u/dirtbike0754

I am a mid-30s man who was born with two visible birthmarks. One is located on my thumb (size of a nickel) and the other on my elbow (size of a quarter). I had the one on my thumb removed years ago due to looks and potential cancerous nature.

My whole life, I have struggled socially. Despite being a really nice, funny, polite, kind-hearted, exceedingly respectful individual, I have faced massive amounts of disrespect, invalidation, hatred, mocking and social outcasting from others. This has happened at school, in the workplace, at the bar, etc.

As I reflect back on my life, it seems to me that maybe all (or most) of my social struggles are tied to the birthmark on my right hand. Not to toot my own horn, but objectively speaking, I am a handsome, athletic, healthy and attractive man. I have excellent hygiene. I have never struggled to attract women, in fact I’ve slept with many highly attractive women and done quite well. But men seem to treat me poorly and run away from me.

So it’s got me thinking, why do I struggle so much to make friends with other men? Do they treat me so poorly due to the deformities on my body, because I am a bigger dude (former football player) who carries extra weight on my frame, or what?

I don’t expect Reddit to have the answers necessarily, as you all don’t know me. But any thoughts, insight, etc. are welcome.

Thanks for reading.

Hi Reddit,

Long story short, I am estranged from my family at 36 years old.

Today, I slipped and unblocked my mother and sent her a message. It turned into a large fight, with my stepfather fighting me and my mother threatening to call the police.

Years ago, like 2014, my dumbass mother confronted my doctor and called him a “quack” for writing my Adderall prescription. Seriously. For the record, I am diagnosed ADHD- Inatttentive and Bipolar Disorder 1, if it matters.

Fast forward to 2025-2026. Everytime I get in a fight with my toxic family, they accuse me of “abusing Adderall”, tell me that I was different unmedicated, etc. I take my meds as prescribed and have never taken more than prescribed. They blame my anger on “Adderall” instead of accepting responsibility for their terrible behavior.

My family is now blocked again. But really, what the F?

Anybody else got a similar story?