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Hi F21. As the title reads I have an extremely oily scalp and face. My scalp has always been oily but lately it has become worse. I tried “training” it but not washing it for days but it doesn’t help. For the face, I think I am doing everything right but still no change. I use a niacinamide facewash, use a green tea toner for everyday and use salicylic acid toner pads twice a week. I also use an oil cleanser. I use a gel non oily moisturiser. I don’t use a serum because it becomes too heavy. Even after using expensive products and going to the dermatologist several times there is no improvement. As soon I am done with the skincare my face is oily like greasy. My baby brother even jokes smtimes saying that I can make french fries with the amount of oil I have on my face and it’s not even a stretch. It has affected my self esteem for years. Please recommend me remedies or anything except for injections or surgeries I am down for anything at this point. Also I do eat healthy but feel free to tell me what to eat and what not to.

Hi F21. As the title reads I have an extremely oily scalp and face. My scalp has always been oily but lately it has become worse. I tried “training” it but not washing it for days but it doesn’t help. For the face, I think I am doing everything right but still no change. I use a niacinamide facewash, use a green tea toner for everyday and use salicylic acid toner pads twice a week. I also use an oil cleanser. I use a gel non oily moisturiser. I don’t use a serum because it becomes too heavy. Even after using expensive products and going to the dermatologist several times there is no improvement. As soon I am done with the skincare my face is oily like greasy. My baby brother even jokes smtimes saying that I can make french fries with the amount of oil I have on my face and it’s not even a stretch. It has affected my self esteem for years. Please recommend me remedies or TCM or anything except for injections or surgeries I am down for anything at this point. Also I do eat healthy but feel free to tell me what to eat and what not to.

Hi, F21 here.
A few months ago, let's call him "Matt" and I started dating. I wouldn't even call it a full-blown relationship.we were still in the very early stages. The funny part is that he was the one pursuing me. I rejected him for months because I wasn't interested, but eventually I gave in. People kept telling me he was such a nice guy, and I thought, "Why not give him a chance?"
Biggest mistake of my life.
Honestly, I started seeing red flags within the first month. Looking back, I don't know whether it was because I never truly liked him or because he genuinely was a walking collection of terrible personality traits. Either way, he gave me the biggest ick imaginable.

1. The pathological lying
   This man would tell the most random made-up stories about his life. Most of the time I could tell he was lying, but I never called him out because I didn't want to embarrass him.
   One day he told me this dramatic story about something that happened to him. Halfway through, I realized it was literally the plot of a movie. Not inspired by it. Not similar to it. The exact plot. Scene for scene. Dialogue for dialogue.The second-hand embarrassment was painful.
2. The imaginary gifts
   I'm not a very materialistic person. In fact, I hate receiving gifts from men I barely know because sometimes people use them against you later.
   But do you know what's even worse?
   Someone constantly telling you they bought you gifts and then never actually giving them to you.
   This man did it ALL THE TIME.
   One Christmas he told me he'd bought me a capybara plushie. He hyped it up for weeks. I LOVE capybaras. I was genuinely excited.
   Did I ever receive this plushie?
   No.
   And that wasn't even a one-time thing. It happened repeatedly.
   What annoyed me wasn't the lack of gifts. It's that he expected praise and appreciation for things he never actually did.
3. Everything was about him
   Whenever I talked about a problem I was having, he would cut me off halfway through and say things like:
   "That's nothing. I have it worse."
   Every. Single. Time.
   He constantly talked about himself, bragged about himself, and somehow managed to turn every conversation back to himself.
   He was also incredibly insecure and constantly fished for compliments. I complimented him regularly because I knew he struggled with self-esteem, but eventually it became exhausting.
   The weirdest part?Whenever I mentioned being good at something, he'd immediately make fun of me or try to put me down. It felt like he couldn't stand the idea of me being confident about anything.
4. The K-pop disrespect
   I'm a huge K-pop fan.
   This man would constantly call my favorite idols "gay" or "girly" as if those were insults.
   I tried explaining why those comments were ignorant and disrespectful. Multiple times.
   He didn't care.
   He genuinely seemed to think being disrespectful made him look cool or masculine.
   Spoiler alert: it didn't.
   It just made him look immature. 5. How he treated service workers
   This was probably one of the biggest red flags.
   He believed people in certain jobs were somehow beneath him.
   Whenever our food was late, he'd get rude with waiters and staff. Sometimes he'd outright raise his voice at them.
   It was so embarrassing.
   We argued about it multiple times. He'd apologize, promise to change, and then do it again the next week.
   At some point I realized this wasn't a mistakeit was just who he was.
   Honestly, I could write an entire novel about this man and his behavior. These are only a few examples. It's hard to fully explain how exhausting it was because some people are the type you only truly understand after experiencing them firsthand.
   Anyway, sorry for the long post. English isn't my first language, so apologies for any mistakes.
   If anyone wants more stories, feel free to ask in the comments because trust me, I have plenty.

Hii!!! I don’t know where to start so I’ll just go on. So a lil back story. I have had a crush on this guy for almost 3 years now. We’re classmates and I don’t think I’ve crushed on someone this much. The thought of not having him around physically aches me. Corny right. But it is what it is. We are about to graduate in 2 months and after that I don’t think we will be able to see each other ever again. How do I tell him I like him w/o being a weirdo?? Please help. About our dynamic, we are JUST classmates. We talk and joke around in group settings only. I have texted him multiple times regarding homeworks or some school related stuff just so he would save my no. Or smthg. He also texts me about school stuffs. But I don’t think he has my no. Saved🥲. We never hangout or joke around one on one. We aren’t even friends. We barely speak to each other BUTTTTTT we have photos literally locking arms😆. Multipleeeeeeee!!!! I have never hinted that I like him or something. I act very nonchalant around him. He does the same. I don’t think he likes me like that. In fact I feel like he hates me🙂. There’s no reason to feel this way but I just feel like it.
I promised myself that I will start dating only if I have a stable career or a source of income that’s why I haven’t dated anyone for almost 4 years. At first I thought it was a mild crush and never gave it a thought but as I got to know him more through people and through group interactions, he’s a really nice guy. Just my type. Personality wise also very nice. Athletic. Cute. Nice to people.I am friends with almost all of his friends but I am really nervous around him. Nobody knows that I like him but my friends and including his says we look cute together even though we act so nonchalant around each other. He doesn’t follow me on social media although his friends does🙂. They have my no. But he haven’t even saved it🙂. Also one of his bestfriends asked me out during our 1st sem (I said no) sooooo idk what to do. He’s been on my mind 24/7 and I don’t think I should give up on something that runs on my mind every second of the day. Anyways all and any help would be appreciated. Guys u can be painfully truthful. I would love hearing the truth and real perspective rather than things that are not true. 🫶🏻