u/hot_front007

Just curious!

A few weeks ago, I made a post here sharing some details about my past. The comments were super mixed, some nice, some neutral, and some were honestly pretty negative, judgmental, or just full of attitude.

But here is the hilarious part.

Lately, some of those exact same guys who left those negative remarks (not all of them, but a few) are now sliding into my DMs. Suddenly, they want to take me out for coffee, go on exclusive hangouts, or even go on trips together.

Like... what?

If that desperate, date-seeking person is who you actually are on the inside, why act like a judgmental, genuine soul in public just to impress the comment section? It is wild to me how fast the energy changes the moment they get into private messages.

Has anyone else experienced this weird flip-flop? Why do some guys do this?

A few days ago, I posted here asking for advice on whether I should share my past sexual history with my future husband. While the public response was largely negative, a few individuals took the time to message me privately with genuine advice, though some of those DMs weren't entirely polite.

On top of that, posts from this subreddit are now being screenshotted and posted on Facebook by some people in a sarcastic way. It feels incredibly immature as what happens on Reddit should stay on Reddit. The platform exists so people can anonymously seek advice, opinions, or open discussions, provided it stays within the subreddit rules.

Regarding my original post, I have deeply reflected on everything and truly realize that what I did was wrong. I want to formally apologize to the individuals I replied to rudely in the comment section. If possible, please pardon me for my immature behavior.

I know that someone with a painful past like mine struggles to live up to expectations or live a normal life. I have come to realize that I will inevitably face the Kifarah for my actions, unless I deeply remorse and perform Tawbah before the Almighty. I deeply regret everything I have done in my past, but I sincerely hope I can heal, grow, and eventually move forward to build a happy, peaceful family in the future.

Looking back, I think I actually needed to hear those harsh comments, they sent a genuine shiver down my spine. They made me realize that I need to cultivate humility, speak only when necessary, and devote myself completely to a religious path.

Thank you, everyone, for all of your comments, and I am deeply sorry for how I handled things.

F22-year-old undergraduate student at a reputed private university. Looking back to about two years ago, I used to do sex cam services, spend entire nights, and go on trips purely for my sex and pleasure.

The most notable thing about this phase is that I never did any of this for money or financial need. My drive was purely personal enjoyment, self-expression, and celebrating my physical form. Did it simply because it gave me so much pleasure at the time. I've always taken a lot of pride in maintaining my health, body, and figure, and that played a big part in it.

Unlike many people who look back on past sexual exploration with guilt, I choose not to carry regret. I accept my history for what it is as what’s done is done, and those days were exciting, memorable, and part of my journey.

However, I keep wondering, will this severely affect my future husband if he finds out? Is it better to be completely honest and tell him myself, or keep it in the past? What happens if he eventually learns about it from others?

Would appreciate genuine thoughts, advice, or perspectives. Thank you.

1. Age, Gender and Height:

22, Female, 5'4"

2. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect:

23–28

3. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?

Currently living in Dhaka. I am open to relocating if it is the right person and circumstances. But not ABROAD.

4. Nationality:

Bangladeshi.

5. Marital Status:

Single, never married.

6. Ideal Marriage Timeline:

Within 2–3 years, In Sha Allah.

7. About Me:

I am currently pursuing a BSS degree. I come from a close-knit family of four consisting of my father, mother, my younger sister, and me. Family is very important to me, and I value kindness, respect, and honest communication.

I also take pride in taking care of myself. I have an attractive, feminine figure and I put consistent effort into maintaining my health, fitness, and appearance. While I know nobody is perfect, I always strive to look and feel my best through a healthy lifestyle, self-care, and confidence.

Like many people, I have made mistakes in my past. There was a period in my life when I was involved in things I am not proud of. I have sincerely moved on from that chapter through personal growth, self-reflection, and a stronger commitment to living a healthier and more meaningful life. I now believe marriage is the best way to build a stable, healthy, and fulfilling life with the right person. I hope to build a relationship based on trust, respect, loyalty, and mutual support.

To know more we talk in the DMs.

8. Five Important Characteristics I Look for in a Prospect:

- Kind and respectful.

- Honest and trustworthy.

- Emotionally mature.

- Family-oriented.

- Responsible and willing to grow together.

9. State/Specify Your Level of Religiosity:

I try my best to practice my faith and continue improving myself. I value sincerity over perfection.

10. Level of Education, and What Are You Looking For?

Currently studying for a BSS degree. I would prefer someone with at least a bachelor's degree or equivalent education.

11. Current Job Status:

Full-time student.

12. Do You Want Kids?

Yes, In Sha Allah.

13. List 3 Hobbies or Things You Like to Do in Your Spare Time:

- Reading histories.

- Watching animes, reading mangas and manhwas.

- Watching movies and listening to music.

14. Add Something Short and Interesting About You That Makes You Stand Out!

I believe people should be judged by who they are today, not solely by who they were yesterday. Personal growth is something I value deeply, and I believe everyone deserves a chance to become a better version of themselves.

15. What Are You Looking for in a Man?

I am looking for someone who is sincere, emotionally mature, respectful. I appreciate someone who communicates openly, values family, and understands that everyone has a past but what truly matters is the effort to become a better person. I hope to find a partner with whom I can build a peaceful, loving, and lifelong marriage based on trust, compassion, mutual respect, and unwavering loyalty.

