u/docalibus

what's the one podcast episode you keep returning to whenever you're at your lowest, and why?

Suggest me a criminally and painfully underrated book people barely talk about!

Looking for a crime, detective, or thriller novel that has a serious dark story, but also lots of humor.

Not necessarily a full comedy or parody but more like a book with real stakes, crime, danger, maybe violence, but with funny dialogues or absurd situations, funny characters etc.

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I(m38) am single since August 2025 and don't know how to handle the thought of staying single for longer time, I honestly didn't have much time for dating last year as there was a lot going on in my life but loneliness started creeping in slowly and makes me feel uncomfortable.

I've been married for 10 years, had 3 relationships after my marriage and small encounters here and there but since 2025 its been dry and I don't know how to handle this.

I do attend some meetup events and recently downloaded Tinder (oh god, I hate dating apps) but sofar nothing gas come of it.

I do love being on my own as well, taking care of my son and doing my hobbies etc. its not like I'm constantly thinking about finding a partner but there are days I feel extremely lonely and that makes me uncomfortable. It kinda affects my self-estemn as well..

So how do you deal with loneliness? How realistic is it to find a partner in late 30s early 40s?

I Would love to read some books, that helped you stay calm and collected when life becomes overwhelming or things go wrong.

Many thanks!