u/drunk_rider

Firstly, I'm sorry I'm not sure whether this is a correct sub to post it or not.

(Short version available at bottom)

I'm 26M - software developer

Life lo enni failures face chesina mana badha ni share cheskunedi oka best friend tho matrame but na life lo bestfriend(s) ey naku badha ni istunaru.

I used to have a best friend (i felt like that) in my childhood we used to be good friends but later i found out he is just behind my pocket money and all my stuff like games and books.

Tarwata inkoadu na frnd ga vundevadu until we joined our diploma we were so close and used to be good friends, no one else used to come b/w us. Until I found out he is the one back bitching about me and andariki na gurinchi ekada lenivi anni chepi bad chesadu. Hostel lo evaru lekunda okadine vunde vadini. Parents ki duram ga ade first time vundadam all of a sudden nenu okadine andaritho fight chestuna ani anipinchindi.

Later in diploma 3rd yr he came to be and apologized and oka manchi frnd laga malli act chesadu (i didn't know that initially, I was so innocent and kind hearted) ala nen academics lo help chesa Vadiki. I used to be good at engineering drawing and technicals so he came back to use me again... One fine day diploma aipoyindi we both have backlogs (me 1 & he 2) so together we joined an institute for an advanced supplementary exam. There also I helped him and we both cleared our backlogs.

Tarwata, he started ignoring me and malli mosapoyina ani late ga realised.

During the same period i connected with one of my schoolmates (F) in fb. She became my best friend in a short period of time. Even though we were in the same class I never used to talk to girls in school. Mem chala close iddaram bestfriends ani fix aipoyam, we had so many good conversations and used to share all our daily life, alage badha ni kuda panchukunam. Naku evaru leni time lo tanu supportive ga vundi virtually and on phone calls. Ala ala ma iddari graduation(b tech) aipoyindi. But tanaki nakante mundu job vachindi and she is working and became busy in life, nen kuda ade period of time lo institute lo join aiyyi skill nerchukuna for job hunting. Tana bava tho small love life and adi workout avaledu ani she used to share all her feelings with me. Nen chala help chesa to make her feel good and come out of that sadness. Tarwata vala bava ki pelli set aindi. Alage naaku kuda oka one sided love vundi since childhood (same school), na bf chala sarlu Chepina kuda patinchukoledu na vishyalu epudu she just used to ignore my feelings.

Fast forward to a few months later nen na childhood love Anukuna ammai met aiyam. And we both are in love, kani ee vishyam evariki chepadu ani tanu request chesindi.

Tarwata my bestie ki Chepina I met her ani. It was fine till here, later nene na bestie ki Chepina mem love lo vunam ani. This is where she started acting weird and started ignoring me. Ala nen na bf bday ani marchipoya (not because I'm in love but I was busy in other work) apudu nunchi she started ignoring me more than before. Msgs ki response ledu, calls ki response ledu. Edaina adigithe answer cheyadu, but nen matram tanaki anni answer ivali. Inka ala natho 2-2½yrs matlada ledu naku kuda kopam vachi vodilesa.

Recently like 7-8 months nunchi mem Malli matladukunam. Then I asked her natho Enduku matladadam manesavu ani daniki tanu ichina response *"nuv naku ni love set Aina vishyam late ga chepavu, ma bava pelli valla i was depressed & naku kavalsina time lo evaru leru including you anduke neetho matladadam manesa"*. I was like seriously? I was the one who was supporting her emotionally all the time. At last manchiga vuna kuda nen bad aipoyina. ee past few months mem malli normal ga vunam (not like what we used to be before but with a better matured mindset - at least me).

Yesterday, we were in a call and discussing something and i was explaining to her about investments and financial planning, then she started denying whatever I'm saying.

Nenu normal ga ila cheyakudadu adi wrong thinking, risk ekuva, money ekuva pothai ani chepina danike call cut chesesindi. Malli cheste answer cheyatledu then i started questioning her whats wrong?. Daniki tanu ichina response *"nuv nannu chala low chesi matladtunav, nannu evaru Aina takuva chesi matladithe naku nachadu, I was observing for a few days and I'm not liking it"*

Generally, friends ante edo oka funny nick name vuntadi and chala jovial ga matladtam avtala person mana frnd ey kada em feel avaru le ani kani tanaki adi nachaledu anta.

Later, i started questioning her for my clarification then she started saying "I *don't have any friends, vundali anukune vallu vuntaru lekapothe potharu evari gurinchi naku avsram ledu, nenu ilage vuntanu*".

Tarwata, nen okati Chepina "*Okati matram nijam cheptuna idhe way of mentality tho vunte nuv repu ni future love life lo chala problems vastai. Nee gurinchi intha telsina naatho ne neeku avatledu. Evaro teliyani valatho ela move avagalavu? Koncham change cheskovali nuv*." then she replied "*Ila matladithe Naku nachadu inkenduku set chesukovali" "ilanti aa relation ayina nenu continue cheyanu nannu nenu chikaku chesukonu na chuttu avsrm srm aythe nannu better person chese vallu kavali kani nannu urke u can't ur like this ila ane vallu Naku avsrm kuda ledu"*

I never abused, never misbehaved with her I'm a kind hearted person and chala sacrifices chesi vunna and chala Ups and downs face chesa life lo. Naa vishyalu epudu patinchukoledu tanu she always wanted to be the upper hand. Sometimes I feel like I'm simply talking to a wall.

If you've read everything and reached here thanks and I really appreciate it, please share your POV & insights what mistake i did? Na past lo nen chala sacrifice chesi na friendship ki withstand cheyadaniki chala efforts peta, at last naku migilinadi emi ledu. I lost trust in friendship.🥀😔 Inshort my life - feeling sad with 69 others to feeling sad & alone.

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*Short version* (with help of AI):

The Cycle of One-Sided Friendships

I’m 26, and lately, I’ve realized that the people I considered my "best friends" have been the ones causing me the most pain. I’ve always been the type to sacrifice for my friendships, but it's been entirely one-sided.

Looking back, my closest childhood friend only stuck around to use me for my pocket money and games. Then, during my diploma, my best friend backstabbed me, spread rumors, and completely isolated me. He later faked an apology just so I would help him study and clear his backlogs. The moment he passed, he dropped me again.

My most recent disappointment was a female best friend. I was her emotional anchor through a really tough breakup. But the moment I found my own happiness—falling for my childhood crush—and got busy building my career, she vanished. She gave me the silent treatment for over two years just because I was busy and missed a birthday.

We recently started talking again, but she actually blamed me for not being there for her. The final straw happened yesterday. I tried giving her some genuine, logical financial advice, and she took it as a massive personal attack. She essentially told me she only wants people around who blindly agree with her and validate her.

I’ve never been anything but kind and supportive to these people, but I was just talking to a wall. I put so much effort into sustaining these bonds, but I’ve realized they only valued me for what I could do for them. Honestly, I’ve completely lost trust in friendship, and it’s just left me feeling really sad and alone.

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