16. Preferred Method of Contact:

Open to Reddit DMs.

1. Age, Gender and Height:

22, Female, 5'4"

2. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect:

22–29 (Flexible)

3. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?

Currently living in Bangladesh. I'm open to relocating if it is the right decision for both families.

4. Nationality:

Bangladeshi

5. Marital Status:

Single, never married.

6. Ideal Marriage Timeline:

Within the next 2–4 years, or sooner if Allah wills and we find the right match.

7. About Me:

I'm currently pursuing a BSS and enjoy living a simple, balanced life. My family is very important to me, and I value kindness, honesty, respect, and good manners. I prefer meaningful conversations over unnecessary drama and believe a peaceful home is built on mutual understanding and support.

In terms of appearance, I'm 5'4" with a healthy and fit physique. I take good care of myself and maintain a neat, feminine, and presentable appearance. I have clear skin, naturally dark hair, expressive eyes, and a warm smile. While I'm not extremely fair-skinned, I have a pleasant complexion and believe confidence, good character, and taking care of oneself are what truly make a person attractive.

8. Five Important Characteristics I Look for in a Prospect:

Kind and respectful.

Honest and emotionally mature.

Family-oriented.

Educated and hardworking.

Good communication skills.

9. State/Specify Your Level of Religiosity:

I try my best to practice Islam and continue improving myself. My faith is important to me, and I hope to build a home where Islamic values are respected.

10. Level of Education, and What Are You Looking For?

Currently studying BSS. I would prefer someone who is pursuing or has completed a university degree.

11. Current Job Status:

Full-time student.

12. Do You Want Kids?

Yes, In Sha Allah.

13. List 3 Hobbies:

Watching documentaries.

Travelling and exploring new places.

Watching anime and reading manga.

14. Add Something Short and Interesting About You That Makes You Stand Out:

I'm a simple person who appreciates the little things in life. I believe kindness and a positive attitude make someone truly beautiful.

15. What Are You Looking for in a Man?

I'm looking for someone who is responsible, respectful, family-oriented, and serious about marriage. I appreciate a man who is ambitious, emotionally mature, and willing to grow together through every stage of life. Mutual respect, trust, loyalty, and good communication are qualities I value the most.

16. Preferred Method of Contact:

Please send me a respectful Reddit DM with a brief introduction if you think we might be compatible.

1. Age, Gender and Height:

23, Male, 5'6"

2. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect:

18–24 (Flexible if we are compatible)

3. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?

Currently living in Dhaka. I'm open to relocating if it aligns with my career and family responsibilities.

4. Nationality:

Bangladeshi

5. Marital Status:

Single, Never Married

6. Ideal Marriage Timeline:

Within the next 2–5 years, or sooner if Allah wills and I find the right person.

7. About Me:

Assalamu Alaikum.

I'm currently studying Law at a reputable private university and have the long-term goal of becoming a Judge. My studies and future career are very important to me, and I strive to improve myself both academically and personally.

I come from a close-knit, well-reputed family of four: my father, mother, elder sister, and me. Family means a great deal to me, and I believe in maintaining strong family ties built on love, respect, and responsibility.

Religion is an important part of my life. While I am not perfect, I sincerely try to keep Allah at the center of my decisions and continue improving my relationship with Him. I value honesty, humility, kindness, patience, and integrity, and I hope to carry these values into my marriage.

Outside of academics, I enjoy reading and learning about law, history, and other subjects and hobbies. I believe that marriage is a partnership where both spouses support each other in their deen, personal growth, and life's challenges.

I know I'm not established yet. But I'm working hard to become the person I desire to be.

8. Five Important Characteristics I Look for in a Prospect:

• Islamic values and sincere commitment to her faith.

• Kind, respectful, and emotionally mature.

• Honest, humble, and trustworthy.

• Values family and is willing to build a peaceful home together.

• Supportive of each other's personal, educational, and career aspirations.

9. State/Specify Your Level of Religiosity:

Practicing Muslim. I strive to fulfill my religious obligations, continuously improve myself, and keep Allah in mind when making important decisions.

10. Level of Education, and What Are You Looking For?

Currently pursuing an LL.B., I prefer someone who is pursuing or has completed higher education, though good character and behavior matter more than qualifications.

11. Current Job Status:

Law Student. Will soon pursue a career as a Court Apprentice Lawyer.

12. Do You Want Kids?

Yes, In Sha Allah.

13. List 3 Hobbies, or Things You Like to Do in Your Spare Time:

• Reading about law, history, and current affairs.

• Learning new things and improving myself.

• Watching football.

14. Add Something Short and Interesting About You That Makes You Stand Out!

My dream is to serve my country through the judiciary. I hope to become a Judge and uphold justice with fairness, integrity, and compassion. Though you may find it funny!

15. What Are You Looking for in a Woman?

I'm looking for a practicing Muslimah who values her religion, has good character, and believes that marriage is a partnership built on love, mercy, trust, and mutual respect. I hope to find someone who is willing to grow together in both deen and dunya, support each other's goals, communicate openly, and build a peaceful home centered around Islamic and modern values.

16. Preferred Method of Contact:

Please send me a Reddit DM with a brief introduction about yourself if you're interested. If we feel we're compatible, we can meet, then involve our families and continue in a respectful and halal manner, In Sha Allah.