u/engineofgod24

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and my relationship has completely broken down. I'm terrified and heartbroken and have no idea what to do. The baby's father has strongly stated that he wants me to have an abortion (still legal where I am) and that it "isn't a good time to have a baby" and even though I'm sure I'm going to keep the baby, I have no idea how to do anything now. He has had an ex pop back up in his life and is manipulating him and he's really struggling because he knows that she's a total POS and it will never work with her but she's guilting him into feeling like he has to be with her. I know that he loves me and the baby, but he's such a sensitive person and she's really just gotten into his head about everything and it seems that he's going to go and be with her.

I don't think I'm really looking for relationship advice, I know this isn't okay and that I need to prioritize myself and my baby regardless of what he does and whether he leaves to be with his ex or we work out, but how do I cope? How do I try to prioritize myself when I thought I was going to have a beautiful family with the love of my life and now I'm facing being a single parent? I'm lost and hurt and really just needed to vent to people who aren't just going to tell me that "it's all going to be okay" and "he'll come around" and "he'll change his mind once the baby gets here" because right now none of that is helpful.

I have Hyperemesis Gravidarum and have been horrendously sick, I'm struggling to eat or shower or function at all and now it's worse. I don't know if I need sympathy or something else, I'm just having a really bad time and needed to vent.

I made a post asking about NIPT results and turns out my midwife already got them and just didn't let me know. But baby is low risk for everything and is a girl! 🩷

Did anyone have their NIPT through Percept? Just wondering how long you waited for the results and how you received them, they weren't very clear on whether I would receive the results or if I'd have to wait for an appointment with my midwife. So far it's been 9 days and the wait is making me really anxious.

I know it doesn't necessarily sound like a big deal, but I am so nauseous every waking moment, even with Ondansetron, Restavit and B6. But today I DRANK A WHOLE LITRE OF WATER! I'm 10+3 and desperately hoping that it improves in the coming weeks but my expectations are that I'll be sick the entire time. I just wanted to share my mini accomplishment with people who'll get it!

I stopped taking the pill in January. I'd been taking it for over 3 years continuously and the doctor told me it would take at least 6 months for my body to start regulating. I had a withdrawal bleed right after stopping the pill, a 40 day cycle, a regular period and then got pregnant. Safe to say myself, my partner and my doctor were very surprised.

Fast forward to five weeks pregnant, I had to go to hospital because I was so sick, dehydrated, etc. and I was diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum, which I had in a previous pregnancy and I ended the pregnancy because of it.

Seven weeks pregnant, spent nearly a week in hospital again because my meds just weren't working. During my stay in hospital, my partner and I were kicked out of the family member's house we were staying in while applying for houses. This was completely unexpected as we'd discussed everything with them and they were happy for us to stay until we found a house.

Because of this, I had to fly across the country to stay with my partner's grandmother while he stays and car camps so he can get to work every day.

I'm 9 weeks and still so sick, taking so many meds around the clock. I'm exhausted. I'm miserable. I miss my partner. It feels like my whole life has just totally fallen apart.

Obviously we have a plan, I'm staying here and my partner is working and we're going to keep applying for houses and once we get one I'll move back, but it's so hard. I want to cry all the time. My partner aren't communicating a lot because he works a very physically intensive job and is exhausted afterwards, plus he's not sleeping properly because of sleeping in the car.

I desperately want to be excited, my partner is excited, but I'm just so miserable. I don't really need advice exactly, I just needed to get it off my chest I guess.