Feedback please! First year going all out of my garden 💃🌿
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Feedback please! First year going all out of my garden 💃🌿

Please, feedback welcome! 🌿💃☘️🏡🍃💕🌻🧚‍♂️

tldr: Primarily looking for on plants!!! First year going all out woot woot!

but any ideas for layout also welcome as trying to maximise smallish space.

Soil is clay very hard to dig but want to use more where I can.

Trying to maximise flowering and fruiting for remainder of summer (northern hemisphere / uk).

Lastly, I have ended up with some injuries from gardening, including a really sore shoulder, a really irritated elbow, and quite bad nerve pain, not just stiffness. I don't know if it's from the drilling, the turning, and the bending, but I'm pretty young for a gardener, sothis is surprising. The whole point was to get gentle exercise, not to make things really chronic and give me issues, so if anyone has any tips to manage that, it would be great.

Please be kind as a self taught novice! Ty and hope you enjoy the fruits (ba dam tish) of labour!

----- Longer details of what I have planted and tried:

I planted tomatoes, which are going absolutely everywhere, and I am shocked at how bananas they are. I am doing all the things Reddit says, including taking off the little bits in the V and taking the extra leaves down the bottom out, but I'm still waiting for them to flower into actual tomatoes.

My strawberries were from other seasons, but I've repotted them and since then they aren't flowering this year and they've gone really dry and needed more care cuz they've been a bit shocked. They haven't gotten as big as usual. They've only fruited once this year earlier in the year and they were really really small. In the original pots where they were way too clumped together, they got snails, so I had to clean all that out and use fresh soil, but in the new soil which is clean, they're not flowering at all. Although I think they're evergreen strawberries, I'm not sure.

For the pea shoot flowers, I planted them a bit late so they're not growing that fast and I'd like them to sprout up as fast as possible so they can flower. The spinach seems to be dry and smaller than other years.

The leeks were from other years and they're doing well, there's one coming back up.

I planted sunflowers, and you can see them doing very well.

The mint was already there and it's sort of taking over the coriander.

I planted nasturtium, but it has aphids, so I've separated the clean plant from the plant with aphids and tried to take Reddit's advice on cleaning off the aphids on the one affected.

I planted cosmos sensation seeds, but they are taking ages to start flowering.

I have cut back my roses; one died completely, but thank you Reddit for the advice on the rose because that has got the one that was nearly dead back up to resprouting. The whole point is to get them to a really, really healthy stage in huge pots and then put them back in the ground, which is clay, next season so they take over my fence, so that's a bit ambitious. My second rose died, and I think the special rose fertilizer I used scalded it. My lavender was woody, so I cut it right back; you can't see it at the moment, but the roots are still there.

At the back, I have a jasmine against a brick wall that has never flowered white or had flowers, which I think might be because the wall is completely in the shade and the soil might not be good. There is an ivy in a bucket on the ground that is irritating me, and I am not sure where to place it. There is a bush with red flowers that I don't know what they are, but they are lovely, pretty, and attract bees, though it is flopping over.

My tree normally has beautiful pink flowers, but this year it isn't flowering at all, which I think is because of the heat.

Intried planting wildflpwer and bee mix in the grass, but I think its been too hot for them to take properly :(

Inside the house, I have orchids in pot plants and I focused on using the right soil type for them, along with other things in the garden. Two of the three are older orchids that I've repotted this year, and previously they flowered, but not at the moment. I'm wondering if I should wait and leave the stems as they are to reflower on the plant or if I should try cutting them off and propagating them.

Across my garden, I mixed new potting soil with horticultural grit and perlite, trying to get the right ratios.

I focused heavily on drainage, going through all the pots and drilling extra drainage holes into the plastic bits as well as the wooden planters. I double-varnished all the wooden things twice for waterproofing, including the new couch and planters.

I self-made a planter from a natural building site bit that is not professional but was cool

I used a water hose for the first time, which was loads of fun.

I have been watering every day and trying different fertilizers, including dry fish, blood, and bone, a watery one that smelled like poo, and the rose fertilizer.

I just put out a home compost today and I am trying things like coffee and spare food bits in it.

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u/goldendragon_88 — 9 days ago
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Beautiful canada-france-america generational saga

A 20th-century family saga about an (immigrant?)man who comes to Canada and travel across the states until he neets a local girl.who nurses him when he is unwell and he stops travelling ti settle with her in her state. They lives a poor ( farming?) life. There is a besutiful scebe about her realisation of the amount of mundane work that goes into everyday childrearing and managing a house. Her and her husband always keep a strong connection. They die when their parked truck rolls into a river after the parking brake is released while they are having sex.

