u/douxfaery

For me personally, at first glance, I thought the wasian meetup was something funny, something quite silly, until I started to watch more videos of what happened during the event. There’s definitely other issues with this event, but I feel like no one’s really spoken about this issue I’ve kind of had with this?

I felt like in that event, people were very fixated on who’s the Asian parent, and who’s the white parent. With some of the wasians with Asian fathers acting like it’s some sort of achievement to not have an Asian mother.

I dunno. Maybe I’m being sensitive. Or that this is a reach. But as someone who’s half New Zealander half Filipina, I’d get stereotyped as my father being some lonely and desperate passport bro who ‘rescued’ my mum from the slums of the Philippines or some shit. When it’s all completely wrong.

Of course there’s nothing wrong with asking people who’s the Asian one in a casual conversation, but seeing some people in the meet up act like it’s a flex or an achievement to have an Asian father really rubs me the wrong way. Especially because I personally have memories of this girl who’d embarrass and humiliate me at school for having an Asian mum and white father whenever the topic of passport bros and Southeast Asia came up. She was wasian herself, but East Asian.

Edit: I just want to also clarify that in no way am I being hateful towards those who have Asian fathers. I could care less about who’s the Asian parent, I personally just have an issue when people think it’s some sort of ‘achievement’ to dodge that kind of stereotyping because your father is Asian.

For me personally, at first glance, I thought the wasian meetup was something funny, something quite silly, until I started to watch more videos of what happened during the event. There’s definitely other issues with this event, but I feel like no one’s really spoken about this issue I’ve kind of had with this?

I felt like in that event, people were very fixated on who’s the Asian parent, and who’s the white parent. With some of the wasians with Asian fathers acting like it’s some sort of achievement to not have an Asian mother.

I dunno. Maybe I’m being sensitive. Or that this is a reach. But as someone who’s half New Zealander half Filipina, I’d get stereotyped as my father being some lonely and desperate passport bro who ‘rescued’ my mum from the slums of the Philippines or some shit. When it’s all completely wrong.

Of course there’s nothing wrong with asking people who’s the Asian one in a casual conversation, but seeing some people in the meet up act like it’s a flex or an achievement to have an Asian father really rubs me the wrong way. Especially because I personally have memories of this girl who’d embarrass and humiliate me at school for having an Asian mum and white father whenever the topic of passport bros and Southeast Asia came up. She was wasian herself, but East Asian.

Edit: I just want to also clarify that in no way am I being hateful towards those who have Asian fathers. I could care less about who’s the Asian parent, I personally just have an issue when people think it’s some sort of ‘achievement’ to dodge that kind of stereotyping because your father is Asian.

I’m a kiwi born and raised in Hong Kong so I never really needed to learn how to drive as everything is so dense, walkable and the transport is cheap and efficient. The laws here are that you can only learn to drive when you’re 18 too (I’m 19 now). I’m coming here for uni after dropping out of my uni in the UK. Probably just gonna be staying in the CBD area and probably should learn to drive while I’m in Auckland haha.

I also want to ask this, but as a woman I often get reminded by friends and family that I need to be cautious at night. My dad even tells me he wouldn’t be out in Auckland at night. Of course you’d need to be aware of your surroundings and stuff, and I’m trying to adopt this now, but would you say it’s bad at night for a woman? But to be fair I keep seeing stuff online about the CBD being dead at night anyways. And I don’t even go out at night.