u/endeneuter

Cisgenders gave me body dysmorphia as a kid that I still struggle with today. They say horribly transphobic things everywhere I go. I see cisgenders and normal people as equals (physically, spiritually, etc.) in reality but there is a socially-enforced difference that will make me always see people who haven't transitioned as inferior in a way, because they ruined my life in a lot of ways and many actively try to make my life harder. I think I would have far less empathy than I do now if I weren't born transsexual, which also makes me grateful for my experiences in a way. Especially now that I don't have dysphoria it's easy for me to look back on my life and be glad I can use my past to be more understanding of people different from me.

There are a lot of cisgender people that are nice. I tell dates that I transitioned because I don't want a partner to be transphobic, and all of them have been very accepting. They are sometimes nicer than how the average trans man acts towards me lol. But I still don't trust them by default and never will, so I will never be able to mentally blend in and see myself as a regular member of society. Am I a normal person physically and socially? Yeah. But I am not a cisgender and wouldn't want to be one at this point in my life.

I seriously don't know why people are asking why someone would have an issue with cisgender people.

Cisgender people see you and I as less than themselves be default. Even the allies. Go into a FTM space or something and there will be some cisgender man who views himself as more of a man giving backhanded compliments or giving shitty advice.

Cisgender people telling me as a kid that testosterone wouldn't change my bone structure, and the constant representation and art they made of trans men gave me severe body dysmorphia that I still struggle with today because I was convinced that I would grow up to be an ugly, hairy, fat woman.

Tucutes are literally cisgender and are the result of their transphobic ignorance surrounding transsexual people and dysphoria. The people "making cis people hate us" are cis too! It's all just cisgender people fucking around and making our lives harder in every way possible.

I know many of you are pre-transition but you need to understand that you are part of a very misunderstood minority group, and there is not going to be a real reason for cisgender people disliking you sometimes. Probably most of the time. They are just too fucking stubborn to show compassion to a minority group and will hate you by default.

Also to a lot of cis people, it's the fully transitioned true transsexuals they hate the most. So many transphobic caricatures show us with exaggerated genital scars and healing genitals because they are disgusted by us more than the majority, which are pseudo-transsexuals who never want to have SRS. I don't think tucutes are as responsible for that as most people think.

You do not need to be paranoid of cisgenders like some of us, but show some basic empathy to people who have been mistreated by cisgenders all of our lives. If you're cisgender and can't handle facing 1% of what we go through at the hands of cisgenders every day then please grow the hell up or at least stay away from trans spaces for once.

23M and I only seek out men 45+

I'm frequently ignored/ghosted by men after talking with them for a bit, and then when I ignore them back they get all pissy but they will never start talking to me regularly again.

I also had one tell me he wanted a LTR with me, and then after a month said he was actually moving across the country and couldn't take anyone with him for some reason, but he still wants to chat with me. What the fuck?

I don't like most guys around my age because they act extremely immature, and I thought these older guys would be better. Why can none of them communicate like normal people? Tell me you're not interested anymore or at least block me.