Their daughter moves to Paris, France, becomes a travel agent for a time, and she feels guilty how rarely she calls her own mother at home back in Canada. There are the most beautiful passages about tue joy of the work and the freedom of expat life.

her daughter (the final main character) later moves to New York with her own kids and she reflects on generations as her children run around before her.

I read it about 2010.

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u/goldendragon_88 — 1 month ago

Misbehaving roses!!! Like naughty toddlers 😅🤪🤕

Photos attached!! I took reddits advice and did all the necessary for my roses that had likely root rot:

- Took out and gently cleaned roots

- Separated squashed roots

- Repotted in soil newly mixed with a good bit of horticultural grit for drainage

- Used special rose fertilisrr

- Gave more sun

- Deadheaded all blooms omce blossomed at fifth leaf (they were sprouting fine but small)

- Watered in high heat regularly and lightly over irregularly and heavily

Now its wilting and even more brown a week later? Is this from the heatwave we are having, am I now not giving enough water? Or is this the spread of root rot?

Help me I have a bbq in a few weeks and want them to do well! They are my babies haha

u/goldendragon_88 — 1 month ago

Is this rose bush worth trying to save? (First bush!)

Hello! Inherited this rose bush when we bought our first house so quite sentimebtal. I think it has root rot and/or canker? Have kept it going with marginal success (very small blooms for 6 years) but its never really taken off. My goal is to replant it from pot into our actual garden and grow it along the fence. Any tips welcome as I am quite sentimentally attahed to the old gal!

I water it a few times a week, cut off the dead or yellow branches and occasionslly use rose specific fertiliser. I also just repotted it in new and less waterlogged soil which will hopefully help.

Ty in advance for tips, garden friends! 🌹🥀

u/goldendragon_88 — 2 months ago

Men - help with my husband's health pls?

Please could I get a male POV on this. my husband is suffering from anxiety and depression for the first time in his life. He has been a rock to me through my of my own challenges, has a really stressful job, and has various personal things (multiple) that hit him hard this year. plus we have been working on things in our marriage for a while now too. He is doing all the right stuff (therapy, gym, sleep, will go to medication if it deepens) which is huge for him as he is quite traditional and really bottles things up so I am proud of him. I just dont know how to help him more. He is so flat and withdrawn, I am worried my own stuff has contributed alot (I have worked on mysrlf alot too, I am not perfect but he says he sees I am tsking care of myself well).... but I am concerned I have finally broken him :(

Please give me some advice to be a better / more helpful wife, ty very much.

Tldr husband is very flat and I feel like I contributed badly to his mental.health, advise pls

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u/goldendragon_88 — 3 months ago

Husbands health, help pls

Men - help with my husband's health pls? Please could I get a male POV on this. my husband is suffering from anxiety and depression for the first time in his life. He has been a rock to me through my of my own challenges, has a really stressful job, and has various personal things (multiple) that hit him hard this year. plus we have been working on things in our marriage for a while now too. He is doing all the right stuff (therapy, gym, sleep, will go to medication if it deepens) which is huge for him as he is quite traditional and really bottles things up so I am proud of him. I just dont know how to help him more. He is so flat and withdrawn, I am worried my own stuff has contributed alot (I have worked on mysrlf alot too, I am not perfect but he says he sees I am tsking care of myself well).... but I am concerned I have finally broken him :( Please give me some advice to be a better / more helpful wife, ty very much.

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u/goldendragon_88 — 3 months ago
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Husbands health - help pls!

Men - help with my husband's health pls? Please could I get a male POV on this. my husband is suffering from anxiety and depression for the first time in his life. He has been a rock to me through my of my own challenges, has a really stressful job, and has various personal things (multiple) that hit him hard this year. plus we have been working on things in our marriage for a while now too. He is doing all the right stuff (therapy, gym, sleep, will go to medication if it deepens) which is huge for him as he is quite traditional and really bottles things up so I am proud of him. I just dont know how to help him more. He is so flat and withdrawn, I am worried my own stuff has contributed alot (I have worked on mysrlf alot too, I am not perfect but he says he sees I am tsking care of myself well).... but I am concerned I have finally broken him :( Please give me some advice to be a better / more helpful wife, ty very much.

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u/goldendragon_88 — 3 months ago