u/hotlocococoa

Sat Sri Akaal ji,

Please forgive me if I am wrong for asking a question like this, but I am just a little curious. My relatives from Punjab, in particular the women and young girls, seem to have a very strong attachment to Baba Deep Singh Ji. There are 2 in particular who will post daily WhatsApp status’ about (for?) him. I’ve noticed this phenomenon grow stronger in recent years. Even my own mum is similar. I just want to ask for some context to this please. Of course there is nothing wrong with this and I am not saying this from a judgemental perspective, I’m just curious. Thank you

Hi,

My sweet girl is now 2.5 months old and I am ever increasingly growing guilty. It started whilst I was pregnant, but I reassured myself that I would be enough for her, that I would take care of her through life’s hardships. But it’s starting to dawn on me that the world is just not in a good place. From climate changes to the current political atmosphere, even the increase of litter where I live (which I try to help with as much as I can), it highlights how different the world is compared to just 20 years ago. I’m riddled with fear for my innocent baby who I chose to bring into this broken world.

A part of me regrets my decisions in the last couple years, from marriage to having a child. I feel ashamed to admit it, but I don’t know what I was thinking. I believed myself to be a rational person, someone that considers the wider picture, but in these instances I was not.

I am fearful for the way things are going, especially where I live. I’m part of a community that has been receiving a lot of backlash and hate, which is visible especially online. I feel worried whenever I leave the house, constantly on my best behaviour and watchful of others. Each time I question, is this how she’ll have to face the world as well?

I’m not sure what I’m searching for by posting this, but I needed to let these thoughts out. My immediate circle of people are oblivious to these issues, they’re also religious and I know their response would be to just trust god. Does anyone have any advice? Thank you.

Update: I just wanted to say thank you for the thoughtful and kind responses. I am sorry if I don’t get around to replying properly, but I completely agree about raising caring and respectful children. I plan to ensure my child is aware of taking care of people and this world. I agree it’s not all doom and gloom and I should probably take a break from social media. Thank you again to the community, your kids are lucky to have you as parents ❤️

Hi everyone,

Firstly just wanted to say I love this subreddit, I hope it doesn't disappear like the previous one lol. I made a similar post on the old sub asking for advice, apologies if this is repetitive. I'm posting again because my situation has not changed.

My husband is from Punjab, and I'm born and raised in the UK. He's currently living here - moved here on a spouse visa and is finding it difficult to adjust to life because the kind of jobs available are not his cup of tea. It is hard, and I completely understand his situation, he wants a better life and sees people struggling and thinks there's no hope here. His relatives in Canada discuss their salaries and are persistent we will both earn more over there, they live in Brampton, I won't disclose their jobs but they are the typical jobs that Punjabi's who move to Canada do. My husband sees that they're doing well for themselves and compares our situation to theirs (he's only been here a year). They're telling him that it's easy for me to get PR and that he will get it through me...

I personally see this as a huge risk, from what I read online it's not exactly a utopia over there in terms of jobs, but they are convinced I will be on a significantly better salary. And just like the UK, immigration is not really being seen in a positive light right now. There are a lot of other factors dissuading me, can anyone shed some light on this? Let me know if you need any further info.

Hi,

I’m on the brink of tears…

I feel like the worst person, I just realised I’ve been breastfeeding (BF) my beautiful baby girl wrong. She’s 1 month old and today her feeds were a bit of a struggle so I googled ‘correct BF positions’ and I realised I haven’t been positioning her arms correctly 😢 I’ve been doing it how they showed me at the hospital, but I was so out of it and perhaps I haven’t been remembering properly. Her little arm closest to my body is supposed to be tucked under the breast on my ribcage, but I’ve been keeping it straight against me, known as “pinning” (I think). Which can make the baby feel uncomfortable and trapped. I’m so stupid. Right now I’m holding her close because I don’t want her to feel unsafe with me.

Will she be okay? I’m not sure if I’ve even explained myself properly. I’m a FTM. Please let me know if I need to do anything or look out for any other signs. I plan on educating myself more for sure.