I recommend to go through my previous post "Setting the record straight" before reading this one.

GNC, passing .... etc

One of the goals of the "gender nonconformity to one's sex based gendered stereotypes" movement was to enable trans people to change their gender expression to that which did not match socially acceptable stereotypes for their sex group.

People used to use this line "clothes have no gender". Particularly for trans people, it was and is a way to socially normalize that it was okay for an AMAB person to wear dresses, and an AFAB person to wear trousers.

But do you notice something here? the sex of the trans person is acknowledged in the language, which developed in a way to separate sex and gender. Sex not equal to gender identity forms the basis for the trans movement.

The implications are profound.

Trans people's sexuality

Back then, the people who gave trans people THE certificates, they made sure that the trans individual had a firm understanding that post transition they shouldn't be changing from straight to homosexual or from homosexual to straight labels, if the target of their attraction stayed consistent.

However, in general -

1. gay men aren't attracted to trans women.
2. lesbian women aren't attracted to trans men.
3. straight men who are attracted to trans women, are not into men.
4. straight women who are attracted to trans men, are not into women.

yet based on technicality of sex and sexual attraction labels, straight partners of trans people would be considered bi/homosexual, which does not do justice to the totality of the trans experience, and erodes the sexuality of the straight partners.

On the other hand, using labels based on gender identity also does not do justice to the totality of trans experience, like for example, no one should be forced to date trans people simply based on identity alone.

Context -

The language and terms associated with this condition has been overwritten and continues to be overwritten by a certain group of people. (Seriously, only a handful of people maybe aware of to what extent this revisionism has taken place, and is happening).

I left these spaces a long time ago, and I was content to live life on the sidelines, but the generations that came, they effed everything up.

So, this is my attempt to set some of the record straight. It sure as heck will bruise a lot of minds, but so be it. I hope, from what I have seen of this sub, that at least here, people are willing to listen and introspect.

(A word of caution - the movement was hardly linear and uniform, so take what I am saying with a grain of salt)

##1 "Gender is a social construct"

This came about as a result of THE experiment by THE John Money, and a lot of activists wrote stuff that expounded and expanded on what this could mean socially.

It became a thing that one could "choose" one's gender based on behavior, presentation etc.

This was believed to be true, until the Money experiment was debunked by one Dr. Diamond, who did Reimer and humanity a big service by exposing how the experiment had failed. But even then, we continue today with "gender is a social construct".

The correction here is that "gender expression is a social construct", not gender "identity", which was rooted in psychology, as a strong dissociation or disconnect with one's natal sex, leading to complications, disruptions in social interactions and so on and so forth.

Essentially, in short, one cannot be made trans, neither can one "choose" their identity. People can only choose how to express themselves socially. Changing one's social expression doesn't mean anything w.r.t having/not having a strong dissociation or disconnect with one's natal sex. Those are completely distinct and different things.

##2 - "Normalize the bulge"

LOL.

Before this was a thing, people did something called tucking. Duct tapes, gaffs, what have you. Tucking was primarily done to avoid "the bulge".

However, it began to be seen as harmful, and in my time I did come across one case of the person ending up needing surgery down there anyways, due to the damage the tucking did.

Anyways, the people began doing away with tucking. At first, it seemed innocent enough that people wanted to avoid something harmful, and initially people tried to normalize it in a different, non erotic way (think "free the nipple"). It did not work out at all. that was taken over by ... uhem, uhem ... who wanted nothing more than to shove that thing in other people's faces. And on and on and on. Everything went downhill, until we come to "go*k".

##3 - "gender non conformity"

It was actually about been non conforming to natal sex based gendered stereotypes, rather than been non conforming to one's "gender". (cisgender vs transgender, but oh lord, shall we tell them, or better to leave this one alone?)

##4 - AMAB, AFAB, pronouns, misgendering, meltdown etc

*sigh*. People used to be more based. no one had complete meltdowns over "wrong" pronouns. In fact, pronouns weren't even a thing. If we wanted to not get misgendered, it was our duty to make the herculean effort to pass, to voice train, to put every goddamn effort.

Sadly, even the passing/clocking thing has been degraded and holes drilled into it in all possible ways, until none of the original intent has remained. For one, passing wasn't supposed to be taken to the extremes, like so many people do nowadays with extreme surgeries and so on.

##6 - leaving life in the open vs living a quite private life

As people in this sub tend to notice, except for a few who built their "brands" on giving out accurate information with regards to surgeries etc, many transsexuals have moved on, many aren't even active on social media at least in any major way connected to their trans identities. some are actors, some are business people, some are engineers, but most have moved on focusing on other aspects of their lives post transition.

But nowadays, we see many people doing that thing. you know that thing, right?

##5 - "transmedicalism is not a thing"

Well. Tell that to all the professionals from Hirschfield to Diamond to Benjamin, and everyone in between.

Yours truly,

Dracula.

P.S. more to come, but i want more blood first, as I am just risen from the dead, after centuries of slumber.