u/emmakane418

I don't track much of anything. I have the CDC app and the Pathways.org app to just keep an eye on milestones, because I don't actually know them and also because my partner and I are both ND so if my son is going to need early intervention, I want to be on top of it for his sake.

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He just turned 15 months old so I was going through the 12-15 month checklists for both. Why the heck is "Is able to self soothe when upset (12-15 months)" and "Is usually able to self calm to fall asleep (12-15 months)" a freakin ability in Pathways.org?? I have no clue if he would soothe himself because he doesn't have to? Because I nurse him to sleep or he nurses until he doesn't want to and he rolls over, cuddles against me, and falls asleep. Because when he's upset, I talk to him until I can pick him up and I comfort him until he's calm and happy again? Because *why would I leave my 15 month old baby to soothe himself?!* ***He doesn't have the brain architecture to self-regulate yet!?!?***

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Just feel the need to scream this into a group who will understand my frustration with this bs.

If you were to take a class on biologically normal infant sleep and how to be responsive to your baby day and night through the first year and beyond, what topics would you have liked covered?

I'm putting together a class to teach locally and there's so much information! I don't want to overload parents with information but I want to help them prepare and understand biologically normal infant sleep.

I was baking this evening, making crackers for a gathering I'm hosting tomorrow. As I'm rolling out the cheesy dough, I glance up at the baby monitor and see baby eyes staring out into the darkness.

I wash my hands and pause my show to prepare to go upstairs and comfort him when he starts crying. But he doesn't. He looks around, lays his head down. Raises it again and looks around. Lays back down. Shifts. Closes his eyes and just... Goes back to sleep.

I cried watching this and I'm crying typing this out. My son is a week away from 14 months and he's rolled over and gone back to sleep before but never woken like that, eyes fully open and propping his head up and then just gone back to sleep like that.

I know tomorrow may be different, but tonight my son felt safe and secure enough to wake up and go back to sleep without my assistance.

I know this is a good thing so why am I crying so much over it?

Recently discovered mama nous, thanks to this group. Love her music, it's so catchy and I feel her songs healing my inner child. But one song has me questioning some things for when my baby gets older. The lyrics are

>Stop is the magic power word!

>It makes us freeze so still

>And when you say stop to me

>I promise that I will

>Because stop is the magic power word

>We always listen to it

>And when someone says stop to you

>You promise that you'll do it

Which on the surface I love but then I think about how my son sometimes tells me, in his pre-word way coz he's 13.5 months old, that he's done with having his hair washed or done with cutting his nails. He doesn't like the shots at the doctor's office obviously, or sometimes when we're changing his diaper or brushing his teeth. There's all these things I imagine him saying stop to once he knows/says the word that I have to do. Obviously there's the "well sometimes mama and dada have to do things we don't want to do for health and hygiene" but how do we help him differentiate between us saying/doing that and protecting himself or respecting someone else saying stop? How do I tell him "when you say stop to me, I promise that I will. Stop is the magic power word, we always listen to it" but then turn around and say "actually I have to do this for your safety/health"?

I fully admit I'm probably overthinking this but I know so many people who were assaulted as children as well as I'm raising a boy and I need him to be aware of boundaries and bodily autonomy, especially as he gets older.

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~87% of the time it's so easy to take care of my son (13 months). I have energy, he's a rather happy child, we go for walks, we have playdates, we eat good, we nurse to sleep and contact nap and bedshare and it's just great, I love being a mom.

But 4 out of every 28 days it just feels impossible 😭 I have no energy. He feels my lack of energy and becomes his most whiny version of himself. My body cramps and is sore, I get stabbing pains, and I just want to couch rot and that upsets him, understandably so.

Today is day 2, I decided despite the rain we were going to go for a walk. We both get dressed, easy enough. I pull my husband's unused (ok, he used it twice, maybe 3 times) tula ftg out of the cubby. Have to fit it to my body and refit it for my son, he was 9 or 10 months old the last time he was in it. I have an onbuhimo that I love but the only raincoat I have with an add on for my son is a front carry coat so onbuhimo will not work (and do I have the energy for a wrap? Maybe if I hadn't bought a size 8 😭).

So ok, get to adjusting the carrier. I don't care much for soft structured carriers because the padding and the straps and and and. I prefer my onbuhimo, it's like a backpack and happy baby uses minimal padding. I also have a 38J cup so front carriers are just uncomfortable for me personally, especially since my son is half my height. Finally, after 30 minutes, think I've got it adjusted (side note - why the *fuck* is it so hard to latch the back clip? Am I just that limited in my shoulder range of motion? Please tell me I'm not alone 😭) and realize I need to change his diaper before we go for a walk. Unclip him, which is a workout, get him down and pants off, to heck with the potty this time. His diaper is soaked so I'm glad I decided to change him. Finish changing him and his eyes are red and he's so upset, he starts signaling for milk. Ok we'll have a quick nurse before leaving. He starts falling asleep. Debate walking with him while he sleeps except he's been toying with one nap a day and I'll be damned if I don't rest while he naps (also he wants to nap 3-4 hours after waking up but then wants to skip his afternoon nap so our day is up between 6 and 8, first nap between 10 and 11, sleep till around 1 usually, and then if we do a second nap it'd be around 4-6pm but when he skips it, he's ready for bed at 9 still so 8 hours awake?? I'm dying here)

So now the carrier and my beanie are tossed to the ground, my contacts are upstairs coz I forgot to put them in, my glasses are also upstairs, so I'm going to have a headache most likely today, my water is in the kitchen, but my baby is warm and curled up in my lap sleeping.

I'm just tired. Not looking for solutions, it's just been an overwhelming morning and I needed to vent about it.