u/happy_internet_mind

The game Fortnite plays music in the background, but it's just background noise to me and I rarely recognize songs.....the WAY my head whipped around 😆 and what went through my head was literally "what in the heated rivalry?!" Despite being in the room (working) I had a flash of panic that my 8yr old had somehow stumbled into my HBOMax profile. I don't know anyone IRL who could relate so you all get my silly little story.

I have been on Feeld after advice from this sub, and thank you. Genuinely thank you, it's been significantly better than most apps by a long shot. That said, I re-added "male" and idk if I accidentally clicked straight or what..... But I went from like 10 likes the day prior to 300 this morning and I found maybe 5 bi guys in my area in that list. Another handful that are like 100+ miles away. I came to this app to AVOID straight men in my area 🤣 .....that said, it's 5 more than confirmed on any other app so I'll take it. Just.... *sigh*

While I did read a fic related to this I'm not specifically searching for it, more just fics with the premise. Hayden during/after the reveal (I say reveal because this doesn't need to be canon compliant) of Shane & Ilya's relationship, where the Metros or assholes and ostracize him heavily too. Ty!

I'm needing help with something, most of which has to do with team structure but need to rant. I have a coworker who is technically in charge of UX and Design, but has REALLY been pushing into SEO over the last month....which certainly UX plays a factor and I acknowledge that, but it's jumped into other realms and it's starting to seriously impact my efficiency because I have to constantly educate them and justify my reasoning at a time where we are all overloaded with work. This person is obsessed with audits and automations and worse - data, "quick wins" and tools he doesn't understand. I had to spend an hour justifying to them why it was better to leave an SEO plugin score low on our homepage (almost entirely due to not setting a focus keyword with very intentional reasoning he eventually understood). The audits are the basic chatgpt or claude ones that give "next steps" that are often not helpful and risk breaking the site when we do NOT have a developer on staff (a huge issue I've finnaly gotten internal movement on). The issue I'm dealing with is....management is eating it up. I was seeing huge progress on Clicks, REVENUE, and GBP performance (in every category)....now things are slowing down and I'm constantly finding "solves" that have undoubtedly directly had a negative impact on performance. But because he's showing higher "scores" management is currently super happy eith him, while I get the end of "why are our numbers down" in the categories that actually matter (i.e. revenue and phone calls being the main ones there). I'm losing my mind a bit having to explain more than is wanted. Management wants a single sentence or bullet point and if it's not already clear within this rant I struggle with that - it's so often NOT one thing impacting performance, and things are constantly rapidly evolving, and no we cannot just blanket trust whatever an AI audit throws out there, ESPECIALLY when dev work is involved. How do you guys boil down your information neatly? What are the tools you trust the most in terms of what has actually moved the needle from a REACH and REVENUE standpoint? Because as far as I can tell, I will be held to performance impacted by this coworkers KPIs and purring into managements ear. And I have SO little time as is, I simply do not have time to explain this but also HAVE to address it before this coworker messes up stuff without understanding.

TW - ED mention/mental health - Long storytime with questions. I was in a great place 10 yrs ago with running - my nutrition was optimized for performance, running between 25-40miles per week depending on what I was training for with a good balance of cross training (mostly rowing but some biking) and lifting. Slowly over time I began running less and less as I was in a coercive abusive marriage. The last race I did was a full in 2019 and from there it became rare for me to get out to run because of controlling behavior. I gained a LOT of weight from stress (we're talking 80lbs), then lost the same amount of weight in a year. It was not lose it in a healthy way - it was ED behavior but I didn't really recognize it as such because the compliments were constant. During that marriage I adjusted all food to his preferences which were NOTHING like how I ate during my peak fitness. Anyways fast forward and finally getting divorced. FINALLY. Spring hits and I am like "yes! I can run again now that I live alone"...I go out and run 3 times, with mileage splits that were what I did about 8-9yrs ago. I was SO motivated. THEN, in an accident I injured my foot and had to take 12 weeks off.... It sent me into a depression, and I haven't actually been running since. 12 weeks turned into 20 weeks and 30lbs gained from stress and sadness. I hadn't even gotten back into it long enough to look into a full program and remembering nutrition. So now I'm just.....honestly scared to start. Finding a running plan is easy enough, but I'm wondering if anyone has recommendations for a lifting plan for someone essentially starting from scratch, who now has concerns about bone density that I never faced prior. I just feel weak and fat tbh. Weight/fat loss isn't really a big factor atm besides I know I run faster when I'm lighter and that's my priority. So....fave resources for nutrition (for context I'd PREFER vegetarian but am open to other protein except ground beef lol), and beginner lifting plans designed for running and ideally at home but not required. Also yes I'm in therapy, she suggested reaching out to runners for this info! Anyways, would be grateful for some resources, the internet feels like information overload with unregulated info compared to 10-15yrs ago. Thank you!

