Regret inviting my mom to live with me
She was unsafe where she was living (it was a low income neighborhood. She lived by herself and worked. She’s past retirement so I offered her room in my home and my husband agreed. She has now retired.
I can tell she’s depressed and she calls my estranged sister and my brother in law a lot (the one that doesn’t want her to live with them) yesterday she sent pics of our group picture (my husband, baby and i) on our picnic to my estranged sister and brother in laws group chat and said she missed them. She also told me my husband had a come up on his career and I had a come down. Yes i sacrificed a lot for my husband’s success but he has since then taken care of me financially so i can focus on our baby.
My sister refuses to have people live with her so i just felt this responsibility when my dad passed to take in my mom. I thought we would become closer and be best friends and heal some trauma. To be fair my mom is open to having honest conversations but i feel like I have to tell her everyday to be mindful of the things she does or says to make our home feel like a safe environment. I don’t want to feel this regret and building resentment towards her.
What to do?