u/ecologyslut

On Saturday I woke up in a tent, ready to spend one last beautiful morning in the mountains with the love of my life who had gotten up before me to make me coffee. As we were sitting and having coffee, he decidedly to tell me (completely out of the blue) that he isn’t ready for commitment and doesn’t want to do this anymore. We were together for a little over 1.5 years, and had been planning to move in together this year. It’s the easiest relationship I’ve ever been in, and we had so much fun together and I actually thought I’d found my forever person. He can’t handle the idea of not being able to sleep with other people for the rest of his life apparently, and says that although he does care for me and liked what we had, he wanted to be alone. We’re in our mid 30s and talked about kids, his parents and friends love me, and my dogs are so bonded to him. I understand that this is his decision and I can’t negotiate making him love or stay with me, but I am absolutely blindsided and crushed. Additionally, having to hike out of the mountains and drive the 8 hours home together after he dropped the news on me like that was a genuinely traumatic experience for me. To make matters worse, we work in the same building so I’ll have to see him in passing indefinitely. I know the pain will fade with time, but right now everything I love that we used to do together (camping, hiking, etc) feels tainted and I genuinely cannot see the light at the end of this tunnel.

Hi all! I’m in my 30s, female, and hoping to meet friends who like to hike/camp/backpack. I’m easy going and in intermediate hiking/backpacking shape. I’ve tried researching local meetups groups in the area but haven’t found anything that seemed promising for finding like-minded pals in my age group. Any tips greatly appreciated! TIA