u/darwazatoddo

If I don't get a job I'll attach my worth with how well I do the household work

I've been doing this for the past so many years. Graduated, no job cause I thought I am capable of a particular professional course. I wasn't. Wasted years sitting at home, studying, and over the years, I have developed the skill of keeping the house clean always, like not a speck of dust anywhere. 4-5 hrs would just go by doing all the work.

It became my routine, but lately, I just feel extra frustrated cause why am I not working? The entire house works because I know what's kept where, things only get done if I do it. The house members have grown used to it.

But yeah, I just feel purposeless. Frustrated. Like an unsatisfied housewife. Who am I living for? If I generate money and add value, at least I can say I am working towards the economy lol. That's just my opinion don't jump on me. I've always attached my worth to how well I study. Teachers would say I had a "bright future". The brightness is on full maybe that's why I can't see anything.

Now a decent normal career is out of question, I'm only left with house work. I had unusual period cramps today, but had to first complete the work around the house to finally lie down and sleep. Merely out of habit, cause I know if I don't do it, nobody would.

I feel like an old woman. I feel like those women who are waiting to get married but aren't getting any prospects. I feel like a burden for my parents.

I had my exams a few days ago, my last subject was fucked and yk we were discussing since the papers were over, and I said, "Who's gonna hire me with these many gaps?" and one of the guy friends said, "Yk what, just find a rich man and settle down." I looked at his gf first then laughed it off, obviously cause it was meant to be a joke. No seriously. It was a joke. But the situation in which I am now, I couldn't see it as a joke. Felt kinda distasteful. They all are 3-4 years younger than me. So in their eyes, I am fit to get married. I'm 24.

Over the period of 3 days of applications to jobs, I got rejected already in 2. Well at least they informed. I need a job asap. Earlier when I wasn't applying to jobs, I had less sense of urgency and I was ok. But nowadays, it's just getting to me.

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u/darwazatoddo — 9 days ago

Someone said I would have to do walk-ins

He said referrals dont really work practically, I would have to do walk-ins. I put all of my efforts in applying and getting referrals, and then it gets called bs by people.

Are walk-ins really the thing? I have no problem in doing so but not daily companies give out walk-in invitations right?

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u/darwazatoddo — 10 days ago

Few questions about M.Com through IGNOU

When will the application process start for the next session? Also can the course be managed with a job, or some other professional course and studies? Is the course too time and effort demanding?

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u/darwazatoddo — 11 days ago

Need urgent help

I am 24, Bcom Hons. Graduate, Quitting ca inter. I have 3 years gap.

I am looking for jobs in accounting roles. There are many vacancies and hirings in cos like ibm, genpact, accenture, but it feels like a distant dream for me. I dont envision myself getting shortlisted.

How are these people getting jobs there? I search on linkedin and people work there in the roles that I wanted. I wonder hpw do they apply.

Ok, i get that messaging people and reaching out to the hiring team directly helps, but where to get their contact?

Someone said there is a skill for finding jobs which i lack, i need guidance urgently.

I need serious help and pls show me the way. The gap years are dangerous, idk who will hire me, but i wanna leave nothing lacking, and try everything to get a job urgently.

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u/darwazatoddo — 11 days ago

Need urgent help

I am 24, Bcom Hons. Graduate, Quitting ca inter. I have 3 years gap.

I am looking for jobs in accounting roles. There are many vacancies and hirings in cos like ibm, genpact, accenture, but it feels like a distant dream for me. I dont envision myself getting shortlisted.

How are these people getting jobs there? I search on linkedin and people work there in the roles that I wanted. I wonder hpw do they apply.

Ok, i get that messaging people and reaching out to the hiring team directly helps, but where to get their contact? Also I am thinking of nor disclosing the ca thing in the cv too. If they ask what I did in the interviews, I will tell them I was attempting for ca. Is it wise?

Someone said there is a skill for finding jobs which i lack, i need guidance urgently.

I need serious help and pls show me the way. The gap years are dangerous, idk who will hire me, but i wanna leave nothing lacking, and try everything to get a job urgently.

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u/darwazatoddo — 11 days ago

Shift from ca to what from these options?

24F. I have a few suggestions from people and parents and msyelf. Want help in shortlisting them.

  1. M. Com from IGNOU

  2. Private job asap

  3. Govt job prep

  4. CMA or other professional course

yk i have these options. I have mba too but i dont have the confidence and brain good enough to crack CAT in such a way that I get admn in a top tier college.

