u/ilovecheese31

29F, combined presentation ADHD (plus other things woo), diagnosed 3 months ago, medicated.

Just saw photos on social media from a birthday party that I wasn’t invited to. Although this woman was at my birthday party, I’m admittedly not super close with her and we don’t usually hang out outside of group settings, so yes, I do realize it’s irrational. I also realize I’m too old to care about something like this. And that I probably sound insane, and immature, and like an exhausting person to be around. And that it’s entirely possible she simply wanted to keep it small, had to keep it small for money reasons, only invited family and close friends, or some other explanation that isn’t about excluding me.

But does it still feel like middle school all over again? Yup. And it's not even really about this birthday party.

Just wanted to tell people who don’t know me but would understand. At least I hope you do. Not really looking for advice. Thanks for reading.

I haven’t seen the entire show yet, just S1 and half of S2. But I know the spoilers. I’m also not a doctor and not intending to come off as diagnosing fictional characters.

In that scene in the pilot where Lizzie is screaming and breaking things because she’s upset about being rejected by Rafael, I couldn’t help but think it seemed more like an autistic meltdown than a bipolar episode. A lot of her behaviour in that episode in particular stands out to me as being neurodivergent-coded, like saying inappropriate things and being extremely sensitive to rejection.

I really see a lot of my undiagnosed teenage self in her. I was diagnosed ADHD as an adult and I strongly suspect I’m also autistic but I’ll probably never get formally assessed. Her obsession with control and her own image remind me a lot of my own masking behaviours, especially when I was younger.

I can also see the Josie/Lizzie dynamic as paralleling the dynamics that often happen in families where one sibling is neurodivergent and has more visible symptoms and support needs while the other is either neurotypical or undiagnosed with lower support needs and higher masking.

Also, neurodivergence often runs in families and Kai reads as extremely ADHD-coded to me, which is probably because his actor has the diagnosis according to Wikipedia.

Bipolar disorder is a very common misdiagnosis for neurodivergent girls, especially ADHD because our hyperactivity and impulsivity can look similar to mania or hypomania. She says she doesn’t want to take her bipolar meds because she feels they don’t help her, which could potentially point towards it being a misdiagnosis. Granted, based on my very basic non-professional knowledge of bipolar (as in I’ve read a couple online articles, known a couple of people with it, and seen comments from bipolar people saying they don’t feel Lizzie’s portrayal is accurate), I really don’t think the writers researched it very well.

I’m so curious if anybody else sees it too.

As the flair says, I have Ultimate and not Legacy, in case that matters. I weirdly don’t seem to have Body Shop. I followed lots of different tutorials and tried lots of different searches, but I swear it is not in my game. Weirdly though, when I tried one of the installers, it said it was already downloaded. I’ve just been using non-Body Shop workarounds because my tech skills are just barely passable and I just don’t have the patience to figure it out right now lol.

I do have the fix for the broken face templates, but as you probably know, it doesn’t fix existing Sims. The Sim in question is a CAS Sim who might be my favourite I’ve ever created, and I didn’t realize she had that issue until I was playing around in CAS and tried aging her down. I don’t fully remember because I took a break from Sims for a while and she was created in 2023, but I am pretty sure she’s got a modified version of the 21st face template, or at least her nose is from that template. From what I can tell, it seems like it’s only really the nose that’s noticeably different when I change her age (and would therefore be different on any kids who inherit it), but it bugs me. I actually really like the hook nose (probably because it’s similar to my and my mom’s nose IRL lol) and I’d prefer not to wait until her descendants are adults to see it.

For all the premades with broken face templates, I ended up downloading the recreations of them from MTS and using SimPE to change their genetics. It doesn’t bug me that they might not be exact, but it would bug me if this CAS Sim wasn’t “exact.” Is there a way to fix her face genetics and have her/her descendants still look exactly the same as if the template had never been broken in the first place, without manually recreating her face and without using Body Shop?

Sorry if this is too rambly or doesn’t make sense, feel free to ask for clarification. My coffee hasn’t fully kicked in yet lol.

Update: Turns out I do have BodyShop. Thanks PoeticRoses!

I have 2 Romance Sims who are in love and happily living together, but still living their best hoe lives on the side LOL. I have ACR set so that jealousy only happens if the couple is engaged or married, so they are both fine with this and won’t consider it cheating. If they have a child together and the child sees one parent kissing someone else, will the child still get mad and consider it cheating even though the other parent doesn’t?