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Salam sisters!
Alhamdulillah I became a Muslim almost 3 months ago. I’ve been so happy, I’m very very happy I made this decision.
But I’m struggling with the 5 prayers and idk how to get better.

I take Arabic/basic Islamic classes with my local Imam and we’re just finishing Al Fatiha, Monday we’ll practice the last line. I like praying, when I’m there in the moment, but it’s a huge routine change for me.
I was “catholic” before but spent the last 8 years I think, without praying. Like at all. I didn’t even consider myself a catholic for the majority of the time.
So going from 0 praying (even as a catholic) to 5x a day is overwhelming. Tbh even once a day I struggle.

I can’t wake up for Fajr, then for the 2 next ones I’m at work, where nobody knows I’m a Muslim. Then Maghrib and Isha I’m just… too tired or lazy. Doing wudu is a struggle also.
Some days I’m able to do Asr, Maghrib and Isha. I’ve never done Fajr.

Anyways, I know we shouldn’t air out our harams lol but I want help and advice on how to navigate this. I make dua and ask for Allah swt to make it easy for me to pray but I understand I also have to try harder, and I’m not trying.

I also want to make a habit of saying Bismillah before eating and other things but again, it’s something so simple yet so hard to do/make a habit of.

If anyone has ideas and tips and advices, please share them with me.

May Allah swt bless each and every one of you!

Salam everyone.

To my revert sisters, how did you tell your family about your upcoming marriage to a Muslim man? Did you tell them at all? If you did, how was their reaction? What and how did you do it?

Context:
I’m a revert, late 20s F. My family is catholic, they already know I’m a Muslim and my dad + his family are very supportive. My mom + her family, however, not so much.
I have been talking to a Muslim coworker for marriage, he spoke with my dad and more recently we had a call with my mom and my step dad, just out of respect, he wanted them to meet him etc.

They were respectful, cautious but respectful. They said they would support me if that’s what makes me happy but I know they’re not happy with my decisions. My mom especially, she’s very catholic and is struggling with my change of religion.

Well, I decided I want to go through with the Nikah, we picked a date and his parents approved of the date as well. Alhamdulillah everything is great, everyone happy, now I just need to tell my mom lol

We don’t even live in the same country so there’s no “real consequences” for me I guess, but I love my mom very much! I think she’ll stop talking to me once I tell her. I ask Allah every day to make things easy for me and to soften her heart. She naturally struggles with accepting things I do in life, but I know this time is a bit different.

I even considered not telling her at all, only until after the fact, but my future husband disagrees. He thinks she’ll be more upset if she finds out after, and that I need to be honest. I agree with him, I’m just scared 😂🫣 I also feel ashamed for being nervous and scared of telling my mom this, as an almost 30yo independent woman.

I will have my nikkah in 2 months InshaAllah! Very excited for it, I found an amazing man and I’m happy to start life with him.
However, as a revert, I don’t fully know how these things work.
What do I need to do before the nikkah? How to plan it? Is there really a contract that I need to make?

The nikkah will be simple with just his family, since mine doesn’t live in the US and they don’t support it (me reverting and the marriage).
We’re waiting to hear back from the masjid to confirm the date, and then we’ll start planning for real but I’d like to get ahead and at least do my research first. Everything I found online is very vague, but I’ve never seen a Nikkah before, I don’t know how it is or what is done.

I’d like to hear from fellow sisters, if you’re a revert marrying/who married a born Muslim, even better.

Thank you

Salam sisterssss
I’m a new revert and very nervous for the upcoming summer 😅 and I’m sure I’m not the only one. I grew up wearing shorts and tank tops, and summer dresses, and I’m just kinda lost on what to do this summer. I’ve been a Muslim for a month now so everything is super new to me.

I want to start dressing more modestly already so I can get used to it, but it also feels like such a big jump for me. I want to do things slowly, I don’t even have money to change my wardrobe rn. But just thinking about wearing shorts makes me feel so guilty and wrong and sinful!!!

Like how can I make this easier? Is it ok with I wear shorts occasionally this summer? Or wear short sleeve shirts? By next summer I’ll be more used to it and more prepared too, but tbh becoming a Muslim was not on my bingo card for 2026 lol and I just feel so unprepared. I have a few abayas and scarves that I wear to the masjid but I don’t feel ready to wear those in public. I just learned how to pray using basic words (taking classes with my local Imam).
I want to control the things I can control such as clothing but like I said, I don’t have modest clothes and I don’t have the money to buy more. I can prob get 1 or 2 loose pants, or 1 pants and 1 loose long sleeve shirt… but that’s it for now, I’m going through a lot in my life and I can’t just spend money on clothing like that.
I feel guilty and I feel awful like I’m doing something horrible (and I haven’t even started wearing summer clothes cause it’s kinda cold here still, so I’m feeling awful for just having the thought of not dressing modestly soon lol anxious much????)

Anyways pls give advice on this. I’m trying to find some things on Shein cause it’s cheaper but they’re not THAT much cheaper either.
I just don’t wanna do the wrong thing for like 4 whole months. I don’t want Allah mad at me, and I feel like every time I wear something revealing I’ll have to repent and ask for forgiveness. Idk.
Anyways thank you