u/ikissedasaguaro

La Rosa or The Playground? Which one will be more fun // have more space // best food and drinks?

and not just your own problems?

I've stuck it out in my current city for 5-6 years, changed housing once, have worked a few jobs here and stayed until I got my RN and some nursing experience under my belt. This place checks a lot of boxes but I have just never been able to feel like it's the right place for me. I've dated a bunch but have not had a long-term relationship since I moved here, and have made very few solid friendships despite having sought out social events, hobbies, volunteer work etc. I've moved a lot (and sometimes hastily) in the past so that makes me wary of just blaming the place, especially since I have some family nearby and financially/careerwise staying put could benefit me, but I'm 37 now and scared of wasting the rest of my 30s in a place I feel stagnant and unhappy.

How do you truly know it's time to move on from a place versus trying to work through less-than-ideal circumstances?

I started going to a therapist around November of last year due to feeling increasingly frustrated and stagnant in my life with very little social network. This is the only therapist I've been to aside from a couple of visits as a child/teenager. We have done appointments about 2-3 times a month. I haven't felt like it has been helping much... occasionally it is nice to vent to someone but we haven't really gone any deeper than what I'd talk about with my close friends. My therapist is often asking me the same insignificant questions and just tends to make suggestions on things I could do to meet more people. He doesn't seem to be hearing me that I go out of my comfort zone a ton and have consistently made efforts to get out and into hobbies and traveling, I just feel like something way deeper is blocking my ability to form new relationships and feel happiness in my life. He also kinda tries to talk me out of my feelings a bit and always turns the conversation back to if I'm using dating apps or not. I want a therapist, not a dating coach, but now I am wondering if talk therapy is really the ideal modality for me at all. Should I look for a similar therapist (licensed counselor) or a practitioner of some other modality such as EMDR?

I started going to a therapist around November of last year due to feeling increasingly frustrated and stagnant in my life with very little social network. This is the only therapist I've been to aside from a couple of visits as a child/teenager. We have done appointments about 2-3 times a month. I haven't felt like it has been helping much... occasionally it is nice to vent to someone but we haven't really gone any deeper than what I'd talk about with my close friends. My therapist is often asking me the same insignificant questions and just tends to make suggestions on things I could do to meet more people. He doesn't seem to be hearing me that I go out of my comfort zone a ton and have consistently made efforts to get out and into hobbies and traveling, I just feel like something way deeper is blocking my ability to form new relationships and feel happiness in my life. He also kinda tries to talk me out of my feelings a bit and always turns the conversation back to if I'm using dating apps or not. I want a therapist, not a dating coach, but now I am wondering if talk therapy is really the ideal modality for me at all. Should I look for a similar therapist (licensed counselor) or a practitioner of some other modality such as EMDR?

So glad I spent twenty minutes on hold with TMC just to find out that they are not taking new patients for annuals and for problem visits they're booked out until the fall 🙄 Why does your website (and that of my insurance provider) say you're accepting new patients then??

I just need to establish care with a gyno and get a referral for my (overdue) mammo. Why's it gotta be so annoying.

Any recommendations for gynos who take Aetna?