I've been missing 🌸 lately so I want to revisit it!
I know a lot of people see Elena Gilbert as more 🪨 or 🍄 (which I do kind of agree with), but I think her outfits are perfect for more practical situations. Adding a lace bralette or cami is a perfect way to add a sense of delicacy to an otherwise casual look!
Long story short, my third root cycles between 🌸, 🪨, and ☀️ with 🌙🔥 remaining as constants. I kind of stopped doing 🌸 for a bit because it doesn't fit my work needs (I deliberately go out of my way not to look gentle or accommodating so people know I don't play around lol). However, I'm starting to miss it and I'm not ready to give it up fully.
Something that made me believe I din't have 🌸 was the language surrounding it. There's a lot of overlap with 🍄 (modest, tidy, conservative, appropriate) and I feel like my style lacks that sense of neatness and propriety. For those of you who have 🌸 without 🍄, how does the lack of 🍄 affect things?
I live in a warm, humid climate so it's perfect for keeping cool. However, I know rougher and more natural fabric textures can look too harsh on us and I probably only have like, 10% N in Kitchener so there's that too. I'm curious if any of you guys have been able to pull it off!
I know we're not supposed to hyperfixate on facial features, but this is what tipped me off that I'm probably not a pure yin ID. From the front, I don't look like a Dramatic first and foremost at all, but from the side it's a completely different story 🤣 Does anyone else relate?
She was marketed as a sexy Audrey Hepburn, but she was too tall for G fam and I don't really feel like starting Audrey Hepburn height discourse tonight lol.
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To me, her vibe is fresh and playful but also bold and theatrical. She was also model who was famous for her versatility. All of these seem FN to me, but I wouldn't entirely rule out D either.
Edit: I think I'm definitely leaning more towards her being an atypical SD now!
It's been a while since I've posted outfits on here! There are two that I was extremely pleased with and I just realized that they do, in fact, accomodate curve + vertical.
Something I noticed while doing my line sketch is that I'm not actually short-waisted like I thought, but have a long torso in proportion to my legs with a high sitting waistline. Now, torso-to-leg ratio isn't necessarily an indicator of any specific ID, but I do feel significantly more balanced and put together when I add heels. There's a SD client in the new Facebook group who's the same height as me (5'5) and has similar proportions and she was given a similar directive, which really made me think.
I also really like how my shoes are the same color as my pants in the pic on the left because of the streamlined look. The heels bump me up to about 5'7-5'8 and the extra height feels....natural, somehow? I've also come to realize that as much as I love the stereotypical gamine look, I *cannot* do line breaks. I can do color blocking just fine, but I can't interrupt the actual outline at all or else I look stumpy lol.
On another note, Kibbe does say not to hyperfocus too much on facial features but my side profile does look similar to the verified SDs. The idea of being a Dramatic first and foremost was a little intimidating, but I can definitely see it in my facial structure and when I'm at a lower weight. I've never liked delicate, fussy details near my face and now I know why! The first pic on the second slide is from when I was 21 and I think I can already see a baby SD emerging 🤣
Anyway, I think I'm finally ready to put the whole Kibbe journey to rest. I already have Kitchener and Style Roots to help make SD my own!
Hope y'all aren't sick of me yet because I'm not ready to put this damn journey to rest yet 😁
This was actually taken 10 feet away at chest height, which I've been skeptical of because it makes me look considerably more elongated than I am irl. However, I still haven't entirely ruled out curve + vertical as the fabric on the pants seems to be falling straight down (I deliberately chose a pair that wasn't clingy to show how fabric flows).
As for posture, I have significantly more disruption in my bust area when I stand with proper posture (shoulders back and everything), but it sounds like you're supposed to take the picture with more relaxed posture?
So my style preferences tend to shift a lot depending on my mood. But even though they lack surface level cohesion, I've noticed that all my moodboards and outfits I've posted on pinterest tend to an underlying theme of contrast and discordance. Softness juxtaposed with violence, glam vs grunge, life vs death, etc. There seems to be a mix of yin and yang energy, but they fight rather than balancing each other out.
I've always felt a need for conflict in my style regardless of how much it changes, even though it's probably not consistent with Kibbe's vision. Being too soft feels inauthentic, but a complete lack of softness doesn't feel quite right either. Anyway, I'd like to check out the new book if it ever shows up in my local library soon so I can get more insight!
A common critique of this system is that height limits only exist for women, but I keep hearing that 6'0 is basically 5'6 for men? There doesn't seem to be much information on how Kibbe works for men (did the new book even mention it?), so I'd like to clear this up!
Just as I started doubting my yin-ness for the millionth time, I couldn't help but notice that Marilyn and I follow very similar principles when dressing down! I do love rolling up my pant legs and I think it's because it keeps the outline soft and rounded!
Especially since the only Sag placement I have is my North Node?
When I look back to all the times I've crashed out or felt deep emotional anguish, it was always a result of feeling restricted or getting that terrible feeling that every day is going to be exactly the same for the rest of my life. When I was ready for college, my family heavily discouraged me from pursuing a more creative field and expected me to major in something more practical like health care. While they had good intentions, it made me extremely depressed and I ended up dropping out of school because my motivation died. I have this nagging feeling that I'm not actually meant for stability and predictability, and that I'm supposed to be one of those lifelong free spirits who only settle down when they're dead 🤣