I never wanted to prep for govt job too cause its equally uncertain to CA, (for me, not generalising) if not more. Also its like a complete shift from all this. BUT the situation is so bad, I dont wanna write it off like that.

My personal fav - M. com from ignou + Govt job prep + Pvt job cause I don't wanna sit at home anymore, also i wanna earn now., at least for myself. But at the same time, I dont wanna put the entire belief on govt job and have no backups, the mistake i did when i started having attempts in ca. This is confusing af. Or am I making this confusing?

I am soo clueless cause i dont know what will work for me atp.

The pvt job is a must anyway cause I want to do something productive, i hope this will boost and bring the self confidence back a bit. I dont know who will hire me with 3 yrs of gap.

My another fav is Pvt job + CMA Inter+ m. COM ignou. M. com ignou is also good to go cause it only needs attention during half a month of exam ig. And skill up to end up in a decent place.

So what I WANT FROM you all who quit like me -

  1. Which among these look lucrative to you?

  2. How to get hired in a good decent co., with my 3 yrs of gap. I Dont wanna work in lala companies, I have some lala companies in hand with me, but i know i wont be able to quit them if I have to.

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u/darwazatoddo — 12 days ago

Need advice urgently

I am 24, Bcom Hons. Graduate, Quitting ca inter. I have 3 years gap.

I am looking for jobs in accounting roles. There are many vacancies and hirings in cos like ibm, genpact, accenture, but it feels like a distant dream for me. I dont envision myself getting shortlisted.

How are these people getting jobs there? I search on linkedin and people work there in the roles that I wanted. I wonder hpw do they apply.

Ok, i get that messaging people and reaching out to the hiring team directly helps, but where to get their contact?

Someone said there is a skill for finding jobs which i lack, i need guidance urgently.

I need serious help and pls show me the way. The gap years are dangerous, idk who will hire me, but i wanna leave nothing lacking, and try everything to get a job urgently.

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u/darwazatoddo — 12 days ago

You would be lucky if you ever see me

I am 24. grad over in 2023. g2 clear in jan 2025.

i have nothing else to write about me, no qualifications, nothing i can proudly hold against my name.

you will be lucky to ever come across from me cause you prolly have never seen a failure as big as me.

i am quitting ca for good now. i have nothing to hold on to. i am back to square one.

to be honest up ntil last year's January, i was so clueless and was in full on masti mode, wold cry when i woouldn't pass but yeah i had no sense of urgency.

until i passed in jan, it felt like i was given a chance.

it shouldnt have happened, see where that small success landed me. im deep deep into being nothing in life.

after giving today's tax paper, i came home, and straight up cried. funny thing, i thoght i only had to do 2 questions per section, so took my sweet time to do the st liability question. in the last 1.25 hrs, i had entire dt, and the remaining questions of gst. i did not know astral projection but i saw my soul leave my body at that time. quick quick, i did my gst whatever i know, left ig a 5 marks question, went to dt, started doing the residential ques, skipped one in between ig, then started the first question. i had 10 mins remaining. scribbled whatever i knew, then forgot to mark the 3-4 mcqs i was gonna do inki pinki ponki in. they took my paper.

my tears have dried and my parents were so good to me to not evict me from the house. they instead asked me to quit it and do something else. they started suggesting. mcom from open, govt jobs, bank jobs, jobs in mncs, mba, B.Ed, digital marketing.

at this age of 24, i have nothing to give my parents as a guarantee. what would i be. ca gave me a sense of purpose. now i am the way i was when i graduated.

idk what to do now. my morales are extremely low. the feeling of why should i live afterall have been in my mind all the time now for some weeks. this one reinforced the idea. but yeah, if i was courageous enough wouldn't i take steps to change my life?

what should i do? the job search thing is too tiring, and would it work on someone who has 3 yrs of absolute void in her career?. i odnt have enough people to give me referral, i am at the peak of unemployability. like i have nothing other than 3 yrs of wasted potential years.

yk what its all on me. not the institue, not anyone but me. but yeah, usually I would have some optimism about life, now i am hopeless and i feel like something inside me died.

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u/darwazatoddo — 14 days ago

Will they ask limits? for the last two time, they asked penalties so much, I started hating the subject. Since every question in jan 2026 were like "What are the consequences faced by the director for taking a dump in his neighbor's porch" i am confused if tomorrow is gonna be a similar fate for me. I took efforts this time to remember the no of days and form numbers, idk penalty is soooo tiring and so risky.

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u/darwazatoddo — 18 days ago