Hello.
I’ve tore twice, 3rd degrees tears although the first was 2nd degree or 3rd degree they weren’t sure.
I know it’s a Big severe tear. I’m recovering fine thankfully. I’m about 4 months post partum.
I just don’t want a major surgery. Anyone can share if they had a third vaginal birth?
Hello
What do you guys do if you have been in similar situation if you know now after having your second child you want a big family. I grew up 1 of 3.
I thought I wanted three but now that my sister has 4, and seeing her life (chaotic busy but fun) I love the equalness and the dynamic.
My husband gets shocked and says, ‘ life would all be about kids and nothing else’ which I agree.. to an extent- our life is already about kids? But I love that! I’m living life with him and our kids!
I don’t want to regret not having kids. I don’t know it gave my life meaning. Maybe cause they’re too young and cute. They get teenagery but come back again around their 20s and forever after that.
What did you guys do?
Hi everyone,
I have an almost 3 year age gap between my two. But I desperately wished we had a 2 year gap.
No big deal right? I just feel so sad when I think my second could have been 1 years old right now playing with my 3 year old. My 3 year old constantly loves someone to play with, which I do, although I’m not always ‘on the go’ mode to play. They could be interacting having that constant companionship and peer like playmate, like Bluey and bingo.
I feel as though this extra year makes it harder for them to ‘grow up together’ like besties. My childhood wasn’t awesome, it was quite lonely so i desperately want my child’s childhood to be great. I feel so so regretful. I literally delayed having a second for my studies. I wish someone told me how much I’d regret this…
If I just had wanted two kids, I think having them closer together like 2 -2.5 years would be ideal.
Now more so, I want a third but closer together but it still makes me sad for my first? He doesn’t have a peer like playmate as everyone else I see does.
Also, I know closer together is hard in the beginning but pays off a lot later, which I love. Right now the 3 year gap is pretty easy.
Also, chat gpt keeps saying 3 year gap is more of a “ leader/mentor” where as 2 years is more “ peer like companion” which I love SO much better.
I always wanted a peer growing up in my sibling.
Anyways, anyone been through anything like this? I just can’t seem to get over this ‘number’… which I know I need to.