I just got off the phone with a friend’s mom who phoned me to order flowers for her daughter- a friend of mine- the parents are out of state. We did the normal greeting exchange - I tried to engage with other questions but often don’t even let them finish answering the first question or I answer back with my own question. I noticed I was doing this and slowed down but I could tell she was eager to get off the phone after she asked me to get flowers.

This happens every time the lull of silence hangs over the conversation.

She’s not the only one that does this. Every friend that calls me wants to get off the phone with me as quickly as possible.

And I don’t get phone calls often unless it’s a bill collector, a work call or a scam. I think this was only my 2nd personal call of the year.

I have had this problem my whole entire life and have tried reading books on how to be more dynamic and watching YouTube presenters share tips and none of those things have helped me.

What would help would be an actual YouTube video of a cool or not so cool group of friends actually recording what they talk about when they’ve gathered for dinner, a bbq, a night out, a night in, brunch.

I had this very same friend that I will be ordering flowers for talk to someone sitting next to us because we didn’t have much to talk about. Other friends have done similar things or pulled out their phones to entertain themselves.

Some have literally walked away from me on the dance floor after trying to be kind and “hang” by my side.

I have never once been asked out unless it was a one night stand or (what’s the basketball term for leftovers). This is one of my problems in conversation. I have very bad memory issues and struggle to remember things. I also struggle to find the exact words for things. I tend to talk way too fast and often times forget what I have to say unless I say it in the moment. Yes, I have ADD - late diagnosis. I’m starting to think I might have a slight autism diagnosis since relating to people has been an issue for me my whole life.

I, have no noticeable or eye catching physical attributes that would draw a person in. I have a flat effect and a monotone voice. I’ve tried watching videos on how to change this but haven’t been able to sit through a full video nor can I hear a difference in my pitch and I tone when I am trying tips from a quick reel I’ve found.

I have no interest in sports, can’t remember music or musicians, so can’t really talk about that. If I hear music that moves me I move to it but don’t ask me to recall what I heard 5 minutes later.

I’m not into drinking or drugs as I’m already light headed and airy enough without any of that. I don’t mind if others are doing light drugs or drink around me. But it definitely makes me the designated driver every single time.

I spend most of my days alone with a pet. Not because I want to be alone but because no one seems to want to be around me.

I barely made it out of the pandemic sanely alive.

All of my experiences have been thanks to some small subset of friends that I somehow made whom have pitied me and invited me out.

I traveled mostly alone. Eaten alone ( and don’t sell me on how brave and great that is when no very social person would do this unless they were in movement from point A to point B).

This is turning into a book…

This loneliness is taking a toll on me and I don’t know how much more of it I can take as I’m aging.

I’ve tried all the things. I just don’t have the natural charisma it takes to draw people in. Everything I do is slow paced; even writing a text back ends up being a paragraph long.

How do I change being so boring and needy so late in life as an average looking individual with no interesting attributes to lean on??

Can anyone shed some light on how you get immediately approved to drive for any of these apps? I seriously think all they want is data collection. I have submitted my information to everything from insta cart way back when it began to Door Dash, Task Rabbit, Spark… and I always get the same response. “There are no available routes, or tasks in your area.”

I live in Philly the 2nd largest city on the east coast?!?! There’s no way there’s nothing available. I always feel so angry afterwards that I’ve given away all of my information. 😠

Any suggestions or thoughts on why I might be getting these types of messages?

I just tried signing up for Amazon Flex and got the same response.

Thanks to everyone that contributed! I figured out exactly what I need to do for the business. I just need a wealthy investor or wealthy partner.

To those that contributed, my question was about expanding my business with my dog in tow. What I got was narrow minded statements about one specific character of my dog which wasn’t helpful.

Not everyone responded that negatively and I respect that. But maybe actually read the full post and read a little between the lines.

As my question states, how is everyone finding an apartment? It seems like without filling out a Zillow or RENT.com profile landlords and especially management companies won’t talk to you.

Does Zillow have to win?! Can’t we keep some of our personal information personal without big tech getting it all??

I’m stuck. I don’t have a glowing credit score and I can’t find an apartment without disclosing all of my information first.

How are y’all doing it?

One of the many reasons homelessness is an issue. I know there’s more to it than that but more landlords and property management companies need to start including dogs into the rent without asking for extra payment and a high insurance premium. Especially if there are people trying to get back on their feet by getting housing after being homeless or getting support for health issues these animals are sometimes their only saving grace.