My mom has always took me and my sister photos after 1am but now i am 17 and i am questioning is it normal and if actually other people suffer from that ? And i can’t take it to school either ?
I’m 17 now, but this started when I was 14 in 9th grade.
A guy texted me out of nowhere. He happened to be the son of my favorite teacher. He was really interesting, really good-looking, and he was my very first talking stage. I became extremely attached to him. Looking back, I think I was way more invested than he ever was.
The first week was amazing. He seemed genuinely interested in me. But after that, I noticed I was always the one texting first, and he slowly started losing interest. Around that time I was already struggling with maladaptive daydreaming. Every time I had a crush, I would spend hours pacing around my room, running in circles, imagining fake conversations and scenarios. It actually started back in 6th grade, but this was the first time it became really intense.
Eventually he started hinting that he liked another girl. I later found out who she was, and she was really pretty. At the time I was obese, insecure, and had no idea how to dress or make the most of my appearance, so I compared myself to her constantly.
Then my mom found out we were talking and broke my phone. There wasn’t anything inappropriate in our messages, but I told him what happened because I genuinely couldn’t text him anymore. Later I found out he had laughed about it with his classmates and was saying I was the one who texted him first (which wasn’t even true—he texted me first).
When I heard that, I confronted him. I tried to act like I didn’t care, laughed it off, and even told him everything I’d ever said was fake. The last thing he said to me was, “Now I know why everyone hates you.”
It’s been almost three years.
The thing is… I don’t even want him back. I’ve talked to other guys, I’ve been in relationships, and I’ve had plenty of attention since then. I also never even met him in person.
But I still think about him almost every day.
Not because I miss him, but because I constantly imagine scenarios where he sees me now, realizes I’ve changed, thinks I’m beautiful or funny, regrets what happened, or finally admires me. Sometimes I catch myself smiling, laughing, or acting out those imaginary conversations while pacing around my room.
It feels like my brain is completely stuck on this one person, even though logically I know he has probably moved on with his life years ago.
I think what I’m really chasing isn’t him—it’s the feeling of finally being admired by the person who made me feel so insignificant when I was 14.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? Especially if you have maladaptive daydreaming? How did you finally let go of that one person who became “unfinished business” in your mind?