u/gatorfarts2007

Tomorrow morning I have my UFE procedure. I am excited, nervous, and hopeful that this kills off this nasty vampire I have in my uterus. I miss the days of when my periods were normal 🥹

I have a Uterine Fibroid Embolization scheduled for next month. Twilight sedation is what they told me I'll be "under" and to be honest what I have read online has freaked me out. Some people have described it as getting too drunk and going to sleep or smoking weed. I am an extremely anxious person so the thought of feeling like any of those things has made me more nervous. I've only been under general anesthesia and a laughing gas once.

MRI confirmed I have a 10cm fibroid inside my uterine wall. MRI was super easy, I don’t know why I was stressed.

I am nervous about my procedure and that I’ll be under twilight sedation and that they’ll be going in through my wrist instead of my groin. I wanted to be fully knocked out for it.

Also a huge thank you to this subreddit. You guys have really encouraged me to keep pushing through my white coat syndrome. 🥺❤️

I am looking forward to better days.

I have a MRI scheduled for Friday. I am nervous and anxious about this. My dr ordered a pelvis mri with and without contrast. I’ve never had one before so I’m anxious. I keep reminding myself I rather get this done than continue to live with fibroids. I truly am tired of profusely bleeding every month and feeling exhausted all the time.

Reading all the stories here how a myomectomy or UFE changed everyone’s life keeps me motivated. I’m grateful this community exists. ❤️

Long story short, I’m a brand-new escrow assistant and have been in the role for about two months. I came into escrow with a strong real estate background and was excited to learn something new.
First, I want to say that I love my boss. She’s patient, supportive, and always willing to help when I have questions. We also have an escrow officer in the office who is experienced in escrow but newer to the area. Since she helps manage my boss’s files at the moment , since she is new. I’ve even tried using my local connections to help bring in business for her because I am impressed with her knowledge and organizational skills along with how she treats clients.

For context, this escrow officer is not my supervisor and is not someone I report to. She’s simply a coworker.

During a training session, I asked the instructor if there was a Teams group chat where escrow assistants from neighboring offices could ask each other questions. My thinking was simple: if I’m alone in the office and need help with something like processing a check, or if everyone around me is tied up, is there another resource available? The instructor actually loved the idea and thought it could be a useful tool for assistants in the area.

Apparently, the suggestion got back to the escrow officer, and she confronted me about it. She told me she didn’t understand why it would be a good idea because every escrow officer manages their files differently. I acknowledged that was true but explained that, at the end of the day, we’re all working within the same system. As someone who is new, I just wanted to know what resources were available if I ever found myself needing help.

That’s when the conversation took a turn.
She became stern and told me I needed to “know my place” because I’m new to escrow. She said that once I have a year under my belt, my suggestions might be taken into consideration.

I politely responded that it was only a suggestion and that it didn’t really matter to me whether the instructor decided to do anything with it or not. She then told me I was stubborn.

At that point, I drew a boundary. I told her she was entitled to her opinion, but I would continue making suggestions when I felt they were worthwhile, even if nothing ever came of them.

This isn’t the first issue I’ve had with her, either. She has told me that women without children don’t know what empathy is, has openly said my boss doesn’t know what she’s doing, and recently accused me of marking up a preliminary title report. The reality was that I had highlighted items in the purchase contract, things like the home warranty, deposit, marking up the RPA and counteroffer terms,to make sure I wasn’t missing any details.

When I pulled the file out and said, “Oh, this prelim?” while showing her the contract, she immediately changed the subject and started telling me I was taking on too much work. For reference, my duties currently consist of answering phones, sending wire instructions, and gathering HOA documents.

I finally told her that it’s important not to make assumptions because sometimes we end up making fools of ourselves when we do. This hasn’t gone over well as you can imagine.

AITA for standing up for myself and setting boundaries, or should I have handled this differently?

I have decided to go with UFE instead of the traditional myomectomy. How was your UFE experience? How long did you need off of work? Did you see a difference after a couple of periods?

I’m nervous as hell bc I have never had an mri and don’t do well with the thought of being under.

Long story short, my boyfriend recently told me that when we play video games together, he feels like I just "tag along" and don't pick things up as quickly as he'd like. The thing is, I'm a huge gamer myself, but I'm also a very careful learner.
Multiplayer games can make me anxious because I had an ex who would constantly scream at me and criticize me whenever we played together. Because of that, I sometimes get nervous about making mistakes or upsetting teammates. My current boyfriend is aware of this history.

