyfortesque

Some thoughts on Obsession

My friend, her boyfriend and I saw Obsession last night. I thought it was fine, some parts had me yawning. I didn't think it was bad at all but also not scary. Her and her boyfriend absolutely loved the movie.

We tried to discuss it a little on the walk home but it felt like we watched two different movies almost. I admittedly am not the most media literate and I like doing deep dives on movies after I've seen them to get a better grasp.

Obviously, the entire movie is a woman being taken advantage of, made to do things against her will, being assaulted. One point we talked about was the scene when he leaves and she freezes and pees herself. To me, my first thought was how assault victims can start to have accidents after being assaulted. My friend snapped back at me that it was obviously to prove she'd been possessed by a demon. She did mention that she watched interviews with director beforehand, so I get being wrong on that one. But I guess it felt almost more layered or it's possible to read into the movie in different ways? I think maybe they focused far more on the demon aspect and I focused more on how it's a.. retelling of reality I suppose? We at least agreed on hating the "adorkable" main character.

We vehemently disagreed on the ending though. To them, they were glad Bare died and that she got to live, a "finally the woman makes it out" type feeling. We've talked extensively before about our exhaustion with the excessive and often fetishization of torturing women in movies and women always having the worst fuckin time. But to me? That was possibly the worst ending. The entire time, Bare has to face no real repercussions for what he's done to her. He's scared, sure, but it read very much to me as how men can treat women to the point of breaking, then play the victim and call the women crazy. Meanwhile, she's pleading for death, hurting herself, and ends up killing her friends basically under his possession. And even at the very end, the loser faces no pain. Can't shoot himself, but swallows a bunch of pills so he feels basically nothing. He gets out, pain free, after everything he's caused. And she wakes up, and is herself again, and has to deal with the reality that she killed two of her friends and the third killed himself. Deal with what she's put her body through, what's been done to her. In all reality, she likely is getting her ass sent to jail and has to live with that insane unfathomable trauma, all stemming from one mans selfish actions. His choices become her burden to bear, and essentially ruin her life. I argued that is in no way shape or form a good ending for her. That in this specific scenario, I don't think the woman living was the happy ending for her.

They argued that she's a pretty woman and people understand there aren't perfect victims and she could easily plea he was obsessed with her and was assaulting her and he drove her to do it, and get off scot free and just live her life. I argued that there was a room full of witnesses of her being unstable and the aggressor that could argue against her.

I'm not saying they're wrong for their opinions, or that my reading for the movie even makes sense, but I'm curious on other people's takes. I get I'm already odd man out because the movie didn't scare me and I thought it was just fine, but is this a case of me being painfully dumb or does it make sense?

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u/dannyfortesque — 2 days ago
▲ 5 r/DocMartens+1 crossposts

"Breaking in" or no good?

*Added spoiler tag for a bit of a gnarly heel picture*

I've owned only one pair of docs in the past, they were no slip Chelsea boots and I had 0 issue, comfy and easy peasy. I bought some Sinclair platform boots in my usual size 10. I messed around with the laces until they fit my foot in every way except the heel. The heel moves around ever so slightly and fucking wrecks my heels. Not blisters, but literally shaving off layers of my skin. I've added insoles, I wear gel blister pads with layers of bandaids and socks.

On the doc page for them, most reviews say they had to size down. I don't know if I need to size down (I fear they'd be too small at that point), or if this is "breaking in" (I don't really know what that even means) or what. It feels like blades are in my shoe and it's making me limp around. Any suggestions? Lost cause? I really hope not because I love how they look dearly.

u/dannyfortesque — 8 days ago

I got my d-ticket and am at the Manheim station for a train to cochem. I just sat here and watched my train board and leave utterly confused so now I'm here for two hours until the next one.

On the DB app, it said I needed the RE1 headed to trier. On the screen of the train, it said Treis-Kaden. The train was also 10 minutes early, so I figured mine was the next one. The DB app for my train in 2 hours says to take the one to Trier hbf too. If it says Tries-Kaden again... Thats the one I want, right? 🥲

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u/dannyfortesque — 21 days ago

I'm not having as much luck as I have previously meeting other solo travelers so my trip here has been pretty quiet and very solo. I was curious if there's any bars with the best chance to hang out with locals or other travelers, or even just bartenders willing to chat at this point haha.

I don't have much interest in anything high end. I'm an alternativey woman in my early 30s and like grungey places. So far I've seen Bent recommended (I feel ill probably end up there) or I found Cave 54 which looks incredibly cool but concerning reviews. I also saw posts for some trance music thing happening a little ways from me with dj Gianni, I think a dj ssamm or something like that, and I don't recall the third. If this sounds familiar to anyone, are these events actually popular? I can't say I'm looking to dance but I love shooting the shit and indulging in an experience.

If there's any recommendations or anything going on that might fit the bill for a not so fine meetup, please let me know!

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u/dannyfortesque — 23 days ago
▲ 1 r/StraightTalk+1 crossposts

I don't understand how really any of this works so please forgive my ignorance. 2 years ago, I went to Ireland from the US for a week. I used the esim Airlo. It was fine I suppose, I seemed to need to top it off quite often and got pricier than I expected.

My issue was, I ended up stranded or unable to participate in things because trying to purchase a ticket would prompt some sort of 2FA via text. But I couldn't receive texts, and it wouldn't offer any other option. It screwed me over royaly.

Now, I'm on my way to Germany and was suggested to use Saily. I emailed my bank to notify of travel and ask them to temporarily turn off the 2FA. They said it's not their doing, it's prompted by visa or the merchant. So now I'm afraid of it happening again. Straight talk says my phone isn't eligible to add on the international calling and texting. It also says it isnt eligible to use wi-fi calling. I'm using a pixel 5.

Is there a way to receive texts while using Saily? What exactly does one do when they need to receive a text that will only go to their original phone number that somehow isn t eligible for anything?

Thank you for any advice or if anyone can point in the right direction/a more applicable sub!

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u/dannyfortesque — 25 days ago