u/electricvamosa

I was in a pretty highly praised national youth choir as a kid (ages 7-9), and they disbanded a couple years ago. Eventually quit because I dreaded every rehearsal so much as a result of things that happened. I thought they were normal, but when I was talking about this with some (non-choir) friends, they told me it wasn't. Did other ex-kid choir people experience any of this? Or was this just our choir?

First of all, to get our attention, we were never told to quiet down. From the very first moment we walked in, our directors would whistle on their fingers in a microphone or hit the keys of the piano. This was like 30 kids ages 7-15 in a classroom type of room. We weren't super rowdy or loud, but I can understand that maybe they had prior experiences that made them want to be strict?

Whilst singing songs for the first time, we would stand in lines. Everyone who didn't sing well enough were asked to stand in front of everyone and one by one sing again what we did wrong until we got it right.

And I think this is the most normal one; obvious favoritism. In our case it was the kids who were good enough to be on the official recordings. They were let off the hook a lot more; didn't get shit when they had to miss due to illness or other private circumstances, were put apart from the rest of the group during concerts, although this served no purpose.

And just a bunch of things that made you wonder if these people should really work with kids. Like sending off a girl who was crying because her uncle was passing away, or brushing off a kid who was struggling to sing with an allergic reaction (not fatal, just annoying, I was this kid lol).

It's been almost a decade since I left it there. Just wondering if other people have similar stories? And how did it affect you/how did you deal with the effects?

I'm going to admit: I wasn't actively trying to find sustainable fashion until the start of this year. Yeah, I avoided Primark and have never bought Shein or similar sites like that. But never actively bought sustainable fashion. I thought it was too hard to find brands, until I realized that it wasnt super difficult, just had to look at what is available and around.

Now I have quite some pieces that are sustainable and also fairly made from a local store. They have a small section of clothes. I checked their labels/certificates and it looks good. I live in a small town and it takes long to get to the closest shopping mall/clothes store. So pretty much everyone buys their clothes online.

But now that store is getting rid of their clothes section.

So, I'm kind of stuck on what I could best do. I have a few options, but have some questions and notes about them too.

Making my own clothes

I've been thinking about this for a while. But the thing is: I need skill and money and time investment. And I don't really have either of those.

And if I were to make specific things myself (tops for example), how can I make sure the fabrics I use are sustainable and made fair? How can I check for this?

Vinted

This is something I see alot of people do, both online and IRL. But one of the things I'm kind of struggling with is the shipping. Most of it is shipped with just national delivery/post services. And those just aren't great emission wise. I generally try to avoid ordering things where I can. How bad really is it?

Ordering clothes from certified sustainable/fair brands

The thing I'm struggling with for this one would be the fact that on one hand I try to find sustainable and fair clothing, but then do have it shipped to me, which is bad for the environment. But does it make up? Or is it still better?

Are there any other options? What would be the best? Sorry if I didn't explain things greatly, English isnt my first language, sorry

So, I don't know how or why but recently I've been humming the notes along whenever I play the flute. Which, doesn't exactly help when I play!

What are some tips on controlling this (or possibly even managing to stop doing this?)?

Hello!

I'm currently a student at a university in my own country and am planning to possibly to a semester abroad or maybe even do a master abroad, in Norway. I'm not Norwegian, don't speak the language or know anything about the culture.

Now, I still have a good year before I need to decide, but I want to be prepared fully. Now, I kind of have two questions:

1. How do Norwegians see international students generally? How much do they care about them knowing the language and/or culture and how much is expected? I'm currently learning the language with the help of a native speaker, but I want to know what I can expect from the OG's.

2. What are the biggest icks international students/tourists do that piss off the general population? Just making sure I'm aware of my own behavior and avoid being annoying to other people!

Any other advice around the topic that wasn't mentioned in the questions is also welcome!

After graduating high school I went to university to study journalism. However, I dropped out 6 months as result of mental health related reasons (not a burnout). In september I'm returning to school. I'm wondering how to go about the gap on my resume/during job interviews. My parents advised to take it out of my resume and I did. They said people will not care if there's a gap year after high school. Is this true?

And what should I do during job interviews if they do ask about this? I want to be honest but also heard some people say it's better to give a half generic answer to avoid being turned down for being a possible liability. What is the best way to go about this?

The place where I went to sing and was the only soundproof place I knew/know of, recently closed down. The rowhouse I live in is extremely un-soundproof. I'm talking, you can hear eachother talk through the walls on normal speaking level. And unfortunately this has lead to me not wanting to be annoying and thus being quiet instead of practicing.

But it has been like this for nearly a year now and because of the lack of singing I've really been struggling just emotionally. So, I'm looking for a solution. I mostly sing musical or classical, if that is necessary information.

I've seen the belt box; is this really something that works for people? Are there (better) alternatives? Any other suggestions to atleast dim the sounds to a degree?

I have quite a handful of apps that I cannot download (examples; The Official MTA App, AFAS Pocket (needed for work) and SKIPBO). Whenever I click on the app, I get the notification that reads: "Something went wrong. No internet connection. Make sure the wifi or mobile data is on and try again."

But the thing is, this has been going on for four months now. And I have tried everything:

- Tried on wifi on 8 different locations (all solid wifi)

- Tried on mobile data (not ran out)

- Done all my Playstore updates

- More than enough storage/memory

- Restarted the phone about a billion times

- Checked to make sure the apps are compatible with my phone (which they all are)

Nothing changes. I have read the "Usual solutions" Google offered for my problem, but after trying everything, nothing worked.

The amount of apps that I can't even download seems to be increasing and now that it has even affected apps I need for work, the problem is becoming bigger.

Does anyone have an idea what I could try to do?