I tried explaining that while I'm sorry he feels frustrated, Dune: Awakening isn't a game I get a lot of time to play during the week. I work 8–5, stay committed to my workouts, try to limit screen time in the evenings, and make an effort to get to bed at a reasonable hour. That doesn't leave me with much time to log hours into the game outside of when we play together.

He told me that he doesn't understand what it's like to have to teach me everything, that I don't seem interested in learning, and that he's always the one doing everything in the game.

I responded by pointing out that he'll often play for hours without me, which naturally puts him much further ahead. Then, when we do play together, he tends to dictate what we're doing, what armor I should wear, where we should go, and generally how I should play. I don't really get a chance to have that early "discovery phase" where I figure things out for myself and learn through trial and error nor am I getting the time I need to create muscle memory.

He then said that I don't seem enthusiastic about playing and that he doesn't enjoy playing games with me because he feels like he has to do everything.
I feel bad because I genuinely do enjoy gaming with him. More importantly, I enjoy spending time with him and want him to be excited about spending time with me too. At the same time, it hurts to hear that my efforts come across as disinterest when I feel like I'm doing my best within the time I have available.

So, AITA here?

I had something come up and can no longer go to the show. I paid $47.00 for it and would like $45 to sell it. I have it on ticketmaster so I can transfer it. Im at work rn but I will keep an eye on my phone for notifications. 🥰

Edit: I meant wheatland. Its been a day lmao

Hi! I was remote for a year and that position was cut, so I got a new job that requires me to be in-office. It’s been a roller coaster these last four weeks.

I’m used to putting my headphones on, focusing, and just getting my work done. Now? Haha… completely different environment.

My boss actually created a training plan for me that we’re building off of since there’s so much to learn. I’m catching on to things pretty quickly, but the person training me has been really difficult to work around. I’ll be in the middle of an email or actively working on a file and she’ll suddenly go, “Gator, come here. I need to show you how to do this.” Then after showing me, she’ll say, “You won’t even be doing this until much later in the year, but I want to show you now.” Meanwhile I’m starting to fall behind on the tasks I’m actually responsible for right now. I’ll literally spend 45 minutes on a “training” and it’s just us going through her workload or emails.

She’s also very controlling about how I work. For example, I prefer keeping my laptop shut and just working off my two monitors because it’s easier for me to focus. She insists I need to keep the laptop open with Teams on it and different programs spread across all the screens. Anytime she sees my laptop shut she immediately says, “Gator, STOP closing your laptop.”

Another example: if I’m transferring data from one program to another and I copy/paste something, she’ll question me and say, “Why are you copying and pasting? Just type it.”

I’m also very much a pen-and-paper type of person when learning. I made myself a handwritten list of action items with file numbers to help me stay organized. She immediately told me, “No, we’re going to create a shared Outlook calendar between us, so you aren’t doing that. It’s not good to write these things down because I don’t know what you’re working on.” Which confused me because we literally already have a cover sheet on every file where we update notes daily when work is completed.

On top of that, she’s currently beefing with our sales rep, and anytime I’m friendly toward him I can feel the tension in the air.

Am I being overly sensitive here? If not, does anyone have suggestions on how to navigate this? I’ve honestly started feeling depressed because I had so much autonomy at my last job. I was really good at it too, but unfortunately the whole team got cut.

Hi! I’ve worked in real estate for about 7 years, mostly on the agent services side. Escrow is still a “half-language” for me; I know the terms and some processes, but not the full workflow yet.

I just started at a company this week I really like, and my branch manager has planned 2–3 trainings each afternoon for the next two weeks so I can learn the systems and get settled. She has been kind and keeps reminding me it'll take months to understand my role and get into a groove so to just focus on the light work she has tasked me with, answering some phone calls and directing them, and these trainings.

The issue is the escrow officer. She keeps trying to push tasks onto me like emails I have no clue what to put, file management, calling for title info, even though my BM specifically told her to handle those. She gave me a list of email templates that were numbered but not titled. For example: " Script for opening escrow" it was just labeled "two". My role right now is just emailing said people for opening/triggering escrows, getting buyer info, and sending wire instructions to the buyer for the EMD then having them confirm those instructions.

I’m feeling overwhelmed because I came from a very structured company with checklists and systems, and this office has none of that. It’s more like, “New escrow! Yay! Let’s go!” with no organization. Right now it's just an email that says "hey gator, you can go ahead and let so and so know to open escrow in the system" or "Hey gator, lets hold off on getting buyer info, there's something being worked out at the moment"

So: How do I navigate an EO who keeps giving me tasks I’m not supposed to take on yet, and how do I stay organized in an office with no real systems?