u/dhoomchuttd

I cant stop crying rn.

Update to my previous post - https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianWomen/s/8vok19Ng69

I met him and confronted him, and he kept defending himself. First, he said " No, it’s not in may , I used a filter on snap that’s why it’s showing may " basically trying to make a fool out of me. Then he said he would go home and check his iPad, blah blah. He tried his best to lie, and then in the end, he finally accepted it. No apology nothing ,he's not owning anything , just doing formality. Tryna blameshit as well. now saying meet me tomorrow , you're overwhelmed , i will wait for you etc etc.

I’m so devastated right now. Why did he do this? Did I waste my first time? I’m just crying and I don’t know what to do. I feel like everything is gone. Why i did all that idk what to do anymore

I (21F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for a little over 4 months. Today, we almost had sex for the first time. It would have been my first time ever.

For some context, I’ve always been very open about my past relationships. He, on the other hand, has a history of casual hookups. I told him multiple times that I wouldn’t judge him for his past and that I just wanted honesty even tho his past makes me insecure , but i was working on it.

The problem is that his story has never been consistent. At first he told me he’d been with around 10 girls, then later it became 25 or maybe more , still i stayed , i didnt fight or something. He also told me that his last hookup was about 1- 1.5 years before we got into a relationship.

Today, after we were intimate, I checked his phone for the first time (I know that wasn’t right). I found pictures from May 2025 where he was celebrating a girl’s birthday & some lovey dovey photos with her, etc. That directly contradicts what he told me about when his last hookup was. It was 4-4.5 months ago, also he was texting me at that time as well.

What hurts me isn’t even his past. What bothers me is the lying. He constantly says he hates liars and that honesty is important to him, yet I’ve caught him being dishonest about something I specifically told him he could be honest about.

Now I’m questioning everything. If he lied about this, what else has he lied about? He’s always been very lowkey and private, and now I feel like I don’t know what’s true anymore , theres so much stuff that i dont know.

The timing makes it even worse. This happened on the same day we were intimate for the first time, and now I haven’t slept at all. I’ve just been crying and replaying everything in my head. And hes not that emotionally available as well, i feel so stupid.

I feel like I can’t trust him anymore, what the f i did , why i did that but I also don’t know if I’m overreacting. How would you handle this situation?

Edit : i havent confronted him yet , will do in 2-3 days ,before that i will change my passwords and will do few things because i already knows whats gonna happen.