u/historyforareason

It’s been a month since we broke up and I am in pieces. Everyday I’m breaking down and it feels like it’s getting worse and worse and I miss him more and more everyday. It doesn’t feel like those posts about feeling better after breaking up and I hate to admit that but it doesn’t. It feels like now I gave him a free pass to do whatever he wants and even do it physically with another person. I’m so alone and I’m so heart broken. It felt good at first but it doesn’t anymore

It’s been a month since we broke up and I am in pieces. Everyday I’m breaking down and it feels like it’s getting worse and worse and I miss him more and more everyday. It doesn’t feel like those posts about feeling better after breaking up and I hate to admit that but it doesn’t. It feels like now I gave him a free pass to do whatever he wants and even do it physically with another person. I’m so alone and I’m so heart broken. It felt good at first but it doesn’t anymore

My boyfriend 23M and I 23F have only officially been broken up for 2 days, although we’d known for about 2 months that this was going to happen.

We were together for 4 years, and the breakup was because of repeated betrayal, lying, and his porn use. I spent 3 years waiting for him to stop and believing things would change, but they never did. I eventually decided that ending the relationship had to be the consequence of his choices because I couldn’t keep accepting the same cycle.

Originally, when he wanted to stay in contact, I said no because I thought it would make moving on impossible. But somehow we’ve ended up texting every day anyway, and now I find myself being the one reaching out most of the time.

I keep wanting to tell him about my day or send him things that remind me of him because that’s what I’ve done for years. But at the same time, I’m worried I’m completely undermining the reason I left in the first place. If we’re talking all the time, is he really experiencing the consequence of losing the relationship? And am I making it impossible for myself to move forward? I still love him so much and it still feels more like the consequence of his actions are affecting ME more than him. Like they always have.

My boyfriend and I have only officially been broken up for 2 days, although we’d known for about 2 months that this was going to happen.

The breakup was because of repeated betrayal, lying, and his porn use. I spent 3 years waiting for him to stop and believing things would change, but they never did. I eventually decided that ending the relationship had to be the consequence of his choices because I couldn’t keep accepting the same cycle.

Originally, when he wanted to stay in contact, I said no because I thought it would make moving on impossible. But somehow we’ve ended up texting every day anyway, and now I find myself being the one reaching out most of the time.

I keep wanting to tell him about my day or send him things that remind me of him because that’s what I’ve done for years. But at the same time, I’m worried I’m completely undermining the reason I left in the first place. If we’re talking all the time, is he really experiencing the consequence of losing the relationship? And am I making it impossible for myself to heal?

Has anyone else been through something similar? Did staying in contact help, or did you eventually realise you needed no contact?

My boyfriend and I have only officially been broken up for 2 days, although we’d known for about 2 months that this was going to happen.

I spent 3 years waiting for him to stop and seek real help to stop his addiction, believing things would change, but they never did. I eventually decided that ending the relationship had to be the consequence of his choices because I couldn’t keep accepting the same cycle.

Originally, when he wanted to stay in contact, I said no because I thought it would make moving on impossible. But somehow we’ve ended up texting every day anyway, and now I find myself being the one reaching out most of the time.

I keep wanting to tell him about my day or send him things that remind me of him because that’s what I’ve done for years. But at the same time, I’m worried I’m completely undermining the reason I left in the first place. If we’re talking all the time, is he really experiencing the consequence of losing the relationship? And am I making it impossible for myself to heal? I just can’t stop feeling like the world is ending when I don’t speak to him. I still love him and this almost feels like I’m suffering the consequences of his actions and he isn’t because he still has access to me.

Has anyone else been through something similar? Did staying in contact help, or did you eventually realise you needed no contact?

I broke up with him but we are under the same lease until June 10th so we’re just acting like normal and both understand we’re breaking up after the lease ends. I had a gut feeling today and was tryna be jokey saying I know he’s still using even tho I haven’t been checking his phone. He kept denying but eventually gave in and said fine ur right.

I just don’t rlly know what to feel I feel sad but not rlly but also yes dygm? Idk how to feel knowing he’s still using even tho this is the last month of me ever being in his life. Idk.

Edit: obviously I knew cuz I can tell when he is and when he isn’t but it just feels weird knowing for certain. It solidifies the breakup in my mind more which is good but idk how I feel