u/functionalowl

I’ve recently just got married and where I live it’s kind of the done thing that when you get married, you have children (I know a little traditional or maybe old-fashioned) but now feel like the questions are coming in - are you trying for a baby now? Do you think you’ll have kids? all that kind of thing. I know it’s not really anyone’s business and I don’t really feel pressured by anyone else but I am coming up to 33 and really don’t know where I sit on the whole thing and I’m like do people who have children know that they definitely wanted them or did they have them and they were like I can adapt this, is there a right time?
My husband is extremely family orientated, which is lovely to see. I do not have any siblings, but I am in no way a spoilt only child. I was the youngest child in my family too, so I’ve never really been around children. I’m an Auntie to his nieces and nephews and don’t get me wrong - I absolutely adore them and think they are so cute but much prefer children who are children not babies and are able to have a conversation with you.
Sometimes I think maybe I would want to adopt because I can’t imagine myself being pregnant or the years 1-4 but also if I was to have a child would really want the characteristics of my husband and think it would be really cute to see part of him in our child. But I also really enjoy my life the way it is and I feel like I want more experiences before committing, we also have a dog and honestly I find this stressful enough as much as I also love the dog. I have quite a stressful job too. I think the main thing is I am more worried about my age but also just wondering if I’d ever feel maternal or that I would want to commit to a child which might sound harsh but just not 100% sure it’s something I want although I think it’s something he wants I did make this clear to him when we got married too. But was just wondering any advice from people and what their experiences are…

Hi there,
Thinking of going to one of the lakes next June for a week I was hoping other to gain insight from other peoples experience or which one they have preferred.
We enjoy holidays such as Croatia and Canada, we enjoy the outdoors and history/culture and authentic feel. We also love clear water and Alpine Lakes.
Any thoughts on which we may prefer? I am leaning slightly more cool more because I’ve never been to Milan and would also like to explore that, but then again Lake Garda is not far from Verona which I’ve also never been to - Thanks!

Hi, our wedding is really soon and for the entire time that we’ve had it booked I’ve always thought that we wouldn’t really want a video as I think we’d watch it about once and maybe not until we’re older. We have someone who is going to record the speeches and a really good photographer. I don’t really like falseness and the showyness that seems to go with a lot of videos, I prefer just to be in the moment rather than being told to do xyz. I do think other people’s wedding videos look great, but it’s really doesn’t seem to feel like me and my boyfriend kind of vibe. I take a lot of photographs myself and enjoy photography, whenever I am somewhere- a festival, a gig, holiday I do take videos but I never have really watched them again. I’m all about the photos. But I am just having a slight will I regret this moment? Can anyone share their experience? Did they regret having a videographer because it’s a lot of money or are they pleased they had one? if they were to do it again would they still get one?

Hi there,
This may sound a bit of an odd one. But I’m a nurse and have been for nearly 10 years, but in around 2020 (before the pandemic got really bad) I moved jobs but during this time thought about leaving nursing completely and kept thinking about accounting. I’m quite tech savvy and enjoy things like spread sheets and attention to detail. It kept coming up in my head as a potential career change. I then relocated so the idea kind of got lost. Now I’m settled I’ve been thinking about it again. I actually currently WFH and would like to continue to do that. Can anyone give insights of what it’s like to be an accountant? I by no means think this is an easy career but imagine it’s a lot less emotionally taxing which really impacts my life.