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That's unbelievably tacky, just pay for the damn dress, it's not even crazy expensive

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Ayer llegué de la universidad y noté que mis colas y ganchos para el cabello estaban en lugares diferentes. Son míos. Ni siquiera uso muchos de ellos, pero siguen siendo mis cosas.

Para dar contexto, cuando era más pequeña yo también tenía la costumbre de agarrar cosas de mi hermana. Con el tiempo me di cuenta de que no estaba bien y cambié ese hábito. Ahora procuro usar únicamente mis cosas y, si alguna vez necesito algo de ella, se lo pido directamente. Voy a su cuarto, le pregunto si puedo agarrarlo y lo agarró en frente de ella

Así que hoy simplemente agarré mis propias cosas de vuelta. Ella se enojó muchísimo y, en medio de la discusión, me lanzó una llave con la intención de pegarme. Me dio en el pecho

Lo que más me sorprende es que tiene 27 años. Además, esta no es la primera vez que reacciona así; cuando se enoja ya ha lanzado objetos en otras ocasiones.

Ella actúa como si yo fuera la que está mal, y por eso empiezo a dudar de mí misma. Pero sinceramente no creo que sea exagerado esperar que respeten mis pertenencias y, sobre todo, que una discusión no termine con alguien lanzándome cosas.

¿Estoy exagerando? ¿Ustedes cómo manejarían una situación así si convivieran con alguien que reacciona de esa manera?

Pd:Tengo mil vivencias de como me agarra mis cosas, un mismo perfume que me había dado en mi cumpleaños estaba en su cuarto y también me empezó a decir que ni me peinaba jajajaja y es cierto casi no me peinó pero yo trato de verdad trato de evitar agarrar todo lo de ella, es más si compró a veces dos cosas le regaló uno y aun así me agarra el otro

Hi! It's my first time posting here so I may have some wrong information and timelines but I need to point out how much I empathize with Lilly Jay as a woman.

No because can we actually be serious for five seconds?

Every time this situation gets brought up, somehow Lilly Jay ends up getting dragged by her stans while Ariana and Ethan get treated like helpless little babies who had absolutely no agency in their own decisions.

Like... be so astronomically for real.

Lilly was pregnant. She had a newborn. She moved to another country to support her husband and their family. She left her family and friends behind because of SpongeBob, then her marriage implodes in the most public way possible and somehow SHE'S the one her urinators are mad at?

For what exactly? Existing?

The way some stans will perform Olympic-level mental gymnastics to avoid admitting their fave might have done something messed up needs to be studied.

And don't even get me started on Ethan.

People will write 17-paragraph dissertations about Ariana but Ethan was the one who made vows to Lilly. Ethan was the one who had a wife and a newborn baby at home. Yet somehow he gets treated like a background character in his own mess. That man is a grown adult, not a lost toddler who wandered into a relationship by accident.

The amount of smoke Lilly gets compared to Ethan is actually insane.

And then there are the people attacking Lilly and even saying disgusting things about her child. A CHILD. You are beefing with a baby. A innocent baby who probably barely knew he existed and was just sleeping and crying and probably just knew he wanted his mom close (while her mom was heartbroken by her high school sweetheart who looked like he crawled from the depths of hell) Urinators need to log off and touch some grass immediately.

The whole thing gives "my fave can do no wrong" syndrome. Her stans act like holding Ariana accountable for anything is a human rights violation.

At the end of the day, the people who made the choices were Ariana and Ethan. Not Lilly. Not the baby. Not random people on the internet.

And yet somehow the woman who got cheated on, divorced, publicly humiliated, and left to deal with the fallout is the one getting attacked while the people who caused the mess get defended like they're fighting for their lives in the trenches.

The math is not matching. Her stans were attacking her while she had a traumatic birth and when she needed as much as support for her and her baby, this stupid sponge goes and cheats on her and urinators AGAIN attack her when Ariana released the album and make so many songs of "I got your man 👅" while she was heart broken, sleep deprived and tired. Dalton probably was heartbroken but got a NDA and probably a lot of money to stay quiet while Lilly was being dragged through Internet with her son and people wishing the worst on a innocent baby.

Feel free to correct me if I got something wrong but my point is Ariana and Ethan have a place in hell for what they did to Lilly, they treated her so cruelly, her whole world was turned upside down and stans are still dragging her while she was left as a single mom

I don't know where else to post it

Am I overreacting for starting to resent my family because I feel like I’m constantly singled out and criticized no matter how much I do?

I’m a university student and currently doing mandatory educational social work service in my country, so lately I’ve been waking up at 5 AM every day. The work itself is physically exhausting — I’m outside for hours in the heat doing manual labor — and by the time I get home I’m already drained.

Despite that, I still try to do everything my family asks me to do around the house because I know I’m financially dependent on my parents right now and I understand helping out is expected. I’m not someone who just stays in bed all day refusing to contribute.

The issue is that I feel like I’m constantly being watched, criticized, and treated like I’m lazy no matter what I do.

For example, the first day of my social work service I woke up early and made breakfast for everyone before leaving. I came home exhausted, but I still washed dishes and did what I was supposed to do around the house.

The next day, I woke up at the same time again and immediately got told to wash clothes, clean pots, hang laundry, make breakfast for my dad, etc. I still did it all while trying to get myself ready and make my own lunch.

What really gets to me isn’t even the chores themselves anymore — it’s the constant comments and the way things are said to me.

If I don’t answer immediately because I’m showering, I get accused of ignoring people. If I don’t drop everything instantly, it becomes “you have an attitude.” My mom makes passive aggressive comments like “nobody here can even make their bed,” even though I’m usually the one doing things like that because my dad won’t. She even admitted once that not everything is my fault and that my sister also leaves messes, but somehow I still feel like I’m the default target.

One situation that really upset me happened when I was taking an online exam for university. My sister started yelling at me to go make dinner for my dad. I didn’t come out immediately because I was literally in the middle of an exam. When I finally came out, she got angry and started yelling at me for “not listening.”

Another recent argument escalated badly. My mom was criticizing the house and saying things weren’t done yet while I was trying to shower after getting home. I told her I was going to do the chores, just not immediately because I had just gotten home and was exhausted. My sister jumped in and started lecturing me too, saying everyone works and that the least I could do was help. I snapped and told her I wasn’t even talking to her, and things escalated into her grabbing my hair and me reacting back instinctively.

Instead of really addressing what happened, my mom mostly turned it into a lecture about how “work is hard,” how “a shovel weighs more than a pencil,” and even threatened to pull me out of university and make me work instead.

I feel like I’m losing my mind because everyone acts like I’m dramatic or ungrateful, but from my perspective I really do try. I clean, cook, run errands, help with things constantly, and still somehow feel like the family punching bag.

What hurts the most is feeling like my sister gets more grace than I do. She can leave messes too, but when I do something wrong or don’t respond fast enough, suddenly it’s a huge issue. I feel like I’m always the one getting called to do things, getting criticized, getting blamed, or being told I have a bad attitude.

At this point I feel emotionally exhausted and honestly resentful of being at home sometimes. There are moments where I genuinely wish I had a different family because I’m so tired of feeling tense and defensive all the time.

Am I overreacting, or does this dynamic actually sound unhealthy?

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