Doesn't have to be this specific movie or actors, but curious if there was a hetero couple in media where BOTH of them made you realize (or at least notice something different)? For me it was Pirates of the Carribean Curse of the Black Pearl. I (F) distinctly remember throughout the whole movie upon first watch thinking "woah they are both gorgeous" and it felt...different....then when they got to the kiss in the end "I am legitimiately a bit jealous and I'm not sure who I'm more jealous of" 😅 Sure it took me MAAAAAAAANY years longer to acknowledge I was bi, but that's a core memory for me.

Bi female here, and I'm meeting up with a bi man for the first time. I've made it pretty clear that I'm looking more for friendship than anything else, but am not totally opposed to sex. I'm moreso looking to find a friend who can relate to only recently accepting our sexualities. He fits that and I'm really hoping we can be there for each other as we figure ourselves out. But I am NERVOUS. I have not actually come out to anyone except my ex, who was terrible about it. I come from a pretty messed up childhood, ultra-conservative christian environment that I have CPTSD from as well as I have pretty severe anxiety.. What I'm worried about it....like....I don't want to trauma dump? It's something I have done on accident because to me what I have said in those convos doesn't remotely scratch the surface of my reality. So for a first time IRL meetup, what are some "safe" topics to keep things a little more intro and I guess socially appropriate?

I hope this is okay to ask, bisexual men (who are not ENM) - where are you on dating apps? Are you even on apps? In the past 6mo, I'm on apps for the first time literally ever, and while I WANT to have interested in both men and women.....I just can't handle the straight guys anymore. It doesn't help that it seems the overwhelming majority of men in my area identify as "conservative" and/or "christian." Sincere apologies if you are a Christian, I'm dealing with a lot of religious trauma there and it's easiest to keep that out of my life atm. It's nice to have filters....but just looking back at my life I realized I fell hardest for two bisexual men at different times in my life, both prior to me accepting my own sexuality and very much trapped in beliefs I grew up with and was unwilling to date them because I knew my parents wouldn't approve (they were "liberal" which I am but back then despite my real beliefs and voting I identified as conservative lol). So anyyyyways, while I'm open to dating both men and women, I'd prefer to date a bisexual man vs straight man. Ugh it feels kinda wrong saying that, but it's where I feel safest atm.For what it's worth I have the same filters set for women, that just isn't part of this question. So....bisexual men....where are you? 😆

Hi guys, I have a business with multiple GBPs for a service area based business. There are seriously 7 GBPs, and 6 of them go to the same domain (UTMs setup but still!). Most of them show the same services and same service areas. Organic leads have slowed since the most recent core update, and I have the strong suspicion that our multiple profile strategy is negatively impacting us. We have a physical HQ but that's it. My SEO agency noted that a couple of profiles need re-verification but frankly I think that will just trigger issues. But I'm curious what you all think, is it better or worse to continue this approach? If recommended to have one, how to go about merging that many profiles? I have worked at an agency where I've needed to merge 2 profiles and that was such a pain that I'm NERVOUS about attempting to merge that many. Thoughts?