u/idkman8910

I will have my nikkah in 2 months InshaAllah! Very excited for it, I found an amazing man and I’m happy to start life with him.
However, as a revert, I don’t fully know how these things work.
What do I need to do before the nikkah? How to plan it? Is there really a contract that I need to make?

The nikkah will be simple with just his family, since mine doesn’t live in the US and they don’t support it (me reverting and the marriage).
We’re waiting to hear back from the masjid to confirm the date, and then we’ll start planning for real but I’d like to get ahead and at least do my research first. Everything I found online is very vague, but I’ve never seen a Nikkah before, I don’t know how it is or what is done.

I’d like to hear from fellow sisters, if you’re a revert marrying/who married a born Muslim, even better.

Thank you

Salam sisterssss
I’m a new revert and very nervous for the upcoming summer 😅 and I’m sure I’m not the only one. I grew up wearing shorts and tank tops, and summer dresses, and I’m just kinda lost on what to do this summer. I’ve been a Muslim for a month now so everything is super new to me.

I want to start dressing more modestly already so I can get used to it, but it also feels like such a big jump for me. I want to do things slowly, I don’t even have money to change my wardrobe rn. But just thinking about wearing shorts makes me feel so guilty and wrong and sinful!!!

Like how can I make this easier? Is it ok with I wear shorts occasionally this summer? Or wear short sleeve shirts? By next summer I’ll be more used to it and more prepared too, but tbh becoming a Muslim was not on my bingo card for 2026 lol and I just feel so unprepared. I have a few abayas and scarves that I wear to the masjid but I don’t feel ready to wear those in public. I just learned how to pray using basic words (taking classes with my local Imam).
I want to control the things I can control such as clothing but like I said, I don’t have modest clothes and I don’t have the money to buy more. I can prob get 1 or 2 loose pants, or 1 pants and 1 loose long sleeve shirt… but that’s it for now, I’m going through a lot in my life and I can’t just spend money on clothing like that.
I feel guilty and I feel awful like I’m doing something horrible (and I haven’t even started wearing summer clothes cause it’s kinda cold here still, so I’m feeling awful for just having the thought of not dressing modestly soon lol anxious much????)

Anyways pls give advice on this. I’m trying to find some things on Shein cause it’s cheaper but they’re not THAT much cheaper either.
I just don’t wanna do the wrong thing for like 4 whole months. I don’t want Allah mad at me, and I feel like every time I wear something revealing I’ll have to repent and ask for forgiveness. Idk.
Anyways thank you