u/darknix19

assalamu’alaykum everyone :3

I’m just gonna go straight to the point. I’ve been pondering on love. I’m not dating, not talking to anyone at all, i’m just curious on the psychology of men (unfortunately 🌚)
So the question is :
What do men look for ?

I know alot of people will say these:
-Deen
- Personality
- Looks ( physical appearance)

But I think compatibility in a relationship goes deeper than just these 3 aspects. I’ve seen people picking one or the others or all 3. But humans are so complex generally, so i’m curious ~ what other traits do men admire/look for when talking to a woman?
And what makes a man head over heels for someone?

Thanks to anyone who responds !! ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

I’m 22 and i’ve met men from many walks of life. I immediately lost interest in them the moment they did ONE thing.

Each time i wasn’t shocked. I wasn’t surprised, i just thought :” ofc it went there. You’re a man”
Every time a man talked about anything remotely SEXUAL or Physical, it became such a MASSIVE turn off. And i’m sure many many women agree on this- especially if they’re deep into the deen.

You meet a guy who seems cute, religious, and respectful at first. But regardless of the hints you send them - the polite decline, the respectful words you use with them. They struggle to remain faithful to Allah, or abstain from vain desires.
I’m not asking for the most pious man, but a man who tries his best to remain “ gentleman-like” or God fearing, that is so so attractive.

And later down the line if marriage does occur- inshaAllah it will be amazing. No rancour, no remorse, no negative emotions festering.

Sometimes all women need is just someone who sees them BEYOND just sex.
Beyond just bodies.

So for any man reading this- i hope you get something out of this. Women are not defined by their mere bodies, and the moment you learn to appreciate her for who she is, for her personality, her kindness, her piousness, her beautiful soul, that’s when you truly win her over. Not by mere words, but by how safe you make her feel.

Just here to say that i’m recovering pretty quickly ! I’m very thankful and also very hungry lol

I have a few questions since all of us have different surgeons - it would be interesting to see how others have got on during the “ soft food phase “

How was it ?

At how many days post op did yall start your soft food diet ?

and what kind of foods did you guys have at this stage ?
For breakfast - i’ve been having
a blend of milk and cereal, yoghurt and a smoothie !
For lunch - a blend of soup with bits
dinner - soup soup soup 💀
( i need more recipes )

This helps
me but i’m sure others will find it super helpful too 😌